dina.marie
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hi everyone. i havent been able to open up to close friends and family but i thought it might help if i wrote things down and maybe tell you so here we go....
i lost my little bean last week. i went to the hospital after a bit of spotting but i was sure i was fine, the docs thought everything was ok too. then two days later it happened. i never realised having a m/c was so horrific.
i thought it was just like having a very heavy period. i just escaped having a blood transfusion and i am only just out of hospital. they still dont know whether to give me a D&C, i have to go back next week.
i thought i was 11 weeks but the doctors thought i could have been a few weeks further cuz of how much i was bleeding. that would have meant i was more than 12 weeks!!! why did it take my body so long to realise something was wrong. or maybe i was having twins? ( twins run in my family).
when they took me for the scan in hospital and she told me my uterus was empty she said it was small so it could have happened some time ago. what does that mean? hours? days? weeks? i never really had any pregnancy symptoms. i thought i was just lucky.
what i find so frustrating (im sure im not the only one) is that i did everything right. folic acid, exercise, nutrition, stop smoking and drinking...even stopped caffine!... i know i was just the unlucky one in five but it just frustrates me.
every week i would look up on the net my babys development, bean could kick and punch, arch its back, it had all its fingers and toes and it could wee. i was gob smacked at that. i dreamt i was having a baby girl. and i already was getting a bump. strangely the day before it happened i thought my tummy was unusually flat.
my fiance was devastated but now he seems fine. im still moping around in my dressing gown with unbrushed hair. how long will this last for? im desperate to ttc again but i dont want to fall pregnant whilst im still greiving for bean.
has anyone been told how long bleeding can last for? and when they can start trying again? or when they'll get their periods back?
the hardest thing im finding at the moment is getting used to being not pregnant anymore. it took me so long to get used to being pregnant and feeling pregnant ive now got to get my head to do a u-turn.
wow that was an essay,. maybe it did help writing it all down. ..........
i lost my little bean last week. i went to the hospital after a bit of spotting but i was sure i was fine, the docs thought everything was ok too. then two days later it happened. i never realised having a m/c was so horrific.
i thought it was just like having a very heavy period. i just escaped having a blood transfusion and i am only just out of hospital. they still dont know whether to give me a D&C, i have to go back next week.
i thought i was 11 weeks but the doctors thought i could have been a few weeks further cuz of how much i was bleeding. that would have meant i was more than 12 weeks!!! why did it take my body so long to realise something was wrong. or maybe i was having twins? ( twins run in my family).
when they took me for the scan in hospital and she told me my uterus was empty she said it was small so it could have happened some time ago. what does that mean? hours? days? weeks? i never really had any pregnancy symptoms. i thought i was just lucky.
what i find so frustrating (im sure im not the only one) is that i did everything right. folic acid, exercise, nutrition, stop smoking and drinking...even stopped caffine!... i know i was just the unlucky one in five but it just frustrates me.
every week i would look up on the net my babys development, bean could kick and punch, arch its back, it had all its fingers and toes and it could wee. i was gob smacked at that. i dreamt i was having a baby girl. and i already was getting a bump. strangely the day before it happened i thought my tummy was unusually flat.
my fiance was devastated but now he seems fine. im still moping around in my dressing gown with unbrushed hair. how long will this last for? im desperate to ttc again but i dont want to fall pregnant whilst im still greiving for bean.
has anyone been told how long bleeding can last for? and when they can start trying again? or when they'll get their periods back?
the hardest thing im finding at the moment is getting used to being not pregnant anymore. it took me so long to get used to being pregnant and feeling pregnant ive now got to get my head to do a u-turn.
wow that was an essay,. maybe it did help writing it all down. ..........