They hate the names we've picked

[Bella2]

Yesterday I went out for dinner with OH's family when his brother's girlfriend was asked us about names that we've chosen. I told her that we still really like Sophia for girl, when his nanna heard that she said "uuurrrggh yuck no it's horrible!" seriously his nanna is a typical blatent old person that doesn't think before she speaks but even so I thought that was a bit much! I wouldn't dream of saying that someone even if I thought it! His mum also said she didn't really like the name either. In my annoyance I said "Well we really like it so you may have to lump it I'm afraid". Then OH said we also like Grace so we could call her Gracie for short, his mum said she liked Grace but she really didn't like Gracie. I felt so upset and I've felt angry/annoyed ever since. I think in future if anyone asks I'm going to tell them we're keeping names a surprise until the birth. Anyone else experienced this? Am I over-reacting?

 

[roxane 1985]

yh with my first nobody iked the names i had picked, but to be honest it didnt bother me at all as 1 they dont get a say in it, 2 they dont have to be called it it, 3 its not actually got anything to do with them

ppl give me their oppinions of things i decide all the time in pregnancy and motherhood, they can say what i like as at the end of the day i'll do what and pick what i want

you just tend to feel more sensitive to things when pregnant due to hormones

 

[Laura_C]

I love your names Bella, we have completely the same taste. My eldest girl is Grace but often gets called Gracie - mainly by her Daddy and we both have Sophia as our front runner for this little lady

I think they are beautiful names

I have another name I like but it's bee poohooed by the MIL, it's actually partly in honour of their Welsh connections but she said she doesn't like it. I felt really upset now I know what she will be thinking if we call her this name. The name is Seren, or Seren Kate - means little star in Welsh an I think it's lovely. Matter of opinion I suppose!

I think if you and your OH love it, sod everyone else!

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I love both of your names hunny, at the end of the day its your LO and no-one elses and you should call him/her what ever you like.
This is one of the reasons why we are keeping little missy moo's name a secret, because once she is called it, thats her name x x

 

[Bella2]

Thanks girls, can always rely on the PF ladies to make me feel better

Sounds like I'm not the only one with picky in-laws! Obviously I know everyone is entitled to their opinion but there's ways of being a bit more subtle. Laura I think Seren is a beautiful name - such a lovely meaning as well. M2A you are very wise I only wish we hadn't have said anything to anyone now! At the end of the day there's a 50/50 chance of it being a boy so I won't have the predicament of the girls name. Me & OH are going to have a good chat about it when we're on hols next week and hopefully come to a decision then from then on it'll be our secret until the birth x x

 

[suzzi]

i think they are lovely names, my dd is called Paige and when i was discussing names with my mum she said she didnt like it, but tough i called it her anyway and who care.

it wont matter what you call baby as they will grow to love her as a person not a name.

xxxxx

 

[Dee83]

I love your names too hun! I am constantly being asked what ideas we have by both my family and my husbands but i always just say that we're not too sure yet as i know what they're all like! We will definitely be keeping it to ourselves until LO is born! xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I think your names are beautiful, they'll just have to get over it won't they x

 

[ss79]

Its awful people are so rude, we're not telling anyone our names cause of that. But dont let them change your mind. Your baby, not theirs. I think Sophia and Grace are gorgeous names. xx

 

[Lilelephant]

I wouldn't worry bella! We aren't telling a sole our names til he/she is born cos everyname we suggested our parents said they didn't like them, lol

 

[Chookette]

I know how you feel Bella... We have the same issue with my MIL... Made the mistake of telling her a name that was an option but that my OH was not so sure about it... We completely decided against the name now but she keeps calling it by that name which really annoys me...

e decided to not mention the actual names that are on the list to anyone now and wait till its born. Once baby is born and you give it a name they will HAVE to like it....

Its your decision and you will be the one saying it the most.... Try to ignore others...

 

[Amy_J]

i love both your names hun! and at the end of the day its your baby not theirs!!!! not many people liked our choice of name but now after 9months they are like "ahhh yeah it realy does suit him we cant imagine him with another name". you will always get ppl who turn their noses up and give u judegmental opinions.... just chose something that you and oh love and screw everyone else!!!!!!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I agree with everyone else.. dont let anyone take away from the names you love!! Which are lovely names!
Keep it a secret in future as im sure its harder for them to argue the name once the baby is here!
I had the same problem with my girls too.. My mum is still annoyed everything has to be ordered to be personalised haha as you wont find Jaycee or Elyssa in stores! But i love the fact their names are different, and like someone said, my family cant imagine them being called any other name!

You could call your baby Princess Consuela Banana-Hammock (yes i watch alot of friends lol) and it wouldnt be down to them! They would still love your baby as much as if you chose a name they wanted!

Keep Sophia on your list, we cant have that one as OHs sister is called Sophie and he doesnt want it to be the same

 

[Bella2]

thanks girls, I feel a bit more confident now and it's made me more determined to stick to our guns and go with whichever names we like not what other people like. At the end of the day they'll always be someone who doesn't like the name whichever we choose x x

 

[Jayceesmumma]

thanks girls, I feel a bit more confident now and it's made me more determined to stick to our guns and go with whichever names we like not what other people like. At the end of the day they'll always be someone who doesn't like the name whichever we choose x x

exactly!!

 

[Amy_J]

Exactly!!!!! =)))

 

[Hollipops]

I think they are both lovely names, and one of them is our front runner too. A while ago I told my mum some names and she said she absoluely hated one of them (Charlotte - we wanted Charlie or Lottie for short) and then she seems to tell people when she can that she loves most names but hates one specific one. Anyway its not currently at the top of our list but i won't tell her what is now as its our decision.

 

[i.love]

oh I hate this!! How insensitive.

My MIL asked us what names we chose a couple of days ago and we said we haven't decided yet, then she said - "Well there are 3 names that I really hate, so please don't use them. They are ..., ... (can't remember the first 2) and Scott". That's when we said that we actually quite like Scott and it's in our list of favourite names. And then she clasped her hands and said "oh please please PLEASE don't call him Scott, I hate this name!!". WTF?? We'll call him whatever we want!

I don't think my parents liked the name we chose for a girl either (it's of no use now, as we're having a boy). When I told them our choice there was a long silence, and then a change of subject lol. Well at least they didn't say anything

Btw I love Sophia - one of our favourite girls names! xx

 

[Xcitedmum]

I haven't told my names as I do not wish to hear people's opinions on them! Their opinions don't count!

 

[Bella2]

I can't believe how bossy these mums and MILs are!! What gives them the right to demand that we name our children a certain name?? Grrr it makes me so mad! Girls you must have been fuming! I must admit I am now wondering what life will be like once baby arrives, if they're bossy about names imagine the preeching once baby is here. It'll be "well in my day we did it like this etc etc" Oh lord I can see it now - OH's nanna & Mum are gonna be nightmares I know it!!