Just shows what a controlling bully he is!!

[flaxen]

Ive basically had enough of being bullied and treated like a slave, and it came to a head when i stood up for myself and my husband turned round and said its his house his rules if you wont obey them then leave. So i am, and because im going to take our daughter with me as im her main carer and always have been and have done everything for her hes had a court order put on me saying im incapable of looking after her and that as long as im not allowed out the house with her he feels shes safe!!

So im not allowed out the house with her unless he gives permission ( which he wont ) and this is what hes saying the papers mean. Im desperately trying to find some legal help but being unable to afford a solicitor who can help me im struggling.

He was fired from his job at beg of september for gross misconduct and still does nothing to help me with her. Ive even found a house for me and my daughter to live in. Just thought i give you an update.

 

[flaxen]

Im now completely alone as he spends all his time outside and im not allowed out so cant see my friends and he wont allow my dad to visit me, i cant even talk to my mum as she repeats everything to him.

 

[merlin]

Wtf! I dont really know anything about the legalities of what you are saying he has done, but surely he cannot do this! What is going to happen if you do leave the house or if your dad comes round? He cannot keep you and lo from stepping outside. This is the first I have read of your woes so dont know the ins and outs,

 

[diane]

Agree with the above. Surely this cannot be right? I can't understand how a court would ever agree to something like this?!

 

[kinkers]

How awful! I'd definitely look into the true meaning of the papers, it doesn't sit right that the court would issue that without any proper investigation etc and if he said it was the only way he felt safe then surely social services would have got involved?! Do you work at all? I not you might be entitled to legal aid. Give Citizen's Advice a call and see what they suggest.

 

[diane]

Have you seen these papers?

 

[flaxen]

Yes ive seen these papers and have seen a solicitor and do qualify for help, he called social services in earlier in the yr when i wanted to leave and they declared me fit and of sound mind and that they had no concerns and closed the case. If you search threads by me you will get the gist. My solicitor has said he wont win and i have professional health workers and child minder who are writing reports in my defence! This will come back to bite him where it hurts!

 

[LikeJohnnYoko]

Yes ive seen these papers and have seen a solicitor and do qualify for help, he called social services in earlier in the yr when i wanted to leave and they declared me fit and of sound mind and that they had no concerns and closed the case. If you search threads by me you will get the gist. My solicitor has said he wont win and i have professional health workers and child minder who are writing reports in my defence! This will come back to bite him where it hurts!

Please talk to WomensAid asap and get their advice/help with getting you and your little one out as soon as possible. You need to get to safety, you need to get in contact with your parents and the police if necessary. It is not okay or legal to keep you captive in a house cut off from your friends and family.

 

[SunnySue]

Absolutely agree with ljy, please get help asap. It is not right or legal to keep you captive no matter what his 'papers' say x

 

[inky]

I think he's bullshitting you. No court would just issue an order banning a mother from leaving the house with her child if social services said there was no case to answer. Pack a bag, take your child, and leave.

 

[Jayjay027]

I think he's bullshitting you. No court would just issue an order banning a mother from leaving the house with her child if social services said there was no case to answer. Pack a bag, take your child, and leave.

Wss 100%

Tapatalking

 

[mylullaby]

I think he's bullshitting you. No court would just issue an order banning a mother from leaving the house with her child if social services said there was no case to answer. Pack a bag, take your child, and leave.

Absolutely get out. Now. Go somewhere safe. If you won't go to the police, go to a friend's house and call them from there. It sounds like you've got so used to being treated badly that you're going along with it because you think this is normal. It isn't. He can't keep you under house arrest. Just go. Take your daughter and leave.

 

[Heather85]

I dont see how any court would say that it is better to keep a child indoors all day, rather than outside, and surely if taking her outside with you makes you a danger to her, then whats the difference indoors.

Sounds like he is trying to manipulate and control you love.

Hope your ok xxxxx

 

[knopk@]

he is actually holding you captive. Get out pronto!

Tapatalking so cant see signatures

 

[CeeCee]

Theres no way on earth a court will order you to stay in that house with your daughter. The only thing I can think of that sounds even a little bit close to what you're saying is a prohibited steps order..?

Leave & take your daughter asap.

Good luck xx

 

[flaxen]

Yes thats what it was, the judge changed it so that i can move to my new house and take daughter with me. Hes now just being nasty, he will have her 2 days a week until hes proved that he will help through the night and from the first night after court decided he was only having her monitor every other night, he then decided the monitor didnt work ( even tho it does with me, i also have a 2nd one so that if he doesnt sort her out in night i can ) so he would take her from her cot while shes asleep and put her in his bed when he goes to bed so he doesnt have to get up in the night. He still wont get up at her set time when its his night, io have to go and get her up and do her morning routine while hes gone back to bed.
Last night he went to bed at 8pm and watched tv soo loud i could hear it on the monitor i have as hes opened her door wide open, it was disturbing her so i pulled it to like it is normally on a night. She woke up in the night and he didnt sort her so i did and he had another go at me again, saying im ruining his time with her, er no you didnt get up!! When he surfaced this morning hes accused me of stealing his wedding ring because hes not put it somewhere safe!!! Also he had her yesterday as my mum is taking her to scotland next week while i move our things out ( so she doesnt see and get upset ) so he wont have her on tuesday and instead of taking her out for the day he basically banned me from being in the house and said i should have stayed outside all day!! I came in at 4pm after having been out nearly all day and meghan wanted to see me and he wouldnt let her so she got really really upset!!!

 

[iWitch]

Hi - you really need to contact social services for support and advice. Given what you said in your last post, I'd be concerned about his ability to care for your daughter and I'd be voicing this to them too. He obviously is into mind games which depending on how far he'd go this could be considered mental abuse which is no good for your wellbeing or the child's. Social services will be able to assist you in coming to agreement regarding your daughters care. Unfortunately social services are seen as a negative due to the amount of people who have them become involved because of the way they look after their children when really they are also here for times like this.

Also I don't know what court in their right mind would authorise such an order without proper consultations taking place, i.e. Social services, health visitors, etc. They effectively denying based on his concerns not actual risks which I'm sure there will be no legislation that covers them to do this. xx

 

[yuku]

I wonder why you choose t o marry this guy at the first time? What reasons result him in treating you like this?

 

[LoopyLouize]

I wonder why you choose t o marry this guy at the first time? What reasons result him in treating you like this?

I don't think comments like this are appropriate to be honest.

Flaxen I agree with the girls. . Contact social and see what advice and help they can provide. What a horrible situation to be in. X

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[mylullaby]

I wonder why you choose t o marry this guy at the first time? What reasons result him in treating you like this?

Definitely not an appropriate comment.