Livid doesnt cover it......

[Jayceesmumma]

U know what? Fuck him right off u deserve so much better!! What an arsehole!! It's only going to get harder with a newborn, cut your losses now and get rid!!

 

[cosmicgirl]

Agree, I'd get rid x

 

[EssJayPea]

He sounds like a bellend. Why are you even with him? You sound like a lovely girl. Give yourself some credit, you deserve better xx

Ps sorry that's not.much help x

 

[Hunnie]

U know what? Fuck him right off u deserve so much better!! What an arsehole!! It's only going to get harder with a newborn, cut your losses now and get rid!!

Couldn't have said it any better! There are so many amazing men in the world, why waste your time with a loser like him??? He isn't worthy of your attention xx

 

[tabbi]

i have had my fare share if arseholes hunni but hes in the top 3. you shouldnt move in with him hun, he's using his job against you. your not a junkie if he trys use it againist you say your willing take a random drugs tests to prove.
If you move in with him he's going to get worse hunni to the point your family will probably ignore you when you complain then if something serious goes wrong they will feel so guility about it.
you need to think about you and the baby do you really want him to control everything and every aspect of your lives.
Even though it his parents house you will still be entitled to housing benefit and council tax....you will also get working tax credit. and if you leave him CSA he cant deny you.
Just do whats right for you and the baby x x x

 

[Squeakz]

What knob rot. He sounds a wicked wicked man who obviously doesnt care for you otherwise he would trest you like a queen. Its totally unacceptable. Id tell him to fuck off with his nasty wweed and to not come back until hes learned respect and how to behave like a man. And i would definitely not move in with the nasty boy. You deserve sooo much better than that hun so much better as does your baby x

 

[monkeynut]

Sorry but this post is infuriating! He is emotionally and mentally abusing you. Why are you with him? Seriously, it's a genuine question...why???

 

[Jayceesmumma]

How old is he?

 

[Sassyjane]

He is 32

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Really?? I'd have said early twenties.. At his age he should bloody know better and know how to treat a woman! Especially one carrying his child..
I know it's easy for us to sit here and say leave him but u need to really think how your life is going to be staying with him..xx

 

[Sassyjane]

He keeps picking fights then when i say there isnt alot i can say in reply i get "oh so your giving up as usual"..... This might sound petty but i think he wants me to tell him its over cos he doesnt wanna be the one to do it, and im not backing down, if he calls it off ill have an easier time all round with my parents (is that being childish???? Maybe it is, or just hormonal)

 

[Sammyxo]

No way would I move in with this man. Never! I couldn't think of anything worse x

Agreed. Why would you plan to let your child live with this guy when he's being such an ass? If it does happen to be a girl do you not see him calling the girl names like he does to you? Or leaving you both? If it's a boy he'd probably teach him to talk to you like a piece of sh*t. The child would also see smoking weed as normal/cool and pick up the habit eventually.

He keeps picking fights then when i say there isnt alot i can say in reply i get "oh so your giving up as usual"..... This might sound petty but i think he wants me to tell him its over cos he doesnt wanna be the one to do it, and im not backing down, if he calls it off ill have an easier time all round with my parents (is that being childish???? Maybe it is, or just hormonal)

Call it off!!! Don't wait for him to do it, you really need to get rid of this guy unless he cleans his act up (and he has a LOT of cleaning up to do!)
My OH is 26 was a full on smoker for years and I was always worried he'd never quit. The day I told him I was pregnant he packed in the cigarettes and has not smoked since! Couldn't be more proud of him. He used to smoke weed back in his uni days too but quit when he got with me as I wouldn't stand for it. People who smoke weed (in my experience) have awful mood swings, are lazy and stubborn, not someone you want to expose your child to.

I am really concerned not only for your stress levels/and the welfare of your baby whilst you're pregnant but how is moving in together going to help this situation at all???

Get rid of him now before it's too late, if not for yourself think of your little baby who doesn't deserve to be in a situation like this. Who cares what your parents think? If they don't back you up then screw them.

 

[Kayelle]

Agree with everyone. I thought he was in his teens the way you were talking about him. I hope you find the courage to leave ASAP !

 

[Sassyjane]

Todays little ray of sunshine...... "so your well enough to go to work but not to come and see me" (he lives 45 miles away from my parents and the car journey is a killer for me, plus i can barely stand now after a training day, dont know how ill manage when kids are back on wednesday!!!!

 

[tabbi]

LEAVE HIM ITS THAT SIMPLE. be the bigger person hunni x x x

 

[SeonaidMac]

I have to agree with everyone i was with someone who although he wasn't physically abusive he used to torment me senseless he too smoked weed and wouldn't stop said it was the only thing that helped his 'back pain'... i left him... it was hard i was with him for over 3 years but one day there was something he said that just made me realise enough was enough we had a young puppy who he wasn't toilet training and he was feeding her last food at 2am because he slept for so bloody long... poor dog...

It wasn't easy leaving it was like he had some kind of hold on me... but i did it and i've never looked back... honestly hun you don't need him... you might think you do and wonder how you'll manage on your own but trust me... you'll be far far better off... xxx be strong.. xx

 

[TundraOwl]

I agree, I was with a morphine addict for 2 years, and was being emotionally blackmailed and abused, get out now while you can, you will look back once you are out of it and realise his behaviour is not acceptable, good luck Hun, you've got to think of you and the baby xxx

 

[Sassyjane]

Thanx girls, just gotta find my nerve to do it, im all but resigned go being a single mum and ill be better off, just scary doing it xxx

 

[tabbi]

it is hun, i did it and so much better off you'll have so much help offered and take it all hun. you'll be brilliant and happier as you won't feel like your been put down. good luck to you it takes alot to leave someone when a child is involved but if better for you. we are all here for ypu no matter what hun x x x

 

[Sassyjane]

Thanx Tabbi that means soooo much, the support from the girls on pf is immense and makes things so much easier xxx