Hi I was wondering if anyone can give me advice.
I split up with my eldests father when she was 4 months old due to domestic abuse and him threatening her life. She has had no contact with him since and is now 3 and a half years. I have been with my current partner for nearly 3 years, lived together for 2 and he has played a huge part in her life since a few months after her 1st birthday. She used to call him by his name but one day she started calling him daddy, and for the first few months she went back and forth between his name and daddy but now she calls him daddy all the time. As much as I would love to go along and let her believe that he is really her daddy, and although her actual father is a nasty man, I know the right thing to do is to tell her the truth but I don't know how to go about it? Obviously I'm not gona tell her why her father isn't in her life (well not until she is much older!) But I'd rather her know from a younger age that my current partner isn't her biological father, so as it doesn't come as a shock when she is older. I've tried explaining to her a few times and showing her pictures but I don't think she really understands. Has anyone got any tips? Should I just continue what I'm doing every now and then till she understands? Or am I fighting a loosing battle and better waiting until she is older?
TIA
xxx
I split up with my eldests father when she was 4 months old due to domestic abuse and him threatening her life. She has had no contact with him since and is now 3 and a half years. I have been with my current partner for nearly 3 years, lived together for 2 and he has played a huge part in her life since a few months after her 1st birthday. She used to call him by his name but one day she started calling him daddy, and for the first few months she went back and forth between his name and daddy but now she calls him daddy all the time. As much as I would love to go along and let her believe that he is really her daddy, and although her actual father is a nasty man, I know the right thing to do is to tell her the truth but I don't know how to go about it? Obviously I'm not gona tell her why her father isn't in her life (well not until she is much older!) But I'd rather her know from a younger age that my current partner isn't her biological father, so as it doesn't come as a shock when she is older. I've tried explaining to her a few times and showing her pictures but I don't think she really understands. Has anyone got any tips? Should I just continue what I'm doing every now and then till she understands? Or am I fighting a loosing battle and better waiting until she is older?
TIA
xxx