Hi, please note: I'm interested in no cry methods, not to upset or offend anyone else; just personal preference.
This is where I'm at... our 5 month old co-sleeps with us. I set myself up (and him) very carefully to make sure he's in the safest position. This usually ends up with me hanging off the bed tensed up, so even if he sleeps I don't get good quality sleep. That said, I manage quite well without sleep ( thankfully)
He will not sleep in his moses basket except being transferred onto his front. So I will only let him sleep on his front during the day when I'm wide awake and available to check all of the time. Note: he has rolled both ways but is less experienced rolling front to back. Naps tend to be in my arms or on the sofa most of the time. It seems I have to rock or nurse him to sleep for every single nap with the exception of walks and car journeys. He's getting heavy and sometimes it takes ages and I feel like I've just rocked him most of the day, it seems I've created a sleep association I don't know how to break
I thought about waiting till 6 month's and skipping to the cot in his room ( I know this is a big jump!). P.s i think the laws of physics will not allow us to fit his full cot in our room ( ive heard some babies just dont like moses basket). Today for one of his Naps I put him down (moses basket) until he squirmed, comforted him and ended up picking him up when he was getting too upset and repeated. Eventually he was frustrated and even cried when he was in my arms he pretty much cried to sleep in my arms. I don't want to be inconsistent but at this point I felt it was important for him to sleep so that he didn't get hysterical so I popped him on his front next to me on the sofa when he finally fell asleep. We discovered this recently because we have basically held him for 4.5 months straight and it's hard to do anything.
Personally CIO is not for me, he gets distressed really quickly and I just don't feel I can do it.
Any advice on where to start? Should I develop a solid bedtime routine and nap routine for the next 4 or so weeks and then try and introduce the cot? Should i start now with the cot just for naps? I cant get him to sleep on his back though without waking. Or do I start everything all at once? Any good books or links?
Sorry for the essay! I've read so much but don't know what to do, I kind of want a plan so I can be consistent and not send mixed signals.
This is where I'm at... our 5 month old co-sleeps with us. I set myself up (and him) very carefully to make sure he's in the safest position. This usually ends up with me hanging off the bed tensed up, so even if he sleeps I don't get good quality sleep. That said, I manage quite well without sleep ( thankfully)
He will not sleep in his moses basket except being transferred onto his front. So I will only let him sleep on his front during the day when I'm wide awake and available to check all of the time. Note: he has rolled both ways but is less experienced rolling front to back. Naps tend to be in my arms or on the sofa most of the time. It seems I have to rock or nurse him to sleep for every single nap with the exception of walks and car journeys. He's getting heavy and sometimes it takes ages and I feel like I've just rocked him most of the day, it seems I've created a sleep association I don't know how to break
I thought about waiting till 6 month's and skipping to the cot in his room ( I know this is a big jump!). P.s i think the laws of physics will not allow us to fit his full cot in our room ( ive heard some babies just dont like moses basket). Today for one of his Naps I put him down (moses basket) until he squirmed, comforted him and ended up picking him up when he was getting too upset and repeated. Eventually he was frustrated and even cried when he was in my arms he pretty much cried to sleep in my arms. I don't want to be inconsistent but at this point I felt it was important for him to sleep so that he didn't get hysterical so I popped him on his front next to me on the sofa when he finally fell asleep. We discovered this recently because we have basically held him for 4.5 months straight and it's hard to do anything.
Personally CIO is not for me, he gets distressed really quickly and I just don't feel I can do it.
Any advice on where to start? Should I develop a solid bedtime routine and nap routine for the next 4 or so weeks and then try and introduce the cot? Should i start now with the cot just for naps? I cant get him to sleep on his back though without waking. Or do I start everything all at once? Any good books or links?
Sorry for the essay! I've read so much but don't know what to do, I kind of want a plan so I can be consistent and not send mixed signals.
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