really upset about other people pregnancy

[Maximus17]

We all wish we were one of those women that just fall pregnant. Some people get pregnant whilst on the pill or one of my friend got pregnant one time accident and she has PCOS! It’s just crazy really. Where as us doing everything on time and nothing. My mind doesn’t get it to be honest. All these years using protection wasn’t needed. I felt better after speaking to one of my friends today. She said at least we have our health and that’s what’s important and trying to look at my life more positively. I will definitely try her advice

 

[PeanutButter]

I think it is really hard for anyone to feel genuine happiness for someone who has what they want but can't have. The fact that each of us try our best is good enough for me.

It's really hard for me to be happy too when someone says, 'oh, no, it was just like our first, we had it on the first try.' Or, 'I wouldn't be able to give you any advice, we never tried more than two cycles before we got ours.' Recently I had to face the fact that now all of a sudden I am possibly not even ovulating...slap in the face, much?

None of us are crap people because we dream of being moms. We try our best not to allow our emotions of getting in the way, but can't help but flinch when the announcements come at us like daggers.

I'm just grateful I've got you ladies for support. It means a lot xxx

I wasn't trying to be nasty, I'm unsure if I'm misreading your post or if you took mine in a way I didn't intend to come across.
When I was pregnant with my daughter I still couldn't look at pregnant woman without being envious, because after all my mcs I expected it to end badly at every point throughout. We spent 2 years ttc and had 6 mcs, when I herd an announcement I just went to bed and cried. My cousin also announced her pregnancy and due date which was the exact same due date I had for my first mc. Don't think I've ever been so angry (not with her, with the world).
I gave up, and lost hope. Then I got pregnant with dd. I never thought it would happen, but it does. Just keep telling yourself one day you'll get the baby you've dreamed of x

 

[MoominGirl]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

It's such a vicious cycle. You've obviously been through so much to get your daughter and I don't think that journey can ever leave you. I know I'll never forget the heartache we've suffered if our time ever does come. I know I'd feel guilty if I felt like I wanted to complaint about something if I was having a bad day and I'd also be so much more aware of people around me as you just don't know what they're going through. It's sad that your cousin feels she can't be around you especially when she knows you haven't 'had it easy'. It just shows how hard TTC can be emotionally.

I've always felt differently about the children of close family members. I've never felt any negative emotion even with those that I know for a face were happy accidents. I guess I see being an auntie as a different role to being a mum so I value it in a separate way.

 

[MoominGirl]

I think it is really hard for anyone to feel genuine happiness for someone who has what they want but can't have. The fact that each of us try our best is good enough for me.

It's really hard for me to be happy too when someone says, 'oh, no, it was just like our first, we had it on the first try.' Or, 'I wouldn't be able to give you any advice, we never tried more than two cycles before we got ours.' Recently I had to face the fact that now all of a sudden I am possibly not even ovulating...slap in the face, much?

None of us are crap people because we dream of being moms. We try our best not to allow our emotions of getting in the way, but can't help but flinch when the announcements come at us like daggers.

I'm just grateful I've got you ladies for support. It means a lot xxx

I find that the world just seems to have a way of dropping these wonderful pieces of news on you at the least appropriate time. Of course they have no idea that you're even trying and it's CD1 and you feel like a pile of crap and you've just got off the phone to the GP for what feels like the 100th time chasing tests and appointments that they should have been able to sort without this amount of hand holding!! As you can see, I can relate.

Like you say, of course we are not bad people but we are raised to believe that we will be rewarded for hard work and effort. Sadly TTC just doesn't play fair.

 

[KatD]

I think it is really hard for anyone to feel genuine happiness for someone who has what they want but can't have. The fact that each of us try our best is good enough for me.

It's really hard for me to be happy too when someone says, 'oh, no, it was just like our first, we had it on the first try.' Or, 'I wouldn't be able to give you any advice, we never tried more than two cycles before we got ours.' Recently I had to face the fact that now all of a sudden I am possibly not even ovulating...slap in the face, much?

None of us are crap people because we dream of being moms. We try our best not to allow our emotions of getting in the way, but can't help but flinch when the announcements come at us like daggers.

I'm just grateful I've got you ladies for support. It means a lot xxx

I wasn't trying to be nasty, I'm unsure if I'm misreading your post or if you took mine in a way I didn't intend to come across.
When I was pregnant with my daughter I still couldn't look at pregnant woman without being envious, because after all my mcs I expected it to end badly at every point throughout. We spent 2 years ttc and had 6 mcs, when I herd an announcement I just went to bed and cried. My cousin also announced her pregnancy and due date which was the exact same due date I had for my first mc. Don't think I've ever been so angry (not with her, with the world).
I gave up, and lost hope. Then I got pregnant with dd. I never thought it would happen, but it does. Just keep telling yourself one day you'll get the baby you've dreamed of x

Oh PB hun noooo I'm so sorry if my post made you feel like I was directing any bad vibes onto you I was just giving my two cents lol! I think my frustration with this horrid cycle I'm having miiiight be seeping through the cracks but I promise you it was by no means directed toward anyone! I'm so sorry hunni xxx didn't mean to make you feel bad or anyone else!

Lol I'm such a hormonal mess I feel like balling my eyes out now


sorry hun

 

[JemRose]

I think the lovely thing about this forum is that you have the ability to be happy for others when they get their BFP because we have all gone through the TTC journey together. We have all struggled and fought hard to get a BFP.

Those of us that have got a BFP are cheering the TTC ladies on because we all share such a connection. I know I am always checking up to see how everyone is getting on. I don't post much because like Laura said I don't want anyone to feel like I'm rubbing it in or reminding people of the BFP etc.

I do completely understand how everyone feels in the TTC world. And I fought hard to get my BFP - then you have people like my sister who missed a pill and fell pregnant, decided to try again and tried for one cycle and got pregnant again (due same time as me - bitch - I'm not bitter I swear). So even now it is irritating knowing how hard I fought to get my BFP and how my sister gets it without even trying.

I have so much love and respect to everyone who is TTC - it is a rough journey, but the support we all have for each other is what gets us through xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

Aww that's so awful for her I feel the same. I love checking in and stalking all my ttc friends on here but have the guilt then that I might be coming across as insensitive by showing up xx

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Never! It's good to have you drop by. Wouldn't want it any other way xxx

Thanks I swear I spend just as much time in here as ever! I feel more at home in here than the other section hahah takes me a while to feel like I fit in places xxx

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[LuckyLaura]

I think it is really hard for anyone to feel genuine happiness for someone who has what they want but can't have. The fact that each of us try our best is good enough for me.

It's really hard for me to be happy too when someone says, 'oh, no, it was just like our first, we had it on the first try.' Or, 'I wouldn't be able to give you any advice, we never tried more than two cycles before we got ours.' Recently I had to face the fact that now all of a sudden I am possibly not even ovulating...slap in the face, much?

None of us are crap people because we dream of being moms. We try our best not to allow our emotions of getting in the way, but can't help but flinch when the announcements come at us like daggers.

I'm just grateful I've got you ladies for support. It means a lot xxx

I wasn't trying to be nasty, I'm unsure if I'm misreading your post or if you took mine in a way I didn't intend to come across.
When I was pregnant with my daughter I still couldn't look at pregnant woman without being envious, because after all my mcs I expected it to end badly at every point throughout. We spent 2 years ttc and had 6 mcs, when I herd an announcement I just went to bed and cried. My cousin also announced her pregnancy and due date which was the exact same due date I had for my first mc. Don't think I've ever been so angry (not with her, with the world).
I gave up, and lost hope. Then I got pregnant with dd. I never thought it would happen, but it does. Just keep telling yourself one day you'll get the baby you've dreamed of x

Oh PB hun noooo I'm so sorry if my post made you feel like I was directing any bad vibes onto you I was just giving my two cents lol! I think my frustration with this horrid cycle I'm having miiiight be seeping through the cracks but I promise you it was by no means directed toward anyone! I'm so sorry hunni xxx didn't mean to make you feel bad or anyone else!

Lol I'm such a hormonal mess I feel like balling my eyes out now


sorry hun

Don't ball your eyes out! Big hugs hehe unless balling your eyes out helps- in that case let me hug you while you ball!
I don't know what I'd do without this forum as I feel so supported and I know that everyone understands here hehe

I was distraught when I believed I wasn't even ovulating anymore Kat so I can completely understand. However it wasn't the case for me so maybe it's just some small hiccup this month. I had a really crazy random long cycle the cycle before my bfp and I was losing the will to live! I have everything crossed that this hell of a cycle will end and u can get moved onto a fresh one xxxxxxxxxx

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[LuckyLaura]

I think the lovely thing about this forum is that you have the ability to be happy for others when they get their BFP because we have all gone through the TTC journey together. We have all struggled and fought hard to get a BFP.

Those of us that have got a BFP are cheering the TTC ladies on because we all share such a connection. I know I am always checking up to see how everyone is getting on. I don't post much because like Laura said I don't want anyone to feel like I'm rubbing it in or reminding people of the BFP etc.

I do completely understand how everyone feels in the TTC world. And I fought hard to get my BFP - then you have people like my sister who missed a pill and fell pregnant, decided to try again and tried for one cycle and got pregnant again (due same time as me - bitch - I'm not bitter I swear). So even now it is irritating knowing how hard I fought to get my BFP and how my sister gets it without even trying.

I have so much love and respect to everyone who is TTC - it is a rough journey, but the support we all have for each other is what gets us through xx

You're not bitter JemRose and from what I've heard so far your sister sounds like a brat (sorry not sorry) haha big hugs xxxx

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[Peony1]

Im glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. I felt so guilty because I cried on and off for a whole day when I found out one of my friends who had only been trying a couple of months was pregnant! It was a weird feeling because although I was genuinely happy for her, I just felt so jealous!! And I have 4 friends who already have babies that got pregnant the first month or had a surprise pregnancy! And it’s amazing how many times they feel the need to tell me that

 

[Peony1]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

It's such a vicious cycle. You've obviously been through so much to get your daughter and I don't think that journey can ever leave you. I know I'll never forget the heartache we've suffered if our time ever does come. I know I'd feel guilty if I felt like I wanted to complaint about something if I was having a bad day and I'd also be so much more aware of people around me as you just don't know what they're going through. It's sad that your cousin feels she can't be around you especially when she knows you haven't 'had it easy'. It just shows how hard TTC can be emotionally.

I've always felt differently about the children of close family members. I've never felt any negative emotion even with those that I know for a face were happy accidents. I guess I see being an auntie as a different role to being a mum so I value it in a separate way.

I feel exactly the same with my nephews! I love spending time with them and getting sent photos and videos of them! In fact, I was even hoping that one of my sis in laws was pregnant recently (I now don’t think she is!) as I wouldn’t feel bad about that at all, I’d just be so excited! It’s a completely different feeling when it’s anyone else though. Although I’m always pleased to read bfp announcements on this forum

 

[MoominGirl]

I used to be like that, now I have a baby I feel guilty when Ikno people are ttc because I know how much it hurts. My cousin didn't come to the family party because I was there with dd, made me feel so upset for her, she's been ttc for 10 years and has also had many mcs The Xmas before we were both sat talking about it. Now she doesn't even come to stuff, doesn't have me on FB anymore :/
You will get your babies. Xx

It's such a vicious cycle. You've obviously been through so much to get your daughter and I don't think that journey can ever leave you. I know I'll never forget the heartache we've suffered if our time ever does come. I know I'd feel guilty if I felt like I wanted to complaint about something if I was having a bad day and I'd also be so much more aware of people around me as you just don't know what they're going through. It's sad that your cousin feels she can't be around you especially when she knows you haven't 'had it easy'. It just shows how hard TTC can be emotionally.

I've always felt differently about the children of close family members. I've never felt any negative emotion even with those that I know for a face were happy accidents. I guess I see being an auntie as a different role to being a mum so I value it in a separate way.

I feel exactly the same with my nephews! I love spending time with them and getting sent photos and videos of them! In fact, I was even hoping that one of my sis in laws was pregnant recently (I now don’t think she is!) as I wouldn’t feel bad about that at all, I’d just be so excited! It’s a completely different feeling when it’s anyone else though. Although I’m always pleased to read bfp announcements on this forum

As selfish as it sounds, in that situation you still get the niece or nephew. When it's random people you hardly know, then you just get their good news in your face when you could really do without it!! I do feel differently about this forum though. Probably because most ladies on here actually get it.