Is it totally inappropriate...

[Piglet's Mama]

...that I want to drop kick my MIL?

She is totally getting on my t1ts! She thinks she knows bloody everything and can't seem to respect any decisions we've made!

Long story short, she wanted to buy us a baby bath, we said we didn't want it and since we've told her this, she has made comments like "Well, I'm going to get it anyway as I think it will come in handy" and when she asked OH what we were going to do re bathing baby & he said in our bath, sink/basin etc She said "Well you've obviously never had a baby before have you?" NO WE FRIGGING HAVEN'T! BUT PISS OFF & WE'LL FIGURE IT OUT JUST FINE! ROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOAR!

It winds me up because even if I decided I didn't want a pram which is obv 100% essential, she should respect my decision not try to bloody undermine me!

I hate her!!! x

 

[jodied]

Aww hun I hate it when people try to interfere and/or take over! We didn't bother with a baby bath and just put Ella straight in the big bath using a support. Much easier than filling and carrying a baby bath in my opinion! Can you not get your OH to talk to her and get her to back off?! x

 

[nmf1987]

oh bloody blimey. why do people have to get invovled so much. its your baby and you will do things your way whether they be wrong or right its your decision. its hard as you dont wana cause problems but like jodie said i would get oh to talk to her as she would probably take it better from him. xxx

 

[KellyHook]

O hun! She does like to have a input doesn't she! I remember when she was giving you name suggestions! DO what you want to do, you need to make your own decisions on what works for you and your baby! Would your OH have a word with her? (My OH is such a mummys boy so it would be difficult for me to ask him to tell her to back off)

I never used a baby bath and it worked perfectly fine for us, and we are not buying one this time! We are buying one of those big bath sponges in the baby shape, we had one for brooke and it was brilliant she loved being able to kick and splash in the water!

Xx

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

oh I really feel for you - the amount of times I've had to bite my tongue during this pregnancy due to people thinking they know best! Try and block it out (easier said than done, I know) and eat lots of chocolate xx

 

[Xcitedmum]

lol I think you should let her go ahead and buy the bath, then set it up nicley in your front garden with a great big plant/tree in it - that should help her get the hint hehehehehe

 

[teampc]

oh hun i know the feeling, almost everytime i see mil she says or does something that makes me want to scream at her, honestly she drives me completely potty


her latest little treats for you all


she is going to ask if she can retire later in the year, so she can look after the baby all the time for me, we said that wasnt needed as I am now working from home and we have everything set up, so she said 'but i want to' so hubby tried again to tactfully say we werent interested, still she argued, then he went for a different tactic reminding her of the 2 grandkids she already has living with her (which are the reason she isnt getting her hands on mine, those kids are a frigging nightmare cus of her) so then he just told her, we dont need you to do that, we have everything sorted...still just before she left she said she was going to find out about it....aaaaaarrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhh f*** off and leave us alone


then......this little nugget of annoyance

'you better ring me the moment you go into labour so I can come to the hospital otherwise I will be really upset with you'

now firstly, sorry but you are going to be the last thing on my mind when I go into labour, secondly I dont want you there, and thirdly why should I care if you are upset, its not a consideration you ever seem to make when saying or doing things to us
Hubby told her, he will let her know when baby is here but theres no point in her coming to the hospital and stuff like that (cus we know she will want to be in while Im having it, and quite frankly I think at that point I should be allowed to kill lol)


sorry.....you've set me off now lol im getting annoyed just thinking about all of her stupid comments and annoying things lol

 

[nmf1987]

'you better ring me the moment you go into labour so I can come to the hospital otherwise I will be really upset with you'

i know this one very well. still having nothing to do with my mum cos of all this. its so hard but we all seem to have someone that gets on our tits and we just need to stay strong and keep doing things as we want to. xxx

 

[teampc]

why cant people just understand that its our time not theirs lol
no one seems to think about the fact that me ad hubby might want to spend that precious time as just us and baby




honestly i can see myself flipping out at someone at this rate lol my friend is at it now, wanting to come to the fricking hospital and come in and stuff......NNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

[nmf1987]

we have just said we arent telling anyone when i go into labour. just going to call them when he is here. too late then. lol.

might piss em off or upset them but i dont care to be honest it our choice and saves all the hassle. xxx

 

[Little Rose]

I seem to be having the total opposite experience when it comes to MIL. Mine doesn't seem at all bothered or interested in the fact that her first grandchild is on the way.

In saying that she herself is one of 16 (yes 16!) children so pregnancy isn't a big deal to her. She explained one night we were out for dinner that there could have been 6 of her sisters expecting at one time whilst she was growing up! When she said this it all started to make sense but I still thought it wouldn't kill you to ask how I am doing!

I know she will become interested once the little one is here but she will be the type to tell me to ensure I am getting plenty of rest and wee breaks away from baby - but she won't offer to look after whilst I am taking the breaks!

Part of me knows that I am very lucky that she is not interfering but sometimes I would like her to show even the tiniest wee bit of excitement about it!

 

[Little Rose]

Oooopps sorry folks! Am on my sisters computer and didn't sign in as myself! This is not Little Rose!

 

[Emerald rose]

How does she think people coped before baby baths? babies got washed in the sink.

 

[Piglet's Mama]

Thanks ladies - Xcited your idea totally cracked me up! Hehe!

Omg - why do people think they have the right to just be at the hospital? It winds me up something chronic!

I actually dreamt last night I was coaching hubby on what to say while he was on the phone to his Mum. He's a typical bloke & wants the easy life but he never gets it because if he placates his Mum he gets in the ear from me - it's the only thing we argue about! She advocates doing things your own way until the situ involves her & she can't handle it - hypocrite! I just want the opportunity to do things our way & not feel like if we get it wrong, she'll be there going "told you so!" Urgh - I really can't stand her x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

Nmf - I want to do exactly the same as you & just say "Surprise baby's here" instead of update 10 diff people every hour! No thanks! And if they don't like it, they can jog on! X

 

[wookie]

hehe my MIL's lovely but she drives me mad too...
she told me already about 3 times that she saw her other grandchildren within a few hours of them being born..hint,she wants to come and visit at hospital,to which I reply nothing,I think it annoys her haha..Told OH and he said we're not telling anyone when I'll go in labour and we'll allow visit when we're ready..don't think he would cope with his mum calling every 5 minutes !
Now she goes around and tell everyone who wants to listen that she's going to retire when I get back to work and that she'll be looking after the baby...don't remember having that discussion with her ? Of course I want her to spend some time with her grandchild but It will be on my terms and conditions !
ARGHHH ,I know she's only trying to help but what a control freak !!

 

[clairebear22]

I feel so lucky after reading this thread! I have the best MIL in the world!! She never interferes or offers any unwanted pearls of wisdom etc! It's her Mother i'm worried about (OH's Nan). I know she's old (70's) but by god that woman has no tact!

The wosrt thing she's come out with so far was when we told her why we're calling our Son Jack - basically my Grandad had a Brother who died as a child in an accident (we also loved the name). The old bat came out with "well lets hope history doesn't repeat itself"!!!!

We were in a holiday lodge at the time and lets just say if she'd have said it at the top of a hill i'd have let her wheelchair go down it!!! Good job she lives miles away in Bristol and we see her twice a year! x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

Why do all these nuts grandmothers think they're on babysitting duty? I'll be getting a little job in the eve & being with baby all day as my own Mum did with us until my bro was 9. Again, if MIL doesn't like it she can sod off!

Claire - your OH's nan is terrible! What a thing to say, you should have just pushed the wheelchair over x

 

[AyeshaD]

I simply understand your pain, I've sister in law where she thinks she knows everything and I DON'T just find it pure out of subject..when I tell her off she goes "am only helping you dear" like I dont need you am sure am fine with it.. So stay on to your ground and tell her off in nice polite way she'll gets the message also tell OH to talk to her as well as the girls said on above comments... accept her gift and put in the garden and plant it out so next time when she comes give her a tour around the garden for her to spot the difference lol... don't worry too much, just do what you feel and ignore those type of people..dont be afraid to say whatver you want in front rather being quiet show her that shes not wanted>

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

He's a typical bloke & wants the easy life but he never gets it because if he placates his Mum he gets in the ear from me - it's the only thing we argue about!

That could be me talking - me & OH are exactly the same! It literally is the only thing we argue about. And it always end up with me looking /sounding like I'm being unreasonable and a complete bitch, but he just doesn't seem to understand and doesn't see it as MIL interferring. He just CAN'T say no to her.

If anybody ever finds the answer to problem MILS they deserve a huge reward! I think it's the main problem in a lot of womens lives! xx