****** May 2015 Mummies to be *******

[Orion]

There's no specific time, but your employer is supposed to provide a safe work environment for you. If you feel the amount you are standing carries health risks now you're pregnant, you need to raise it with your boss for a resolution. Not just casually mention it but have a proper discussion/meeting about it. If he doesn't agree you're at risk, get your midwife/doctor involved.

If you had 1 leg and it was causing pain to stand all day, the employer would have to do something about it as they're causing an unsafe work environment for that person. It's the same with pregnancy.

I thibk youve been very polite so far. If I were in pain, I'd get myself a stool. If my boss said anything about it, I'd give him the option: work sitting down, or go off work with your pregnancy pain. Either way you're protected by the law.

 

[buttonbear]

Durham thats bloody awful he wont let you sit!! Bless your OH, I hate when people get like that grr!

I'm certain there is legalities re standing and sitting etc while at work, do you have HR dept?

 

[Orion]

http://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/1992/3004/regulation/11/made

This is all I could find. So if you're in a job that you can mostly do sitting, you should legally be allowed to sit if you want to.

 

[Durhamchance]

In order to contact HR I would have to phone head office as it's not based at our store. It is actually quite difficult to serve from a sitting position, but I only use the stool when I'm not serving. One of my managers is lovely and fetches me the stool without me even mentioning it. SHE has no issue with me sitting between serving customers. I don't stop working when I'm sitting either, I do the updates to the customer database on the computer.

I think you're right Orion, I need to request a meeting to discuss my requirements at work as I feel the current arrangement is deteremental to my health and that of my baby. I often start feeling a little dizzy or fuzzy headed and I'm sure it's down to blood pressure. I could have cried last night as I was in pain, but worse it made me feel vulnerable and unable to protest?

 

[buttonbear]

poor you, make sure youre getting adequate breaks too! Could they give you a swivel stool so you can manoeuvre while serving, but i guess any stool is better than no stool! I don't get why its soooo bad to have a seat between serving.

Orion is right i would have firm words about it all with him.

 

[caseysmummy11]

If its causing you pain Durham they shouldn't make you stand constantly. Like you say it's not as if your not working when your sitting and it's in between serving that you sit anyways. My employers have been very good. My job is on my feet all day but my manager said if I need to sit down then to do it. My one supervisor dud say I'd I needed to sit occasionally I wasn't fit for work but my manager had a word and explained that she had allowed it. I work in a hospital and would sometimes get funny looks if i was sat down not doing my job but I would explain im pregnant and struggling withmy hips and that usually put things right. Have you had a risk assessment? I would definitely explain how it affecting you and see what can be put into place. It's only a temporary thing after all, your not going to be pregnant forever so I can't see why he's being so funny about it.
I've lost my energy again too and feel the constant need to rest again, but im not sure if that's the after effect of my 24 hour bug or whether it's gone again completely lol. I've spent the afternoon Filling in my scrapbook. Printing and copying all my scan pictures. It's finally coming together now yay! It was looking really bare. Going to need some more ink for my printer now though. Feeling really crafty today. Going to get my knitting out when my little boy goes to bed I think. Xxx

 

[Flosi]

sorry to hear you are having a hard time at work! It is so difficult being on your feet all day.

Don't think my energy came back, but with cold weather, painful back and hips, not mention the terrible condition my skin appears to be in I'm not feeling on top of the world. And they say tri 2 is ment to be the best !

 

[blueeyes34]

Hope things improve at work Durham.

Has any one else got itchy boobs? Mine are so itchy, not my nipples they are just super sensitive, but my blobs are so itchy I could literally sit and scratch them. Is it another one of those pregnancy things? xx

 

[NatEvz]

Mine are itchy when I first take my bra off but for the last week or so they have been so so sore. I haven't had this in any of my previous pregnancies past the first 12 weeks. Pregnancy is so odd sometimes xxx

 

[TashaWink]

I would say I want the stool, or go get it myself. Like the others have said you can't be expected to work in pain!

Orion - well done for your dog! Massive thing taking their space. You should download crying sounds and play that too. Get a doll also for him to be used to a small thing that's not a chew toy

I guess I've got energy-rearrange the LOs room today as we bought him a new bed.

 

[Elliott]

Ahh snow, I'm terrified of slipping

 

[Durhamchance]

I'm not allowed out when it snows lol! The boss puts his foot down

Luckily we've not had any here yet this morning, but we did have an earthquake that I slept through! I slept through the last one too

 

[Elliott]

I'm not allowed out unsupervised in the snow haha lots of snow is ok it's s little bit that gets slippery.

Half day today though and get to see how the decorators are doing as they start the painting today!!! (Should finish it today)

 

[Jessiecat]

Interesting question for you all - i've just been reading the "visitors" thread in tri 3 (naughty i know!) so i asked my hubby who he would want to visit and when and he replied saying he doesnt mean to be selfish but he would love for his parents to be the first visitors as it's their first time doing this. I have a son from a previous relationship so mine have done this before i guess. But we are incredibly close to both sets of parents and they are both local, so what would you do in this scenerio?
Who's parent's do you choose to be the first visitors? I understand it would be different if parents lived far away or if you weren't that close but that doesn't help me in this situation lol.

 

[Orion]

I'd let your OHs parents be first.

I'm not sure I want any hospital visitors. I think I would prefer them to wait until we were home.

 

[Orion]

Totally different topic. It's the Aldi baby event today. I got loads of stuff for less than £25, and I had a £5 off voucher from the paper. Bonus!

 

[Elliott]

Yeah i'd say maybe OH's parents first, or maybe just who ever is kind of available and can get there first? If you think your parents are happy to wait, what i guess would be maybe an hour, then I'm sure the inlaws would be chuffed to bits

I'm pretty sure i don't want anyone to come see me in hosptal. May not be an issue as any family are hours and hours away and I think I'd only really anticipat friends wanting to visit if i was kept in for a good few days, if I manage just an overnight then people can come round the house as and when. (Although if totally honest I'd love to be left in peace just me OH and littl'un for the first week but realise people can be keen to visit, my dad I'll be happy about as he's easy going and I won't feel judged haha!)

 

[Mayflower85]

Interesting question for you all - i've just been reading the "visitors" thread in tri 3 (naughty i know!) so i asked my hubby who he would want to visit and when and he replied saying he doesnt mean to be selfish but he would love for his parents to be the first visitors as it's their first time doing this. I have a son from a previous relationship so mine have done this before i guess. But we are incredibly close to both sets of parents and they are both local, so what would you do in this scenerio?
Who's parent's do you choose to be the first visitors? I understand it would be different if parents lived far away or if you weren't that close but that doesn't help me in this situation lol.

I don't want my inlaws visiting in hospital, and I've already made it clear to my other half! I'm happy for my parents (hopefully my mum will be at the birth anyway) and siblings to visit, but inlaws will have to wait until we're home. I find MIL to be very overbearing and loud, she doesn't let me get a word in. If I had my way she wouldn't be visiting us at home either lol.

I get where your partner is coming from, but whether his parents visit first or second it's still their first grandchild so it'll be a special moment regardless? Sorry I am no help lol.

Totally different topic. It's the Aldi baby event today. I got blankets, hooded towels, soothers, medicine, nappies...loads of stuff. For less than £25, and I had a £5 off voucher from the paper. Bonus!

Wow, bargain! I never go into Aldi, maybe I should have a look tomorrow!

 

[Orion]

Well I got three cellular blankets in different colours, two hooded towels with owls on (all 100% cotton), two avent soothers, a baby calpol, sudocrem, one of those catch the spills rubber bibs for when they're older, and a pack of 44 newborn nappies for under £25 total.

 

[bigbee]

My mam and my brother live in the same city, but my my OH parents live 500 miles away.

My mam will be the first to see the baby. But...as much as I like her boyfriend/partner, I want my little brother to see the baby first.

Oh, I told my OH I didn't want my mam to be at the birth, but I might change my mind.

I've also told him that I don't want any of his family to come and stay with us straight away, as I don't want people in the house. His mam will probably come up a couple of weeks or so later. We just want some "our little family" time first.