Trying to conceive

Discussion in 'Trying to Conceive' started by Jilly, Nov 20, 2007.

  1. Jilly

    Jilly Active Member

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    My partner and I have used the withdrawal method effectively for the past 10 years, we have recently married and we now want to try for a baby. I have been reading how ineffective the withdrawl method should be and am now scared that this might mean we will not be able to conceive. Have we just been lucky, any thoughts???
     
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    scones Well-Known Member

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    Hi there and welcome!
    My partner and I used withdrawal for about 5 years and we unexpectedly became pregnant and now we are ttc our second child 7 years later, we are wondering too if we were in fact not very fertile in those years we used withdrawal.
     
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    denice Well-Known Member

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    just wanted to wish you good luck TTC, and just try and not stress about it im sure your BFP will come soon

    Denice
     
  4. clairedoran

    clairedoran Well-Known Member

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    Hi Jilly,

    I know my husbands friend and his wife had used the withdrawal method successfully for 3 years without so much as a scare. When they started ttc it took them 4 months, so pretty quick really. When you really look at ttc you notice how complicated it is, and i'd say you must be quite unlucky to get pregnant using the withdrawal method!

    Good luck anyway

    xx
     
  5. Chrissy1

    Chrissy1 Well-Known Member

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    To be honest with you I'd never used the witdrawal method but that's because I didn't know how difficult it is to actually get pregnant!!

    Now I now how hard it is I think I might use it in future.

    Good luck in TTC, hope you get your BFP soon :hug: :hug:
     
  6. Jilly

    Jilly Active Member

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    Thank you so much everybody for your replies, this is only our first month of ttc but I am a natural born worrier and incredibly impatient!!!! Good luck to every body else on here and fingers crossed
     
  7. Kittykins

    Kittykins Well-Known Member

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    Here's some food for thought.

    A woman with a regular 28-day cycle, who ovulated on cycle day 14 every month, who happened to be on cycle day 10 on New Year's Day 2007, and who made love to her OH every Friday and Saturday night without fail this year, still would not be pregnant by now, whether or not they were using the withdrawal method. Her ovulation would never have coincided with a weekend, but would always have fallen on a Thursday, with the egg surviving just 12 hours. Sperm survive on average just 48 hours, so would have died by the Monday night each week (they can live up to 5 days in fertile conditions, ie around ovulation).

    Realistically, you have a three-day window each cycle - the two days before and the day of ovulation. If your cycle is 28 days long, that means that there are 39 days per year in which you could conceive and 326 days on which you couldn't - fewer fertile days if your cycle is longer. It's quite possible that you would miss those fertile days if you didn't know about them.

    For every healthy couple timing intercourse in the fertile 3 days, there is a 1 in 4 chance that pregnancy will result - so you could have BD'ed in your fertile window 3 times without using any contraceptive method, and without getting pregnant, yet still be entirely normal.

    The other possibility to consider is that you may well have got pregnant, but had a chemical pregnancy - if you never tested, because your period wasn't late, or not by more than a day or two, you may not have realised that the egg fertilised but didn't properly implant.

    Sometimes, it really does seem amazing that any babies get born at all! :lol:
     
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    lainey Well-Known Member

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    I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason!!!!

    I wouldnt read too much into this to be honest. I just think mother nature knew you both werent ready for a baba :D
     

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