My baby doesn't sleep - day or night!

[CARNAT22]

Just wanted a moan (any advice much appreciated of course)

I know it's 4 month sleep regression time and it's 19 week leap time BUT the non sleeping is driving me mad.

She has never been a good daytime sleeper and its usually cat naps for maximum half hour. Occasionally she'll have a good 2 hour sleep.... but never at home.

Nighttime has gone from being ok (she would sleep in 3 hour stints) to being a nightmare (she wakes 2 hourly - max) and she just wants to suckle. We're co-sleeping, she refuses a dummy and although I've tried she won't take extended feeds in the evening.

I am shattered. I am grumpy.

Anyone else have / had a non sleeping baby?

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[queenriccy]

Oh Carnat, Its hard but im sure it will be linked to the 4month regression. We suffered really bad from it and Olly still hadn't got over by 7/8 months. I can totally sympathise, but you have James to look after too so it must be doubly hard.

Just sending you hugs and hope it passes soon

xxx

 

[Allthingsgirly]

I can't offer advice so will be looking for some myself because my little boy is similar to your little girl on a daytime. During the night I have no bother I get about 7/8 hours sleep with the longest being 12 hours which he has only done the once.

 

[CARNAT22]

I subscribe to the "sleep breeds sleep" school of thought (it always worked for James) so I wonder if her not napping well in the day effects her sleep at night?

It's been at least 2 weeks of very little night-time sleep and the only time she has had anything more than 30 minutes in the daytime is when we are out... Although those longer naps don't seem to have helped with the nighttime sleeping

She has maybe 4 cat-naps a day and even they can be a fight, I have to feed her and wait until she has properly nodded off before I can pop her down.

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[Allthingsgirly]

She sounds just like how my little boy is during the day! At the moment I am having some mommy alone time whilst he sleeps but it is quite rare that he is happy to do this! I normally have to be holding him for him to sleep any length of time during the day & even then it isn't for very long! The longest he sleeps is when we are out & about which makes m think could it be the motion that he likes? I am thinking of investing in a swing seeing if that may help with helping him sleep a little longer. Trouble with mine is he just gets so bored so easily which then makes him frustrated & he fights sleep a lot!

I can't really complain though as I do get sleep on a night as he must tire himself out that much that he just sleeps! He can be up from anytime after 6 though & that will be it then until he goes back down for his night time sleep.

I can hear him waking up now & he has had a grand total of about maybe 1/2 hour sleep which means since he has been up from 8.30 this morning till no he has had 1 1/2 hours which isn't too bad for him! I'm thinking of taking him on a long walk but I've got to think about his feeding times & the fact I am so unfit at the moment I don't think I could manage to walk there & back lol

 

[Loula]

I had a non sleeper in the day from day dot. Max of 30 minutes.
Unfortunately it didnt reallt affect her night sleep although until probably 9 months ago still woke in the night.

 

[buzz]

Another rubbish daytime sleeper here. He went 6.5hours today without so much as a cat nap!

 

[Kay Kay]

Hi nat matthew was a cat napper up until he was about 6 months. The advice we were given was to put him down for naps in the same place he slept at night. It took a few months but he started napping longer. Unfortunately he didn't start sleeping through properly until he was 15 months (not what you want to hear). they're all different though x

 

[Toni.C]

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time.

My LO is fab at night but can also be rubbish in the day, even if we're out. We had periods were he'd get up at 8 and be awake all day until he went to bed at 9/10. We invested in a swing because he's a very sicky baby, I'd put him in this during the day a few times and it would often settle him enough and he could nap up to an hour and a half each time in it. Not ideal I know, but it was the only way I could get things done without having to hold him whilst he slept. He can still be a bigger now, often only napping half an hour 2 times a day.

Have you got a sling? Maybe wearing her and your movement might help to settle her and she may sleep longer, again not ideal for the long term but may give you some respite for the moment.

 

[Rooster30]

Urgh, no advice. My girl is horrendous in the day. Will sleep on me for hours if she could (she can't, I have a son). If I put her down she either sleeps for 30 minutes (at best) or wakes immediately. At night she isn't too bad, goes every three to four hours more or less - last night after having only two half hour naps, she slept all night long.

I really don't know what to suggest as would love to get my girl napping in the daytime too. I have my HV visiting on Monday so will definitely be asking for some advice.

 

[Dotty_woman]

I know you're a childminder Nat but do you have my scope to take your kids and those you look after for a walk during the day? That's good for helping little ones nod off for a bit. xxx

 

[littlemonkey]

I know you mentioned previously about your daughter being a sicky baby and being more high maintenance than your son. I know you've got advice from the doctors and hv too. But your daughter sounds so much like my eldest son was with naps. He wouldn't go longer than half an hour regardless of what or where and even getting him to have that half an hour was a struggle. One we got his reflux addressed he literally started napping for two hours at a time straight away. I honestly believe he was struggling to sleep cos of discomfort.

 

[CARNAT22]

Thanks for all the replies ladies. Seems a lot of you have a non day sleeping baby. I could cope with one or the other but it's both for us.

Last night she slept from 9pm-1am (James woke at midnight though but that's unusual) then it was 3am and 5am and up for the day at 6.30am.

Littlemonkey she has been much better since she hit 12 weeks (19w today) she has been happier, calmer and much less high maintenance. I just don't think she liked being a baby?

She doesn't show any other signs of reflux / milk intolerance other than being quite a sicky baby. Her sickiness has *touch wood* eased off recently too although she does have periods she is more sicky than others.

Dotty I am not a child minder (sis was training to be one) and we do tend to go for long walks everyday but it's only if we're "out" like the zoo or aquarium or somewhere noisy she sleeps for a few hours.

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[kumber]

I really feel for you - I don't have a sleeping baby at any time of the day. The only way I was able to get him to sleep during the day was to play white noise for him and leave my hand on his chest until he conked out. That might not be helpful for you having two but I do think white noise is extremely helpful.