shineresolve
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Hi
I lost my baby three years ago now. It was my first and only and I struggle every day to this day with it. I am having counselling etc which helps but has made me feel more than ever raw and so emotion intense about my baby.
It is a big struggle and I am on here to see if other people feel similarly. And maybe to help other people see the light in the loss. I have been through so much in this time and each day try and give myself peace to keep going.
At the time of mc I just went through the motions. And I didn't take it all on now as I wish I had. I googled mc and feelings of birth. I particularly now look over the mc as a birth and a right with my baby. I was 8 weeks, it was a missed mc. I was very young and just put all my effort into enduring the pain and surviving. But now I think of the baby and that time so much I view it like closure. The pain and suffering is etched into my mind and I view it like a birth. It can be so negative to feel the pain and guilt only. You have no thing as an outcome, you only have pain.
I try and view that period as a birth where I had my motherly time with my baby and contracted for her to come. Its I understand a strange perhaps hippy-ish view but I can find noone talk of this. Am I mad?
Other mums must feel the same. Although it feels like it destroys you, I find myself thinking about the actual act of losing her. If I had to do it again I would be more natural with it, allow myself to have that birth. I think all the time about the loss and it was my only true time as a mother as a woman to her. Does anyone know what I mean?
I lost my baby three years ago now. It was my first and only and I struggle every day to this day with it. I am having counselling etc which helps but has made me feel more than ever raw and so emotion intense about my baby.
It is a big struggle and I am on here to see if other people feel similarly. And maybe to help other people see the light in the loss. I have been through so much in this time and each day try and give myself peace to keep going.
At the time of mc I just went through the motions. And I didn't take it all on now as I wish I had. I googled mc and feelings of birth. I particularly now look over the mc as a birth and a right with my baby. I was 8 weeks, it was a missed mc. I was very young and just put all my effort into enduring the pain and surviving. But now I think of the baby and that time so much I view it like closure. The pain and suffering is etched into my mind and I view it like a birth. It can be so negative to feel the pain and guilt only. You have no thing as an outcome, you only have pain.
I try and view that period as a birth where I had my motherly time with my baby and contracted for her to come. Its I understand a strange perhaps hippy-ish view but I can find noone talk of this. Am I mad?
Other mums must feel the same. Although it feels like it destroys you, I find myself thinking about the actual act of losing her. If I had to do it again I would be more natural with it, allow myself to have that birth. I think all the time about the loss and it was my only true time as a mother as a woman to her. Does anyone know what I mean?