People's reactions

[harley91]

So I have two adorable children oldest is 8 youngest is 4 I have one of each gender and want to have another one the only thing scaring me is people's reactions as I haemorrhaged last time and to be honest I can count on one hand the amount of times my kids have been babysat so I do it all myself the question I suppose I'm asking is should I take people's reactions into account or not tell anyone I'm TTC and just deal with their reactions when I'm pregnant so I can't be talked round if you get what I mean?

Very confused ATM xxx

 

[Loula]

Screw someone else's opinions it's up to you and your partner if you want to expand your family.
I have only told my mum and my auntie has found out and I don't think oh has told anyone looking.
We don't want the pressure of but you've been trying to a while a little down the line x

 

[harley91]

lets just say I don't exactly have the most supportive family I'm still viewed as my mums baby girl even though I'm nearly 30 lol, my mum as much as I love her has always been extremely opinionated and has already voiced her disapproval over me expanding my family before I even considered it.

I'm desperately wanting another baby but the worry about others reactions is stressing me out to the point my OH has said don't tell anyone I'm TTC and just tell people once pregnant.

xxx

 

[Loula]

Yeah I agree with hubby just tell them when it's too late.
Sorry but you are nearly 30 you have to make your own life decisions

 

[harley91]

I had my first at 19 second at 21 I'm 26 now so closer to 30 than 20 lol I don't know whether I'd get a negative reception because she wants better for me than to be a full time mum of 3 she wanted the whole uni life and great career for me but it didn't turn out that way I'm probably overthinking it but she's the only person who's opinion matters to me xxx

 

[Loula]

But you can still do a uni course and be a mum. It is possible to have it all.
My mum wasn't happy at all when I had my 1st because of the circumstances but now she cannot wait to have another grandchild.
Maybe have a chat with her and be honest and tell her you want another child but you also want her blessing

 

[harley91]

Thanks loula for your advice and taking the time to reply to me xx

 

[Loula]

Not a problem x