i.love
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hi all, it's me again
This time I have a more philosophiocal question.
Often, when parents start thinking of having a second baby, they talk about how wonderful it would be if their LO had a brother or a sister. But I am not entirely sure if it is really such a good thing...
I have a half sister, but we grew up together, and I always thought of her as a proper sister. Admittedly, we have a big age gap. Our relatioship was never wonderful, but got much worse with years. She could hardly be bothered to write me an email to congratulate me on having my baby. Before that we haven't spoken for 2 years...
My husband has a proper brother, and they have only a 4 year age difference. They rarely speak or see each other, and the relationship seems rather tense.
My mum was never close to her brother, and had a major falling out with him when they grew up. They do not speak anymore. Same happened to my husband's mum. My husband's dad still speaks to his sister though - usually about once a year on the phone, just to say Merry Christmas.
I don't want to bore you, but I can carry on like this. I don't think I know one positive example, when siblings would truly be close and want to spend time together (not to just tolerate each other).
So, the question is, is it really a good thing to have a brother or a sister?
I wasn't trying to be negative or upset anyone. If your experience is very different from mine, please share, I would be very glad to be told that it's just me and my family/friends who were so unlucky! As you can probably guess, I am also thinking of possibly having another baby one day

Often, when parents start thinking of having a second baby, they talk about how wonderful it would be if their LO had a brother or a sister. But I am not entirely sure if it is really such a good thing...
I have a half sister, but we grew up together, and I always thought of her as a proper sister. Admittedly, we have a big age gap. Our relatioship was never wonderful, but got much worse with years. She could hardly be bothered to write me an email to congratulate me on having my baby. Before that we haven't spoken for 2 years...
My husband has a proper brother, and they have only a 4 year age difference. They rarely speak or see each other, and the relationship seems rather tense.
My mum was never close to her brother, and had a major falling out with him when they grew up. They do not speak anymore. Same happened to my husband's mum. My husband's dad still speaks to his sister though - usually about once a year on the phone, just to say Merry Christmas.
I don't want to bore you, but I can carry on like this. I don't think I know one positive example, when siblings would truly be close and want to spend time together (not to just tolerate each other).
So, the question is, is it really a good thing to have a brother or a sister?
I wasn't trying to be negative or upset anyone. If your experience is very different from mine, please share, I would be very glad to be told that it's just me and my family/friends who were so unlucky! As you can probably guess, I am also thinking of possibly having another baby one day
