Scared i dont "love" my boys name!

[Sproglett]

Well as the title says, I'm concerned that I don’t love my boys name as much as my girls name, I'm 25yrs old and I have had my girls name decided since I was about 16, (luckily dh loves it). This is our 4th pregnancy since 2010, and we have never been able to agree on a boy’s name.
Well at 17 or so weeks we were still debating on finding out baby's gender and agreed that if we couldn't decide on a boys name by the 20w scan, then we'd find out the gender to see if we needed to keep thinking of them.
At 19w, I approached my dh with a name I like and he likes it too, I guess I’m just scared that I feel like not as much effort and thought has been put into our boys name as our girls name, I know that sounds silly.
It doesn’t help matters that when I was younger I really wanted a little girl (since losing 3 babies, I do not mind what the gender is as long as I get to hold baby in my arms) I'm scared people would think I’m disappointed if baby is a little boy or that I might deep down inside still want a little girl, and I need my boys name to be perfect so I know that if it is a boy I love him just as much…
I SOUND LIKE A COMPLETE LOON DON’T I??

 

[cosmicgirl]

What would it matter if you were a little bit disappointed to not be having a girl? Who decided that people aren't allowed to feel a bit of disappointment? You'd be disappointed for what you don't have not what you do, you'd still cherish your little boy, that's a given.
I also am not loving the name I have chosen so I know what you mean.
Maybe think of a name in reserve in case you change your mind completely and feel panicked to chose a name last minute? x

 

[Sproglett]

well we went through loads of names and its the only one that we both like, i might just be being paranoid that i havent had it for 9 years like my girls name lol. plus who knows baby could be a boy or a girl yet

 

[CARNAT22]

I don't "love" either of our names to be honest...

Oh and I am getting more and more "hopeful" that I am having a girl, I wouldn't be disappointed with a boy [infact I think it is a boy!] but I do have a slight leaning towards preferring a little girl.

I feel terrible even thinking like this after all my losses.

Do you want to share your name/s hun?

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[LouiseB]

I don't love my boys names either and they are the ones that are already picked for definate lol

Even though i still don't have my heart set on a particular girls name yet I still feel more excited when picking them.

When I go around shops it's always the pretty dresses that make me really broody.

I'm not sure it's really related to gender disappointment, not in my case anyway. I don't feel I have a preference in what I get, but there is just something more fun and playful about imagining a little girl than imagining a little boy.

Maybe it's because I assume any little boys will be like my hubby, and he doesn't give a crap about fluff like names and clothes so my son wouldn't appreciate it either

 

[CARNAT22]

We are both from very male dominated families Louise so I think having a girl is a "breaking tradition". My parents only have grandson's and my OH is one of 5 boys

I also think it make sense that as a female myself I lean towards wanting to have a child that I can have lots in common with?

I just know deep down it a boy, I kind of feel it in my bones...

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[natashateale]

I just wanted to say that we dony have a girls name and struggle alot and we have 2boys names. And both of which I do not love. I cannot pick between them because I dont love either of them.
As for feeling abit disappointed. So what. I think every body has a little bit of a preferance secretly even though we all say " I dont mind as long its healthy"
This time round I wud love a little boy but if we have another little girl I will love her just as much as if I had a little boy.
Once u hold your baby for the first time all these feelings u are feeling will either go compketely or will fade alot.
My oh told me when we had dd that he wud have loved alittle boy but wudnt change our dd for the world now feelings change hun, dont feel guilty about how u feel u cant help it

 

[Sproglett]

I don't "love" either of our names to be honest...

Oh and I am getting more and more "hopeful" that I am having a girl, I wouldn't be disappointed with a boy [infact I think it is a boy!] but I do have a slight leaning towards preferring a little girl.

I feel terrible even thinking like this after all my losses.

Do you want to share your name/s hun?

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Thanks everyone for all your words of encouragement, i'm like you nat, leaning towards thinking i'm having a boy, and feel terrible that i lean towards "preferring" a girl, (i have 4 nephews, i'm allowed) but also i feel guilty because of our loses too.

My girls name is Evie Louise
My boys name is Jacob David

 

[CARNAT22]

I love Jacob, It's my little cousins name... So it's off the table for us though.

As you know I love your girls name

I don't think we need to feel guilty, we're women and it makes sense that we have a slight preference to the gender which we are. My OH would "prefer" a boy if you pushed him for an answer, but of course will be over the moon with a little lady!!

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[Sproglett]

yeah, think that probably it, although boys tend to be "mommy's boys" and girls "daddy's girls"

 

[natashateale]

I love jacob but my ohs nephew is jacob so of the cards for us aswell lol. And evie is such a precious name its lovely.
I have 3 younger bother, 5 cousins 3 of qhich are boys and on my OH sides he has 3 nephews so we also have alot of boys in our family.
I really do feel for u x

 

[Titch85]

There's lots of girls names that I love, and one that I have wanted to use for years. I can't think of one boys name that I love, there's a few I like but OH doesn't, so when it comes to it I think I'll be in the same predicament as you.

 

[Sproglett]

thanks for the support ladies

 

[JJ Mum]

I like your name choices, but keep looking if your not sure that you love them, I have this trouble with girls names, terrible trouble, but I have enougth lovely fav names for boys to start a football team, I would find it trouble to choose girls, well tricky!!!

 

[netty]

i love jacob its really sweet! i love both the names xx

 

[Lou12]

Oooh your names are lovely (I would have liked Jacob, but OH doesn't like it)!

I would prefer baby to be a girl, but I'd no longer be disappointed if it's a boy. I think I'm having a boy (lots of boys on OH's side), and during the first half of this pregnancy I really really wanted a girl, and was even slightly jealous when my best friend had a little girl. However, I've since had 3 dreams about a little boy, and I sort of feel like I "know" him iykwim.

 

[Doob]

I have a similar issue with our girls middle name but it's very sentimental for dh so I've agreed to it. I adore Jacob though it's very nice xxx

 

[Sproglett]

Thanks ladies

 

[redbear]

I wanted a girl but didnt tell anyone but oh and i had my boys name picked out but always prefred my girls name (boys was Leo) i didnt find out at scan and can say when Alice was born i didnt know what sex the baby was as she was held up but i was so happy - - it didnt matter in the end i didnt even think about it until my midwife asked DH to look (he checked twice) x

xx

 

[Sproglett]

Thanks, it I think I'm over evaluating it a little perhaps lol. I love the face jacob can be jake or even jd with middle name being David think I just panic occasionally
Lol