Pain and labour

[scaredmum2be]

When thinking about labour im actually terrified and with the pain, im just wondering because when i miscarried with the first baby the pain was absolute agony nothing took that pain away an now im wondering if its going to be like this an alot more during labour i know im silly for even things because im only 4 months now but im terrified already.

what if the midwives an not wanting to know.
when i miscarried i had pain every minute was every 2 mins then wen to a minute, i thought that was unbearable. i think im now guna be terrible when i got in labour i try not to think about it but cant help it lol x

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Im a firm believer in the idea that relaxation helps with the pain, in that of your body is not tense the pain is less as you are relaxed. I think that it should be a bigger part of ante natal education and then women wouldnt be so scared, if you are scared then you are anticipating the pain - of course there will be pain but you will deal with it a whole lot better of you are relaxed - am I making any sense? Im sure the midwives will be there for you and pain relief will be available; try not to worry

 

[scaredmum2be]

Yes you are making sense dont worry lol.
i wasnt as worried when i was losing the other baby because in my heart i didnt think i was losing that baby i thought everything was fine and going to be okies but it turned out i wasnt but the pain was that bad i was put on morphine but only worked for say 5 mins. maybe im over worrying and i know i cant help it now because it wil happen anyway but i wondered if a miscarriage that pain from that if giving birth is about the same pain lol. im only ickle lolx

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

I can't comment on a MC as I havent experienced that - labour pain starts off mild and progresses into contractions that are purposeful lets say! You will be fine and looked after

 

[titch]

I dont think its silly to be worry about this at 4 months. We should be researching and preparing ourselves for it by now. Have you arranged to go to any antenatal classes? Ive never had amiscarraige or given birth so I have no idea. The way I think of it is that pain usually tells us that something is wrong with our body and makes us worry but when you're in labour you need to keep reminding yourself that every contraction in MEANT to happen and its brining your baby one step closer to the world. Of course it will hurt, but panic will make it so much worse. And at the end of the day you can have an epidural if you feel the pain is overwhelming you, you need to do what is right for you and your body to get the baby here.

 

[scaredmum2be]

Not been told about antinatal classes but i do wonder if they help or not, hubby has talked about it although i think i will be doing some research on the net at some point an get myself prepaired. Ive only listened to other peoples stories an there making me scared lol.

Mc lasted 3 days with so much pain but after i lost the baby i didnt get pain just felt empty.
Ty x

 

[*Hope*]

How far gone were you when you miscarried??

Mine wasa silent miscarriage i didnt feel a thing, that was around 9 weeks x

 

[FebMum2Be]

My midwife was amazing, she explained everything beforehand, when I was stil only 4cm and contracting every 5mins.. She explained it is there for you IF you decide you want it.. But there are also other things, the gas and air, pethidine, epidural.. She also explained that everyone gets their "freak out" stage.. I was calm and relaxed all the way to the end, but the baby turned and I begged for an epidural, she went to get the anaethetist and she had to be called back because I was ready to push.. Once I had Odhran I was so so glad I hadn't had the epidural, I was able to go for a bath straight after and push Odhrán to our room in his little crib.. The day after I was able to move about and go to the loo and for breakfast and look after Odhrán with no problems.. I was so glad I didn't get the epidural, because I had asked for it during my "freak out".. With every contraction just tell yourself it's only 30 seconds, it's going to pass, and it will be gone, staying relaxed is definitly a key factor I would say.. And remember all the pain is you getting one step closer to having your LO in your arms

 

[scaredmum2be]

How far gone were you when you miscarried??

Mine wasa silent miscarriage i didnt feel a thing, that was around 9 weeks x

i was 13 weeks when i miscarried i never got a scan but the heartbeat might have stopped earlier but the baby came out at 13 weeks so it was horrible an now im 16 weeks on this preg i stil panic as i know the pains of a miscarriage was bad but i didnt think it would be like that. in some ways i wished id miscarried earlier because it wud of been like a normal period but i sure felt the last one an never liked it one bit.

Im hoping i get to see LO in my arms this time i am just scared i think lol im such a worrier even though my midwife is nice an she says ill be fine i dont feel able to talk to her bout things that arew worrying me so i just keep it in for so long an then i go crazy lolx

 

[FebMum2Be]

Don't keep everything bottled up, if you don't feel comfortable talking to your midwife you know we are all here for you anytime you need advice or a rant.. It's only natural to worry after going through a miscarraige I'm sorry for your loss, but try to enjoy your pregnancy.. And try not to worry x

 

[Lovisa]

I can understand your worry hun. I feel the same.
My MC lasted for about 3-4 days and it was very painful but they kept me in for a week as not everything had come away.
I hated every minute of being in that hospital not only because of my MC but because the staff there were appalling, no one seemed to understand/give me comfort and they decided to let me go home after a week in there and still expect me to come back for afew more days again.

I think as long as we are relaxed, like a few other people have already said and don't panic to much whilst we are in labour the pain shouldn't be that unbearable. Plus you will be so excited that little one will be with you soon so you'll be happy to do/go through anything to bring him/her into the world.
lol think I went on abit to much, hopefully you know where I'm going with it though xx

 

[Toonlass]

The pain of labour slowly builds up so as the contractions are getting stronger your body releases a hormone to help you cope with the pain and you kinda get used to the waves. Its so hard to explain as its like a pain you can't describe, not in a bad way, but in a strange way.

I cope brilliantly with labour using deep breathing and trying to relax, i didn't need any pain relief until the end and i only had gas and air. I also had a freak out time and asked for the epidural but it was just as i started pushing, i think its normal to panic during transition but i am going to try and avoid it this time as i know what to expect. Deep breathing and relaxation is important i think xx

 

[scaredmum2be]

ty girlies
I was in hospital for a night even though the pain was unbearable (physically and emotionally) they let me out the next day everything was complete so i seen it in the wee bowl .
The hospital staff were usless i got nothing either an hubby wasnt allowed to stay with me. ive been blaming myself an sometimes cant help it.

i have to keep things bottled up because im terrified of this pregnancy to be honest. I really wanted the other baby so much an lost that one an i know i am greatful for this chance to but feel that i wont be able to bond an that im not respecting my memory of baby T. think ill shut up now lolx

 

[scaredmum2be]

I will be speaking to me midwife about anitnal classes ty ppl x

 

[Leanne and Andy]

Dunno what to say because i have experainced any of them...just didnt want to read and run xxxxxxxx

 

[angel87]

having experienced a miscarriage, but never labourim thinking that mc pain is more painful because if you know its happening its going to be emotional pain and something u dont want to happen.
where as labour pain is painful but something good and something that u want to happen, so therefore the pain in labour is a good pain and because ur emotions are happy as opposed to sad its wont be so bad!?!

wow that sounds so jumbled. lol hope it makes sense.
xxx

 

[scaredmum2be]

having experienced a miscarriage, but never labourim thinking that mc pain is more painful because if you know its happening its going to be emotional pain and something u dont want to happen.
where as labour pain is painful but something good and something that u want to happen, so therefore the pain in labour is a good pain and because ur emotions are happy as opposed to sad its wont be so bad!?!

wow that sounds so jumbled. lol hope it makes sense.
xxx

it does make sense, alot of ppl have told me that a miscarriage was worse than labour pains and ive got to come to terms that i will see a beautiful baby in my arms, would seem more real then x