Well long story, posted about 2 weeks ago as had a scan as had bleeding...dont want to scare anyone as had bleeding in 1st preg, girl and turned out fine....preg 2 no bleeding, boy, he was fine too....3rd preg omg!! had a scan 2 weeks ago who said its either stopped growing or wrong dates, scanned again tues. Baby def stopped growing at 5 weeks, maybe less. Knew it would be that, as we were 100% sure on dates. Emotioanally in fine, as have 2 healthty children, it was a tadpole and not even formed so must be something wrong with it. Sounds like it was not even a fetus there, only sack, and baby didnt form. If it was 1st preg then would be v hard. my mate lost one at 19 weeks, had to give birth, so i count myself lucky. Not wanting to scare anyone honestly, just want to make ppl aware of the risks i occured.
Had 3 options;
Had dinner then had to rush to toilet again and this time it splashed up the wall, hubby said to go to a&e.
They said if you soacked more than 2 pads in a hour to go. I was sure it would be 6 tena lady grandad size pads! but mine was down toilet. So called ward where they dealt with m/c. Lady said it sounds ok, but if i feel the need to go to a&e then go, but its up to me!!! Lucky hubby made me go, parents came back to babysit and put kids to bed.
A&e was so embarassing, parent gave me tena pads to wear that were my grandads, huge. was so embarassing but honestly without them i would have flooded the floor. work men were staring at me! was mortified, they watched me as i was queueing up to check in. must have thought i was in labour, but im a skinny size 6! or had dihorrea! not a m/c!!! Saw me half and hour later after pushing them to see me (they couldnt understand)...then inside a&e they left me 2 hours, staff just walking up and down coridoor not doing anything, iw as reading a book so obviously looked fine but tena pad hid it!. After calling ppl in, soaked 2 tena pads with eveidence of clots. Staff thougt it was nornal and said oh yes tablets for stomach ulcers, (used for too)take last dose of tablets. HAd about 4 stafff tell me to take them. luckily i didnt...
eventually gynae came and saw me. Then within 5 mins had about 6 staff in my room. Had me on 2 drips. Blood pressure was dangerously low, had 4 litres of blood on standby. NEarly fainted as was so weak, im not squemish just cause of loss of blood. Then was sick. Gynae was fab, he said no dont take tablets, lucky you didnt. why didnt i come in hours ago?! I said i called twice and they thought it was normal! Needed to look down there at bleeding. So did.
This bloody hurt, he put in the clamp thing so fast it was sore, then with these bbq like tongs he scraped away inside me womb...honestly thought he was just having a look, not do what he was doing...he pulled sack away, and alot of blood. Bed was covered. Nurse, who was so lovely, had to go out as weazy but hubby said later she was upset, bless her. Hubby in tears telling me not to die on him.
Gynae said he stopped bleeding, he thought. Pulled away sack, it didnt want to detach from my womb and caused me to bleed heavily as a result. If i wanted to look at the sack i had no choice as he showed me when he put it in a test tube thing!! I was actually quite interested but can imagine some ppl to be upset by it. He asked if i wanted it myself to dipsose of, which i didnt...
Anyway he said to stay in, assess blood and if it doesnt stop had to go to theatre at 5am ish. Fabulous. He asked if i had children, and wa glad that i did. I should have asked what he would need to do in theatre, as i recon now if it wouldnt have stopped it would be hysterectomy. No beds in hospital so ended up on some old ppls ward! ha ha. But bleeding stopped, had anohter gush but only when stood up for a wee 2 hours after, prob what was left. But after that like a period. Had a tear at about 2am for what id been truough. could have died.
Went home next day at about 3pm.
Anyhows long story. But just want to warn ppl out there about risks. was the best option for me, in my opinion, but honestly if anyone goes through this go to A&E. If i wouldnt have gone, id have bleed to death, they said. I was honestly going to go to sleep in my bath that night as too much blood to mess up my bed!!! i woulnt be here now. Blood still low and on iron tablets. Bloodpressure still low and still lightheadded but didnt stop me going on a hen party following night! Im lucky really, ready to get ready for baby no 3 agian tho, wouldnt put me off. Just hope i can have another home birth cause of bleeding in womb. Just thinking of 3rd stage.
Pls ppl be aware of risks.xx I wish i would have read up on things b4 i decided things. although looking back id do same again as risks seemed lowest.
Had 3 options;
- to let nature take its cause, which i was already 10 weeks and still no sign of misscarrying although a little spotting. Chance of infection and if not worked then would need tablet or Op anyway
- Medical managment to take the tablets, small % chance of failiure, 5% chance of hospitalisation as bleeding and hemoraging.
- Op to vacume out the contents, but 5% or so chance of them rupturing cervix and them going into the bladder and then through Kidney. or a 1% chance of hysterectomy.
Had dinner then had to rush to toilet again and this time it splashed up the wall, hubby said to go to a&e.
They said if you soacked more than 2 pads in a hour to go. I was sure it would be 6 tena lady grandad size pads! but mine was down toilet. So called ward where they dealt with m/c. Lady said it sounds ok, but if i feel the need to go to a&e then go, but its up to me!!! Lucky hubby made me go, parents came back to babysit and put kids to bed.
A&e was so embarassing, parent gave me tena pads to wear that were my grandads, huge. was so embarassing but honestly without them i would have flooded the floor. work men were staring at me! was mortified, they watched me as i was queueing up to check in. must have thought i was in labour, but im a skinny size 6! or had dihorrea! not a m/c!!! Saw me half and hour later after pushing them to see me (they couldnt understand)...then inside a&e they left me 2 hours, staff just walking up and down coridoor not doing anything, iw as reading a book so obviously looked fine but tena pad hid it!. After calling ppl in, soaked 2 tena pads with eveidence of clots. Staff thougt it was nornal and said oh yes tablets for stomach ulcers, (used for too)take last dose of tablets. HAd about 4 stafff tell me to take them. luckily i didnt...
eventually gynae came and saw me. Then within 5 mins had about 6 staff in my room. Had me on 2 drips. Blood pressure was dangerously low, had 4 litres of blood on standby. NEarly fainted as was so weak, im not squemish just cause of loss of blood. Then was sick. Gynae was fab, he said no dont take tablets, lucky you didnt. why didnt i come in hours ago?! I said i called twice and they thought it was normal! Needed to look down there at bleeding. So did.
This bloody hurt, he put in the clamp thing so fast it was sore, then with these bbq like tongs he scraped away inside me womb...honestly thought he was just having a look, not do what he was doing...he pulled sack away, and alot of blood. Bed was covered. Nurse, who was so lovely, had to go out as weazy but hubby said later she was upset, bless her. Hubby in tears telling me not to die on him.
Gynae said he stopped bleeding, he thought. Pulled away sack, it didnt want to detach from my womb and caused me to bleed heavily as a result. If i wanted to look at the sack i had no choice as he showed me when he put it in a test tube thing!! I was actually quite interested but can imagine some ppl to be upset by it. He asked if i wanted it myself to dipsose of, which i didnt...
Anyway he said to stay in, assess blood and if it doesnt stop had to go to theatre at 5am ish. Fabulous. He asked if i had children, and wa glad that i did. I should have asked what he would need to do in theatre, as i recon now if it wouldnt have stopped it would be hysterectomy. No beds in hospital so ended up on some old ppls ward! ha ha. But bleeding stopped, had anohter gush but only when stood up for a wee 2 hours after, prob what was left. But after that like a period. Had a tear at about 2am for what id been truough. could have died.
Went home next day at about 3pm.
Anyhows long story. But just want to warn ppl out there about risks. was the best option for me, in my opinion, but honestly if anyone goes through this go to A&E. If i wouldnt have gone, id have bleed to death, they said. I was honestly going to go to sleep in my bath that night as too much blood to mess up my bed!!! i woulnt be here now. Blood still low and on iron tablets. Bloodpressure still low and still lightheadded but didnt stop me going on a hen party following night! Im lucky really, ready to get ready for baby no 3 agian tho, wouldnt put me off. Just hope i can have another home birth cause of bleeding in womb. Just thinking of 3rd stage.
Pls ppl be aware of risks.xx I wish i would have read up on things b4 i decided things. although looking back id do same again as risks seemed lowest.
x
So glad you're ok, and I can't believe they kept telling you it was normal!! So sorry for your loss 
