Mummy to one
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Hi ladies,
I'm not sure where to put this as it kinda fits into a lot but I am a single mum to a 3 year old boy who is almost 3. His dad is not really in his life and I get no help from him at all. I do have a lot of help from my family which I completely appreciate and probably could not cope with out but when it comes down to certain miles stones that I really have to do on my own I'm struggling.
I work full time and when I get home I just want to see my boy rather than constantly being stricked with him. I have 3 main issues which I am struggling with -
My first is bed time. I can't for the life of me get him to sleep in his own room. I know this is very common and I did struggle when he was younger but it was a lot easier in a cot because in a bed he can just follow you. I've tried constantly putting him
Back in which stresses him and me out because I get up very early for work. I've tried sitting with him until he falls asleep but he gets up with in an hour again. My new idea is doing up his room to make it exciting again but it's such a struggle.
My second is the dummy. I know it's a minor thing but he barely used to use one and lately he has became dependant on it. He goes literally crazy if he decides he wants it and doesn't get it. I feel so bad not giving him it and watching him scream like crazy but he doesn't give in. He's very stubborn.
Finally my last and biggest concern. He has been out pull ups for a long time and has been dry through the night also for about 6 months but for the life of me I can't get him to go for a poo in the toilet. When it comes to that he needs a pull up on or will force him self to hold it in. I have no idea what to do! I've spoken to my health visitor and they suggested taking him into the toilet and putting the pull up on for a while so he associates the bathroom with the toilet but he won't even go near the bathroom. I think a lot of my problem is he gets a lot of what he wants and we have always been very soft on him so he really thinks he's the boss now but I just don't know how to get a handle on things again with out being the mother from
Hell. I don't want to be the bad one all the time
Any advice with any of my problems?
Thank you
X
I'm not sure where to put this as it kinda fits into a lot but I am a single mum to a 3 year old boy who is almost 3. His dad is not really in his life and I get no help from him at all. I do have a lot of help from my family which I completely appreciate and probably could not cope with out but when it comes down to certain miles stones that I really have to do on my own I'm struggling.
I work full time and when I get home I just want to see my boy rather than constantly being stricked with him. I have 3 main issues which I am struggling with -
My first is bed time. I can't for the life of me get him to sleep in his own room. I know this is very common and I did struggle when he was younger but it was a lot easier in a cot because in a bed he can just follow you. I've tried constantly putting him
Back in which stresses him and me out because I get up very early for work. I've tried sitting with him until he falls asleep but he gets up with in an hour again. My new idea is doing up his room to make it exciting again but it's such a struggle.
My second is the dummy. I know it's a minor thing but he barely used to use one and lately he has became dependant on it. He goes literally crazy if he decides he wants it and doesn't get it. I feel so bad not giving him it and watching him scream like crazy but he doesn't give in. He's very stubborn.
Finally my last and biggest concern. He has been out pull ups for a long time and has been dry through the night also for about 6 months but for the life of me I can't get him to go for a poo in the toilet. When it comes to that he needs a pull up on or will force him self to hold it in. I have no idea what to do! I've spoken to my health visitor and they suggested taking him into the toilet and putting the pull up on for a while so he associates the bathroom with the toilet but he won't even go near the bathroom. I think a lot of my problem is he gets a lot of what he wants and we have always been very soft on him so he really thinks he's the boss now but I just don't know how to get a handle on things again with out being the mother from
Hell. I don't want to be the bad one all the time
Any advice with any of my problems?
Thank you
X