does anyone else feel uncomfortable about breast feeding their child? although i want to do whats best for my baby when its born i really really do not want to breast feed but i feel as though i am being a bad mum etc etc. i hate all the pressure there is out there over breastfeeding and the judgment over not doing it. if other mums want to do it then fine, that is their choice but i just dont want to. i dont want to sit there in front of other people and do it and inevitably there will be a time when you have no choice but to. nor do i want to be on demand like that, i want my husband to do his share of the feeds. i know expressing is an option but i dont want to do that either. although he wants to be supportiver my husband doesnt understand, he thinks i should 'talk to someone about it'. i feel really alone on this one.
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Oh hun you are definitly not alone, Plenty of mothers choose not to and I think it is discrasefull to be made feel guilty over it
I for one will be bottle feeding from day 1and will not be made feel bad over it, My mother bottle fed me from day 1 and I was never sick my whole childhood other than the regular chickenpox and the like
The formula milk is packed with vitamins and minerals for the babys development and I was actually told by a nurse that now days there isnt that big a befenit to BF over bottle anyway , Also you dont get a accurate idea how much your baby is drinking unless its expressed into a bottle to start with
If women decide its something they want then thats great for them but for those of us who dont I think we should be let make our decision withough lectures and dirty looks
I for one will be bottle feeding from day 1and will not be made feel bad over it, My mother bottle fed me from day 1 and I was never sick my whole childhood other than the regular chickenpox and the like
The formula milk is packed with vitamins and minerals for the babys development and I was actually told by a nurse that now days there isnt that big a befenit to BF over bottle anyway , Also you dont get a accurate idea how much your baby is drinking unless its expressed into a bottle to start with
If women decide its something they want then thats great for them but for those of us who dont I think we should be let make our decision withough lectures and dirty looks
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do whats right for you! If you dont want to breast feed then thats fine. Im the only one in my family and friends thats gonna give breastfeeding a shot its more common these days to bottle feed. A happy baby will have a happy mummy and if breastfeeding is not for you thats fine
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i want to bf but if i struggle or baby doesn't get enough i have no problems switching to formula.
I'm going to breastfeed the main factor i'm going to do it is because it tastes so much nicer! I wouldn't drink formula but i'd happily drink breast milk. But seriously it is YOUR choice! i have 2 sisters 1 breastfed and the other didn't!
With bottle fed babies the father can help out alot more which you know and they can have some bonding time!
With breastfeeding its just so much easier! You don't need bottles which need to be steralised its just there ready to go when your baby is hungry.
With bottle fed babies the father can help out alot more which you know and they can have some bonding time!
With breastfeeding its just so much easier! You don't need bottles which need to be steralised its just there ready to go when your baby is hungry.
I feel exactly the same. I'm much more comfortable with bottle feeding and want hubby to have some bonding time with LO. I have never wanted to breast feed and I'm a very maternal person that has always wanted kids. The babies that I know who have been breast fed are clingy to there mum and weaning has been a major problem where the bottle fed babies have been easier to wean and not clingy.
It's personal choice and NO ONE should be made to feel like a bad mother for choosing bottle over breast and the breastfeeding mafia (and I know a fee members) should keep their mouths shut and respect eery women's choice.
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It's personal choice and NO ONE should be made to feel like a bad mother for choosing bottle over breast and the breastfeeding mafia (and I know a fee members) should keep their mouths shut and respect eery women's choice.
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im planning on BF just cos its free. im on a budget here lol but if it dont work out i will formula feed and not feel bad about it, nowadays i dont think its such a big deal, i know bf gives the best start blah blah but medicine being what it is i dont think it makes over much difference anymore. im lazy and its free are my only reasons really lol
thanks everyone, i feel better hearing your thoughts. ive just head a good cry on the OH shoulders and he is more supportive now. what i hate is when you want to investigate the pros and cons of breastfeeding v bottle there is so much bias towards 'breast is best', rather than neutral, real, factual information about both so you can make an educated decision.
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i bottle fed my first and breast fed my second. i was pretty shocked how comfortable i was with breastfeeding, it came naturally after a bit. but i did start expressing so my husband could do some feeds, plus it made my boobs feel better. i would never critise anyone for not doing it. its a personal choice x
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Have you thought of bf for the first couple of weeks then moving to bottle so that hubby can help? The only reason I'm suggesting that is that lo will get your protective anti bodies from your first milk, it will help your uterus shrink back and you will lose a tonne of weight, also will save you a packet! Just a thought x
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Maybe you could try that then and get the best of both worlds? x
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Mine exactly if Im being completely honest lol!
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even just a week is fantastic ladies 
that first milk is SO good for babies, if you dont feel you can then dont feel forced too... but if possible and if it wont upset you too much, try and give it a go just for a couple of days or a week if you can xx
that first milk is SO good for babies, if you dont feel you can then dont feel forced too... but if possible and if it wont upset you too much, try and give it a go just for a couple of days or a week if you can xx
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I have no intentions of breast feeding my baby and knew that from the start. I unfortunately have a horrible midwife who thinks that its appalling that Im not even going to try, but saying that she was anti against me riding and looking after my horses and still doing stuff on our farm and that was all right at the begining. I have only seen them once since and the one I saw last week was really nice, she even said if i feel comfortable and im not stupid then she is happy for me to ride if im up to it. YAY
It is entirely up to you what you feed, my fiance thinks he is going to change my mind ( that way he doesnt have to do any thing he thinks) but that isnt going to happen- I have already bought all thebottles and sterilising stuff.
It is entirely up to you what you feed, my fiance thinks he is going to change my mind ( that way he doesnt have to do any thing he thinks) but that isnt going to happen- I have already bought all thebottles and sterilising stuff.
You need to do what's best for you. Happy mummy happy baby and vice versa.
With dd1 me and a friend were expecting at same time I said bottle she said breast turned out when lo's were born I breastfed n she bottle fed.
Just do what you feel comfy doing. I have family who are midwives and they say they have to go off what there guide book says in advising parents but they openly admit they bottlefed.
I don't agree with those who try make mums feel bad it's everyones personal choice.
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With dd1 me and a friend were expecting at same time I said bottle she said breast turned out when lo's were born I breastfed n she bottle fed.
Just do what you feel comfy doing. I have family who are midwives and they say they have to go off what there guide book says in advising parents but they openly admit they bottlefed.
I don't agree with those who try make mums feel bad it's everyones personal choice.
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im torn i bottle fed my first but being older im undecided on what to do with this one would love to think i may breast feed bbut may bottle feed in the end xxx
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I was torn but going open minded - I have a set of bottles but I also bought a cover up thing for breasfeeding. I saw my friend use it and you can't see anything and it looks so much easier to breastfeed as you don't have to prepare milk.
On the other hand, my other friend bottlefed as bfing didn't work for her and she has a wonderful daughter.
In the end it's your choice what to do and what you are comfortable with but I do agree with cosmicgirl, first couple of weeks are important for antibodies even if you express.
On the other hand, my other friend bottlefed as bfing didn't work for her and she has a wonderful daughter.
In the end it's your choice what to do and what you are comfortable with but I do agree with cosmicgirl, first couple of weeks are important for antibodies even if you express.
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I completely agree. I just dont like the idea of it or feel comfortable with it. I know its natural and everything, and if it really was massively better for the baby I would do it, but there are so many benefits to bottle feeding it just makes sense for me. OH can help, you know exactly what your giving them (ive heard of women with vitamin deficiencies that didnt realise so they didnt get as much from breast feeding as bottle feeding) and the amounts, its also supposed to keep them fuller for longer and help them sleep through the night. my mum bottle fed me, my sister and my brother, and we're all fine! the only thing that makes me tempted to try is the cost lol. im glad your oh is being more supportive now. I think it should completely be your choice. i disagree with how much pressure is put on women to breast feed, if they want to then wonderful, but if they dont, they shouldnt be made to feel guilty. do what feels right for you, and you definitely arent alone x x x
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Do what's best for you hun xx I'm going to try and bf the twins for a couple of weeks and then move on to bottle for oh to bond and share the feeds x but Il just see how it goes! X
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