Sex 3 weeks apart 2 guys. Who might be the father?

[sasha12]

Hello! First I want to say thanks for your help and opinions! On November 1st I found out I was pregnant. I have been with the same guy for 8 years (not married) but I never loved him and one day I was going to leave him. I met someone and fell in love but I was too scared so I did not leave yet. Anyways, My last period was September 29th which was the first day. It was really early maybe 4-5 days. My original partner I last has sex with him on September 23rd. I started my new relationship after my period and had sex with my new partner on October 10th. Heres where im confused. When the doctor told me I as pregnant on November 1st, they said I was 7 weeks pregnant. I knew it was was first partner because it was only 3 weeks since I had sex with my second partner.

I recently had 2 scans done 2 days ago (1 at hospital Thursday and a 3D scan at a different clinic Friday). Now they tell me I'm almost 10 weeks pregnant? I should be 12 weeks pregnant by now maybe a little further. I do not know if they scans are based on the gestation dates or fetal dates. I do not understand how my doctor mis-calculated me by 2 1/2 weeks. When 2 other doctors both have me exactly at 9 weeks 5-6 days. Now I think my new partner might be the father which I want.

If my first partner was the father based on when I last had sex with him and when my lmp was, wouldnt that put the gestation date at 12-13 weeks and fetal size 10-11 weeks? I dont understand how Im just now starting my 10th week. PLEASE HELP!!

Also, I forgot to mention this is my first time being pregnant. My first partner is 12 years older than me (40s). Theres been so many times I should have gottem pregnant but never have. He has a daughter thats 16 but I figured maybe he cant get conceive anymore since I never gotten pregnant all the years I was with him never wanted kid with him. He also smokes alot I dont know if that has something to do with it. I do not smoke. My new partner is the same age as me (no kids) but hes really healthy and works out every day. Im really hoping my new partner is the father.

 

[Nivetha28]

Hi Sasha, if they are dating you at 9+ weeks that also fits with the date of your last period, so seems right. If you haven’t had sex with your old partner since your last period then your new partner is most likely the father. Why did your GP think you were 7 weeks? If he didn’t do a scan, he wouldn’t really be able to accurately date you. Hope this helps

 

[sasha12]

Thank you Nivetha28 for your response! My GP checked via finger and what I thought was a scan after? I do not understand at all. Yes the last time I had sex with my old partner was the 23rd of September so 6 days before my period start. When the doctor told me I was 7 weeks pregnant, I asked him how because I had my period on the 29th. His response was sometimes you can bleed while pregnant. But Im 100% sure that was a period although it came earlier than expected.

 

[Shanivy]

If I've read this right.

If your last period was 29th then that makes you roughly 9 weeks as it's calculated from the first day of your last period. So I think your last period and scan match up which would mean the first partner is not likely to be the father. I would say that was just a normal period. And that you ovulated around the 10th October when you had sex with the new partner. I'm not sure what the doctor did with his finger but without a scan he couldn't date you anyway. I'd trust the scan and that the doctor was wrong, that your new partner is the father of your baby. Hope that helps.

 

[sasha12]

Thank you Shanivy for your input. It makes me feel much better knowing my current partner is more than likely the father. I have this feeling inside that he is the father. When I found out I was pregnant and I thought my old partner was the father I felt like my life has ended. At the time I did not want the baby but my new partner convinced me to keep it and that he still loved me no matter what. I told him Thursday when I found out the new scans. He does not think hes the father still but he also told me that it didnt matter. All we talked about was starting a family together and now I have hope that we are actually going too. But he also told me not to get my hopes up and we have to wait. Is there any other way we can find out 100% for sure instead of waiting for a DNA test?

 

[PeanutButter]

I agree with the other ladies, I'd say your new partner is the father. I don't think there's a way to tell until baby is born.

 

[Shanivy]

Sorry no you'd need a DNA. Your dates and scan are the best way to really tell without one before the baby is born. If you still date the same at the next scan then you def wouldn't be far enough for it to be the first partner. Good luck I hope it works out the way you want it to x

 

[sasha12]

Thank you all so much for your input!

 

[Loopylou1980]

It does sound by what you are saying your new partner is most likely the father of your baby however only a Dna test after the baby is born will tell you for certain.

The bleeding that you experienced its possible it could be implantation bleeding & not your period coming early as you may have thought, You may have ovulated earlier that month.

Did you have unprotected sex with both men ? Or did you not notice that your contraceptive may have failed ?

Dont be fooled though by saying there are plenty of times you could have got pregnant before with your original partner but never did cause maybe you just got lucky

Me & my partner of 11 years together quite often got carried away & ended up having unprotected sex sometimes quite regulary & we never got pregnant so maybe we just got lucky too.

However when we did decide we wanted to start a family together we conceived naturally in the 1st month of trying, My partner is 43 & i`am 37, We are currently pregnant with our 2nd baby which we also conceived pretty quickly when our 1st son was just 5 months old

Good luck i hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it too but it cant be easy starting a new relationship with this hanging over you X

 

[sasha12]

It does sound by what you are saying your new partner is most likely the father of your baby however only a Dna test after the baby is born will tell you for certain.

The bleeding that you experienced its possible it could be implantation bleeding & not your period coming early as you may have thought, You may have ovulated earlier that month.

Did you have unprotected sex with both men ? Or did you not notice that your contraceptive may have failed ?

Dont be fooled though by saying there are plenty of times you could have got pregnant before with your original partner but never did cause maybe you just got lucky

Me & my partner of 11 years together quite often got carried away & ended up having unprotected sex sometimes quite regulary & we never got pregnant so maybe we just got lucky too.

However when we did decide we wanted to start a family together we conceived naturally in the 1st month of trying, My partner is 43 & i`am 37, We are currently pregnant with our 2nd baby which we also conceived pretty quickly when our 1st son was just 5 months old

Good luck i hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it too but it cant be easy starting a new relationship with this hanging over you X

Hi thank you for your response! Yes unprotected with both but my new partner and I were planning on starting a family together. I believe now that my new partner is the father. I seen a new doctor last week and he did a vaginal ultrasound and dated me at 12 weeks. A few days later my blood pressure was high so I went to the hospital again (we have problems with the baby's heart) and they dated me the same at 12 weeks.

I scheduled an appointment for my original doctor 2 days later to check the baby's heart agsin (it's been really low). She did an ultrasound but says I'm 14 weeks which is the origin dating she's been giving me. I guess she don't want to change it. I don't think she measured the baby

It definitely was not implanttion bleeding. There's was alot of blood and it lasted 5 days. But is it possible I was pregnant before, had a miscarriage without knowing and got pregnant again 2 weeks later? I think my doctor measured the pregnancy hormones in my blood when she told me I was first pregnant because I remember she called me to come in and that's what she wanted to do tell me that I was pregnant.

 

[Loopylou1980]

It does sound by what you are saying your new partner is most likely the father of your baby however only a Dna test after the baby is born will tell you for certain.

The bleeding that you experienced its possible it could be implantation bleeding & not your period coming early as you may have thought, You may have ovulated earlier that month.

Did you have unprotected sex with both men ? Or did you not notice that your contraceptive may have failed ?

Dont be fooled though by saying there are plenty of times you could have got pregnant before with your original partner but never did cause maybe you just got lucky

Me & my partner of 11 years together quite often got carried away & ended up having unprotected sex sometimes quite regulary & we never got pregnant so maybe we just got lucky too.

However when we did decide we wanted to start a family together we conceived naturally in the 1st month of trying, My partner is 43 & i`am 37, We are currently pregnant with our 2nd baby which we also conceived pretty quickly when our 1st son was just 5 months old

Good luck i hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it too but it cant be easy starting a new relationship with this hanging over you X

Hi thank you for your response! Yes unprotected with both but my new partner and I were planning on starting a family together. I believe now that my new partner is the father. I seen a new doctor last week and he did a vaginal ultrasound and dated me at 12 weeks. A few days later my blood pressure was high so I went to the hospital again (we have problems with the baby's heart) and they dated me the same at 12 weeks.

I scheduled an appointment for my original doctor 2 days later to check the baby's heart agsin (it's been really low). She did an ultrasound but says I'm 14 weeks which is the origin dating she's been giving me. I guess she don't want to change it. I don't think she measured the baby

It definitely was not implanttion bleeding. There's was alot of blood and it lasted 5 days. But is it possible I was pregnant before, had a miscarriage without knowing and got pregnant again 2 weeks later? I think my doctor measured the pregnancy hormones in my blood when she told me I was first pregnant because I remember she called me to come in and that's what she wanted to do tell me that I was pregnant.

Hope that the baby is ok ? Its amazing what they can pick up on so early isnt it,

The best thing to do is once the baby is born is get a DNA Test as thats the only way to know 100% for sure & is the right thing to do, I hope that you get the outcome you so desperately want X

 

[sasha12]

It does sound by what you are saying your new partner is most likely the father of your baby however only a Dna test after the baby is born will tell you for certain.

The bleeding that you experienced its possible it could be implantation bleeding & not your period coming early as you may have thought, You may have ovulated earlier that month.

Did you have unprotected sex with both men ? Or did you not notice that your contraceptive may have failed ?

Dont be fooled though by saying there are plenty of times you could have got pregnant before with your original partner but never did cause maybe you just got lucky

Me & my partner of 11 years together quite often got carried away & ended up having unprotected sex sometimes quite regulary & we never got pregnant so maybe we just got lucky too.

However when we did decide we wanted to start a family together we conceived naturally in the 1st month of trying, My partner is 43 & i`am 37, We are currently pregnant with our 2nd baby which we also conceived pretty quickly when our 1st son was just 5 months old

Good luck i hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it too but it cant be easy starting a new relationship with this hanging over you X

Hi thank you for your response! Yes unprotected with both but my new partner and I were planning on starting a family together. I believe now that my new partner is the father. I seen a new doctor last week and he did a vaginal ultrasound and dated me at 12 weeks. A few days later my blood pressure was high so I went to the hospital again (we have problems with the baby's heart) and they dated me the same at 12 weeks.

I scheduled an appointment for my original doctor 2 days later to check the baby's heart agsin (it's been really low). She did an ultrasound but says I'm 14 weeks which is the origin dating she's been giving me. I guess she don't want to change it. I don't think she measured the baby

It definitely was not implanttion bleeding. There's was alot of blood and it lasted 5 days. But is it possible I was pregnant before, had a miscarriage without knowing and got pregnant again 2 weeks later? I think my doctor measured the pregnancy hormones in my blood when she told me I was first pregnant because I remember she called me to come in and that's what she wanted to do tell me that I was pregnant.

Hope that the baby is ok ? Its amazing what they can pick up on so early isnt it,

The best thing to do is once the baby is born is get a DNA Test as thats the only way to know 100% for sure & is the right thing to do, I hope that you get the outcome you so desperately want X

Thanks! My partner and I plan on doing a DNA test around week 20. Right now we are more focused on the baby's heart and health.