Is is daft of me to be pissy with hubby for not bd'in?

[LouiseB]

...you know... with us not actually being able to conceive

His libido is kind of low anyway with his diabetes and neither of us feel particularly sexy carrying around our chunk so we don't have sex more than maybe twice per week, but then the other day i had globs of ewcm so i figured why not and we had a really good session

Then i got to thinking that OV wouldn't be for a couple of days and maybe his spermies needed flushing out, so having sex tonight too would be a good idea.

Well, he doesn't want to.

Part of me thinks, "well, no point pushing it because i guess we can't get pregnant anyway..." and the other part of me wants me to go kick him in the knackers because i guess we can't get pregnant anyway

I was thinking with all the babydust going around that maybe we'd get lucky but now i just feel stupid

 

[mustard]

I'd try to flatter his ego, it is a fact that the more good sex you get the more you want, therefore last nights session has just made you want more ...
Failing that try again tomorrow.

 

[Vickyxx]

Men not wanting sex ........ What is wrong with the world!!

Hell yes I would be pissed if it were me, just because you are getting help doesn't mean you should stop trying, one thing I have learnt from coming on this forum is to expect the unexpected, we see stories of ladies getting their bfp miracles frequently, just look at Starfish, Princess and Positivity.

Don't give up Lou you could well be the next one of us announcing your own miracle ..... Now tell him to get his pants off and do his manly duty!!!

 

[LoopyLouize]

Tie him up and have your way with him!!

Joke! Because of course that would be rape and we don't want that do we lol.

If I was in your shoes I'd be annoyed at being turned down - but then again that would be because I'm not used to it .. ( I'm not helping at all here am I??? Sorry lol I'll get to my point I promise! ) - personally if you really wanted to get your own way , I would subtly try to turn him on, if that fails to work I'd sulk and tell him the next time he fancies BD to enjoy his right hand because I ain't putting out ( that'll teach him lol ) !

X

 

[TiffanyJaynexo]

Shove him on a desert island with no contact with anyone, I'm sure he'll want some then!

This situation is something I hear a lot. Men not wanting to have sex, It is very strange yes, but perhaps they think it's a chore? Nobody wants to have sex when they're not in the mood, so you have to get him in the mood same goes for when the female is not in the mood and the male is. But even that can backfire and he could get annoyed :/ It's a very difficult situation to be in definitely.

You have every right to be pissed off at him.
If I was in your position with my OH, I would be sexy, walk around the house in my sexy lingerie, bend over right in front of him to reach my book on the bottom shelf, read my book in bed and fall asleep! Two can play that game xxx

 

[LouiseB]

lol

I know, crazy hubby

I didn't get it in the end but i guess it would have just plunged me into a 2ww followed by a BFN.

 

[LoopyLouize]

I hope you make him be friend his bloody hand the next times he's after a piece Lou!! ( obv not at Ov time!! )

Make him learn! Men ! Mehhh!!

Xx

 

[positivity :)]

I didn't get it in the end but i guess it would have just plunged me into a 2ww followed by a BFN.

if you dtd when you had ewcm you could still well be in with a chance!! xxxx

 

[vickib_1984]

hi louiseb

my husband is also diabetic type 1 and we also struggle with a bit of the other although his problem isnt not wanting it its being able to do it (sorry for the tmi) i understand how you feel and i sometimes think its me. because he takes viagra sometimes i struggle to get in the mood as i dont find it very sexy at all hes all fine in the reproductive area lol it all to do with me being so defective

hope you soon get your bfp

lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I know exactly how you feel. We only bd once a month but this month with the flu and the whole debacle that was opks I thought we should possibly bd again, but no. I do struggle because bd'ing just isn't part of our life so it feels kinda strange when we do x

 

[LouiseB]

my husband is also diabetic type 1 and we also struggle with a bit of the other although his problem isnt not wanting it its being able to do it

I'm so sorry, my hubby has been really lucky in that respect - it must be really frustrating for you both

Sometimes when my hubby is going through a phase of just not being in the mood, it can really knock my confidence - it's nice to know that others experience the same kind of thing.

I've never heard of someone referring to themselves as "defective" before in a serious context... you really are too hard on yourself

 

[LouiseB]

I know exactly how you feel. We only bd once a month but this month with the flu and the whole debacle that was opks I thought we should possibly bd again, but no. I do struggle because bd'ing just isn't part of our life so it feels kinda strange when we do x

Why do you typically only bd once per month? I suppose that's a bit of a personal question

It is really hard when they turn you down when you are brought up thinking that guys are supposed to thingk of nothing else once they hit 13.

 

[Princess81]

I'd be pissy too Louise, it's natural for you to want to take your chances, my friend was told she neeced IVF, it failed twice, then she got pregnant naturally, twice so taking chances does/can work!!!!

My o/h is still game (far more game than me) and its equally as annoying

Oh and women can't rape, just sexually assault

 

[cosmicgirl]

I know exactly how you feel. We only bd once a month but this month with the flu and the whole debacle that was opks I thought we should possibly bd again, but no. I do struggle because bd'ing just isn't part of our life so it feels kinda strange when we do x

Why do you typically only bd once per month? I suppose that's a bit of a personal question

It is really hard when they turn you down when you are brought up thinking that guys are supposed to thingk of nothing else once they hit 13.

We normally don't bd at all but are bd'ing once a month whilst ttc. We both have low sex drives and personally I just don't get any enjoyment from it. We don't really think about doing it, doesn't enter our minds. xx

 

[LouiseB]

Oh and women can't rape, just sexually assault

Is that true or are you joking?

Couldn't a man get an erection and cum from the sensation even if he really didn't want to? Or maybe not?

I feel i want to do a scientific experient on the subject now, but that is probably a bit illegal in itself

 

[LouiseB]

We normally don't bd at all but are bd'ing once a month whilst ttc. We both have low sex drives and personally I just don't get any enjoyment from it. We don't really think about doing it, doesn't enter our minds. xx

Ah well at least it's a mutual thing then at least

 

[vickib_1984]

i think i look at myself that way because i dont work properly hahaha i was also thinking about why you only bd'd once a month also (sorry) i think i manage about 3 times a week but then we get 2 whole weeks with nothing as AF is always around for that amount of time (sorry for tmi) but then i can have a 7 week cycle i just pray every month and get bitten on the arse each time lol xxxxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

We normally don't bd at all but are bd'ing once a month whilst ttc. We both have low sex drives and personally I just don't get any enjoyment from it. We don't really think about doing it, doesn't enter our minds. xx

Ah well at least it's a mutual thing then at least

Yeah but we're the worlds most useless ttc'ers lol xx

 

[Princess81]

Oh and women can't rape, just sexually assault

Is that true or are you joking?

Couldn't a man get an erection and cum from the sensation even if he really didn't want to? Or maybe not?

I feel i want to do a scientific experient on the subject now, but that is probably a bit illegal in itself

No that's actually true. It's because womens sexual organs aren't capable of ENTERING anothers body, so it can't be rape. So using fingers, objects etc is sexual assault as is tying them down giving them viagra and hopping on

 

[kedi376]

I'd be pissed off too, there is certainly still a chance for you to conceive naturally, even if it's a low chance. This is made even lower if you don't BD at the right time.

I'd definitely punish him for it