Miserable at christmas

[darkriver]

I have known my oh for four years. We were best friends but we decided to try a relationship. We have now been married 8 months and have a little girl together who is 15 weeks today. I have realised that I dont love him any more. Everytime I try to tell him, he makes me feel guilty so I will take him back and change my mind. We were trying for another baby, but I dont think I can any more.

What do I do.

 

[Mum2betash]

I'm sorry I don't really know what to suggest. The fairest thing to do would be to tell him and try not to feel the guilt. Though I do know exactly how you feel as I'd felt like this twice and then gave in twice. I'm happy to say though that a few years later and we are happily married, have a little one and I am so in love with him. So glad I didn't leave. Do you think it might be a phase that you could work out or you 100% don't love him and don't want to spend the rest of your life with him. I certainly would not be trying for another baby as its not fair on the child. Xxx

 

[H16]

Since having my LO I have had moments where I actually can't stand my OH and want to leave, from what I have heard from speaking to other new first time mums it seems that a lot of women feel this way on and off during the first few months of LO's life. I think it is partly hormones and partly struggling to adjust to the change in dynamics in your relationship. Are you sure this isn't just a bad patch? Have you felt this way for a long time? x

 

[Holi]

I would sat if you've just started feeling this since LO arrived - it may just be hormones? I don't believe in staying together for children but I do think that you should try your god damn hardest to make it work (if possible)

I do think that maybe take a break from ttc baby #2 until you have worked out how you feel

Big hugs and hope it works out for you x