Hunnie
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Ill admit straight away that I honestly feel like the biggest brat ever and I feel so ashamed of myself
Basically my problem is based around mine and OHs housing situation and the stress and we are going through with buying our first home together.
We have both been looking at houses for a while and are currently going through the process of buying a particular house (but aren't in deep enough that we cant get out of it all still). I absolutely adored the house when we first saw it as it suited both me and OH as it provided him with parking for his car as well as a double garage to play in whilst I got the cute country cottage type of house that I have a real soft spot for. The problem with most houses in our area that are of the price bracket we can afford is that very few provide off street or adequate parking so it is a real important factor for us.
The problem has now arisen in the back of my mind that we are making the biggest mistake ever buying this house and that we need to get out while we can and take our time in finding something that is more suitable as essentially we can afford to rent for a few months once the baby is here until we find the house for us.
I think the only way of explaining to you all why Im feeling like this is through pro's and cons.
PRO'S
The house is in the country side and it is very quiet.
There is adequate parking for both mine and his cars.
The house inside is cosy.
The house is cheap to heat and run because of its size.
Furniture is supplied with the house.
The double garage means my car will get fixed a lot sooner if its poorly.
CON'S
There is a massive electricity pylon behind the garage and another in the field about 40m away.
The area is quiet but a bit too quiet and we only have one next door neighbour and then nobody for a good mile or so and I would be on my own a lot with the baby because OH works really unsociable hours and isnt home a lot.
The house only has a lounge and a kitchen downstairs.
One of the bedrooms is big enough for the baby's cot but in the long term it isn't big enough for an older child.
The land to the side of the house isnt owned by the house and is instead the next door neighbours and he wont sell or might possibly sell but at a hefty price. He has also made it clear he will object to any building consents.
We agreed a deal with the owner to pay £10,000 more for the house than what it was valued at.
I worry that we would struggle to sell the house again and would then be stuck with it or end up loosing money on it.
Overall I feel such a fool because I just feel that I forced OH into agreeing with me and putting up with all the sellers crap because I worried that we wouldn't find anything else suitable, instead of going about all this in a much more sensible way and taking our time . I also think the fact that we are paying more money for the house than its worth is just absolutely stupid, especially as there are bigger houses for sale for that amount of money and I think we will soon outgrow the size of the house .
Am I right to be worrying about it all do you think?
Basically my problem is based around mine and OHs housing situation and the stress and we are going through with buying our first home together.
We have both been looking at houses for a while and are currently going through the process of buying a particular house (but aren't in deep enough that we cant get out of it all still). I absolutely adored the house when we first saw it as it suited both me and OH as it provided him with parking for his car as well as a double garage to play in whilst I got the cute country cottage type of house that I have a real soft spot for. The problem with most houses in our area that are of the price bracket we can afford is that very few provide off street or adequate parking so it is a real important factor for us.
The problem has now arisen in the back of my mind that we are making the biggest mistake ever buying this house and that we need to get out while we can and take our time in finding something that is more suitable as essentially we can afford to rent for a few months once the baby is here until we find the house for us.
I think the only way of explaining to you all why Im feeling like this is through pro's and cons.
PRO'S
The house is in the country side and it is very quiet.
There is adequate parking for both mine and his cars.
The house inside is cosy.
The house is cheap to heat and run because of its size.
Furniture is supplied with the house.
The double garage means my car will get fixed a lot sooner if its poorly.
CON'S
There is a massive electricity pylon behind the garage and another in the field about 40m away.
The area is quiet but a bit too quiet and we only have one next door neighbour and then nobody for a good mile or so and I would be on my own a lot with the baby because OH works really unsociable hours and isnt home a lot.
The house only has a lounge and a kitchen downstairs.
One of the bedrooms is big enough for the baby's cot but in the long term it isn't big enough for an older child.
The land to the side of the house isnt owned by the house and is instead the next door neighbours and he wont sell or might possibly sell but at a hefty price. He has also made it clear he will object to any building consents.
We agreed a deal with the owner to pay £10,000 more for the house than what it was valued at.
I worry that we would struggle to sell the house again and would then be stuck with it or end up loosing money on it.
Overall I feel such a fool because I just feel that I forced OH into agreeing with me and putting up with all the sellers crap because I worried that we wouldn't find anything else suitable, instead of going about all this in a much more sensible way and taking our time . I also think the fact that we are paying more money for the house than its worth is just absolutely stupid, especially as there are bigger houses for sale for that amount of money and I think we will soon outgrow the size of the house .
Am I right to be worrying about it all do you think?
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