selfish mothers

[vickib_1984]

hi ladies

i was just wondering if i am the only one who gets rather pissed off at selfish mothers who are able to open their legs and get the bfp everytime and not give a damn about the baby??????? i am feeling this all too often at the min even at anyone who falls pg is eem to get a hugh amount of hatred boiling up towards them or am i just being totally unreasonable???????????

 

[LouiseB]

Hiya Vicki

I think that allowing things that you can't control or really know what is going on to upset you is a bit unfortunate.

I'm a big believer in everyone having their demons to deal with and just because we don't know about them doesn't mean that they are not there.

Would you really trade your life with them and lose what you have, just for their BFP?

I kind of feel sorry for women that feel the need to behave like that. They mustn't have had the people around them that loved them enough to teach them about self-respect and consequences. Those children that have children just to feel better is so sad.

You, on the other hand, you have clearly had a much more enriched upbringing - and you'll still get your family and be all the more appreciative for it too

 

[Blondy locks x]

Oh god yeah i agree! Theres this girl from my town and shes got two young kids and her mam now has custody of them because shes too busy going on nights out and spending time with her new boyfriend whos a scumbag and now shes pregnant again with his baby!! It makes me soooo mad !!!

People like that should be banned from having babies when they behave like that and dont care! And it seems these people can get pregnant at the drop of a hat which is a utter joke!!!haha x x x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Hi vicki, I know how you feel! Until very very recently I got really angered by these young girls getting pregnant to go on benefits and get a council house etc. Then I thought hang on, I have a great education, a medical degree, a fabulous professional well paid career, a beautiful house that I bought myself and wonderful happy healthy kids who want for nothing. You have to think about it that way vicki, remember that your lo will be wanted, loved and well cared for. There will always be those who get pregnant on a whim or are irresponsible and unfit to be a mum but try to use that anger to think, "I'll be a great mum" xx

 

[vickib_1984]

i know its so frustrating though because i know what i have to give my son is 7 has aspergers and dyspraxia and i wouldnt change him for the world wheni get my bfp i know in my heart that it will be the most wanted baby every in my eyes!!!!!!!!!!!!! and i will want for nothing just like all of you ladies waiting for it too..........

 

[abbiecourt]

my mums friends are trying for a baby she has to have injections etc, i wish i cud do something for u all i really do xxx

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

I know a lot of girls like that. Relying on their parents to look after their baby whilst they go out partying.
I fortunately gave up my drunken and drugged up nights a long long long time ago. I hate alcohol with a passion, can't stand the stuff, or stumbling home at 5am with sore feet.

When I was TTC I would see endless selfish mothers and it would drive me crazy. I even had to see my best friend go through an abortion because her and her long term boyfriend were too busy living the high life of alcohol and sex to give a damn about a baby. Probably a wise choice, but she knew me and my partner were TTC so it upset me a lot to find out she was pregnant and getting rid of it. She even said, "It's not even a life, it's just a blob of cells right now". She was actually around 8 weeks pregnant (like I am now).. my baby has a heartbeat! I broke down crying when I found out she was expecting.

It's a cruel world.
But I really don't think we can fix it.
Good luck on getting your BFP, I really hope you get yours soon xxx

 

[Kerrieanne]

I could tell you a few stories of people I know that have their children and then push them aside but I won't jot them down here as it will anger us all so much.

I love cosmicgirls statement at the end of her thread above, so true. All I can say is life is unfair at times but i too hope i can be a great mum someday xx

Good luck on your TTCing journey Vickib x

 

[Pickledonions]

oh yeah...riles me. And my parents are foster carers and the children they have stay are so innocent and I just wish people would think before creating a life. When I have had my baby Im defo gonna look into adoption, its easy to forget sometimes how many babies are born into this situation and I hope to one day give one of these children a better life.

Do try not to let it bring you down tho sometimes it is easier for other people but it doesnt nessesarily mean they dont love their babies....a good friend of mine got caught on the pill...considered an abortion and now she is madly in love with her baby and she was a tearaway too when she fell pregnant. SO its not always a bad thing.

Yes I want a baby with all my heart but I want it with my husband and I wouldnt change that just to get a bfp sooner...this is our jeorney and I wouldnt have it any other way

 

[Donna19871987]

I have to sit at work listening to a woman brag off about her 18 year old daughter being pregnant , she doesn't know who the father is , she is on benefits and they are buying Dior baby stuff , she was pregnant previously and had a termination !!! It makes me wonder it really does !!if these people knew for one minute the pain of losing babies or not being able to make one , when your in a secure loving relationship maybe they would think twice !! Rant over

 

[vickib_1984]

lol donna i had my son at 18 and worked all the way through having him everything he had was from woolies mothercare kiddie care etc nothing desighner its pointless as they grow out of them too quick i have recently discovered i have pcos which explains why my son is the only baby in 10 years!!!!!!!!!! stupid selfish people they are xxxx

 

[eobrien133]

I have came back from holiday and found out a girl at work is pregnant, she already has a 6 year old and doesnt see the father and now preg with another child and isnt even seeing anyone just a short term relationship. Whilst I dont grudge anyone getting pregnant, these people dont realise how lucky they are to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat. Pregnancy is a blessing not just to get benefits.

I will just have to let it go over my head and hope i'll be next

Eileen xxx

 

[heartbroken]

It annoys me SO much Grrr! Its so selfish and not fair on the kids then.. OH sister is pregnant but rings him at 9 in the mornig to bring her 5 year old boy to school its bug the out of me! Plus she was only with her OH a month and shes pregnant expecting everyone to do everything for her! Its always the people who really want kids takes a very long time to concieve or have fertilaty problems so unfair