sick of the pressure

[CatBana]

Hi everyone. Haven't been on in a while, I'm getting a bit dispondant with ttc. There's a mum I know who's just fallen pregnant without even trying and I wish I hadn't let anyone know that I'm trying cos they keep going on about it and asking me. Just had my period last week which makes this month 8 of no success. But as you know my periods are just spotting every month. Went to the doctor and she said this can be considered a normal period, she did exam and said cervix and womb seem normal but she's sending me to the gynaecologist anyway.
My husband is a big pessimist about the situation too, but despite not using conception since August I still don't consider us as a trying couple because I'm lucky if I get sex 3 times in one month. Sometimes I hate my life. I hate putting my life on hold and not going for a job or more studying etc because I'm thinking I might be pregnant soon. I just don't FEEL fertile, I feel like my cycle is gone for a few years probably.
I'll probably start lying and telling people that we've stopped cos the 'time isn't right.'
Anyone else completely sick of this?
x

 

[MrsR]

Aw I'm sorry it's getting so difficult for you! I hope everything is ok for you're visit with gynae x Maybe you should tell people you're not trying just to try to eleviate some of the stress on yourself, that can be a big contributer to not being able to concieve. Best wishes sweetie and I hope it happens for you soon x

 

[kellylou]

aw hun I feel for u, especially with not wanting to look for another job incase you u get a bfp but maybe focusing on something else rather than ttc could make it happen, we all add pressure t o ourselves which adds stress and stress can cause problems with most things so try and take a break from thinking about it and it may just happen as nature intended but I am sure all will be well with you and its just taking its time xxx

 

[nmf1987]

sorry to hear you feel like this. i know how you feel though. i am doing the same and putting off looking for a new job etc. ( i am also the same in im lucky if i get it 3 times a month too)
it's very difficult as you feel the pressure is all on you and wonder what everyone thinks when they ask if your pregnant yet and you say no.
just try and relax hun. it will happen soon. i have my fingers and toes crossed for you.
if you ever want to chat pm me cos like i say i feel the same.

xxx

 

[CatBana]

thanks guys for your posts, you have helped me feel a bit better. I think I'll just try and get on with life, I'm 26 and there's still lots I want to do. I've got a wonderful 4 year old already and am extremely blessed but I refuse to curl up and die just because I'm a wife and a mum! My husband hasn't put his dreams on hold so I'm gonna try and get out there too - it is hard tho. How are you all finding the balance? x

 

[Chellybaby88]

Hi Catbana

I think you should do what feels right for you but also your family.

If you want a job, you should def apply for it as you are entitled to maternity leave anyway.

I wouldnt let getting pregnant stop you living your life as you might end up holding a grudge against baby when it does come along.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do xx

 

[CatBana]

thanks ladies. you are right, I should apply for jobs it won't be until september anyway when my daughter starts school, but I want to go to a painting class, start learning the piano and go to a dance class (I'm blaming pineapple studios for that one!).
who knows when I'll be pregnant, i think it will happen when the time is right anf I've got to learn to be patient.
Thanks girls xoxo

 

[bwakeling]

Keep plugging away, it'll happen. And keep your chin up!