In need to speak to those who understand..

[Stef05]

Hi, I just registered on here today, its the first forum I have joined,dont know why its taken me so long. Trying to conceive can be a lonely place.
Most of my friends have children, everyone around me seem to be getting pregnant. I have been with partner for 12 years I am 32.
I have had a few tests and Laperoscopy everything seems to be ok
but no luck yet, my partner has lower sperm count. I was going to have IVF on NHS had the first cycle but was in a very stressful situation at the time and shouldn't have really started it, needless to say the first cycle failed. I then realised I wasn't ready to continue so stopped it telling myself I will go back to it
when we are ready to go through that again (and have some savings in bank)
I have barely spoke to my friends about this and my mum and family have no idea
they think I just dont want kids yet

Hope I meet some nice people who understand what im going through

 

[Gabrysia]

Hi Stef, so sorry to hear about your struggles. I really hope it will soon change and you will get your little one.
Please don't take it wrong way but I think it would help you to speak to your friends or to mum if you two have good relationship. Find someone who you feel you can trust and share it with. I'm sure this will help you to relax a little bit, all the process of tests and ivf is so taxing emotionally. Sharing with someone could give you strength to face your 2 ivf. I know that chatting to girls on forum helps but I find myself that talking to friend or my mum helps me most to face all the problems. I think combination of these two probably is the best but I'm not good with sharing my feelings on forum. My therapist "prescribed" me writing a diary, I haven't started yet, have to say procrastinating as I know it will make me cry but I need to build my strength and do it, I know it will be beneficial for me, maybe that's Sth you could try.
Believe me you're not on your own, be strong

 

[snowbee]

Hello and welcome. Sorry to hear you are feeling down.

I'm also 32, been ttc for two years. My family think we hate children and don't want any. None of my friends know about ttc either, I did tell one friend after out mc but I wish I hadn't as she wasn't very sympathetic and it made me feel worse. Now I dread seeing her as I know she is wondering if we are pg or not yet and it just makes me feel down. My friends seem split into two groups, those who have children and had no problems and those who don't want any and wouldn't understand so coming on here is great as you can talk with people going through the same things as you.

Good luck and hope that you aren't waiting much longer for your little one

 

[Gabrysia]

Hi girls, really sorry to hear snowbee that you didn't get support from your friend, sometimes people can be cruel not realising that. Definitely thisforum is a place where we can find someone who understands us, what we are going through.
I'm still resisting writing my journal, my therapist will not be happy with me, I just don't feel strong enough to write how going through menopause at my age and therefore loosing fertility makes me feel.
I really hope you two will find someone to confide in.

Lots lots of