Is it just me

[kitty86]

Or is everyone else terrified they are going to go into premature labour.

I have been under alot of stress as some of you might know. I have had 3 water infection already. I just have a gut feeling something isn't right or something bad is going to happen. I know baby is ok I feel him moving all the time but there is that nagging feeling in my mind that something bad is going to happen.

When I say I am terrified I mean every little pain I have I am pestering the delievery suit. Im sure there fed up with me. I get myself in a tizzy about it every single day. I lay in bed and the slightest cramp or tightening I get worried and cry. It getting to a point where I really cant enjoy this pregnancy.

 

[ella]

Poor thing - pregnancy is such a worrying time anyway. Could you ask your midwife or obstetrition, they should be able to give you the reassurance you need, and then you will be able to relax and enjoy being pregnant

 

[Squiglet]

Oh dear hun.... You really need to stop worrying because the worrying could put you into prem labour.

You get loads and loads of niggling pains when you are pregnant. Tightenings common too because your body needs to prepare it's self for the labour.

My friend Jay in the UK said that her Braxton Hicks were so painful, it was almost like she was in labour.

But labour pains are quite different. You will definitely know when you are in labour because the pains are quite bad. Usually with prem labours the waters break too... and then you know to get yourself to hospital asap....

Plus they can do a lot nowadays... they can give you drugs to stop the labour, steroids the strengthen the babies lungs. And you now that if your LO can make it to 26weeks+ theres a good chance that LO will survive, even if it will be a little bit poorly.

I think every mum is worried about going into labour early. It comes with the territory. Now I worry that my daughter will get hit by a car or die in a traffic accident... so it never stops. You just have to not try and think about it... IF it happens you will know, and you will do the best you can...

 

[kitty86]

The thing is I never felt these feelings when I was pregnant with Leah. I didn't worry about every niggle or tightening. I am acting like its all new to me lol and its not I have been in labour and gave birth so I know what them pains are like.

When I get the niggles and tightenings I dont worry that I'm in labour I worry aboout the WHAT IF. I know its silly but I worry about what if he does come early and he is in one of them incubators and I cant look after him. Im not sure I would cope. Then I worry about the WHAT IF he does come early and dies. I know I am probably being hormonal and silly.

No matter how many times I pester the midwife about my feelings. They monitor his heart beat do internals and I can feel him moving so I know he is ok. Its wierd really difficult to explain.

 

[lisa&alex]

jesus!! does that mean im having a boy too then..i think the only way to describe it kirst is that we are ever so slightly irtrational.. both of us have had girls before and wernt as irrational.. lol...

u know what my feelings are on this.. mark needs to sort it out.. and take pressure off u.. xx relax..

 

[emma28]

hey hun

I haven't got any advice really, I just wanted to you know that having a prem baby isn't the end of the world. I know everyone thinks that they wouldn't be able to cope and its so scary seeing your tiny bundle in an incubator. And I won't lie it is hard but you don't even really think of it at the time you just get on and don't realise how strong you are being til everyone tells you after.

Not that I think anythings gonna go wrong or anything, just wanna try and stop you from being so worried

 

[moomoo192]

I think every woman worries about things going wronwith pregnancy but i think its harder if you've already got a child.

I know i worry a lot more about all sorts of things since i've had children, my main fear being water.

Everything will be fine, like someone said, there is a lot more that can be done for premie babies now than before and they don't usually come before they are ready anyway, i think if they do come early its because mother nature knows its best to finish cooking them off on the outside for some reason or other.

things will be fine, i know its easier said than done but try not to worry