I'm sorry but I'm finding all the pg women posting on here a bit .........

[Toonlass]

Post 49 actually does say like it or lump it. Doesn't bother me in the slightest but can see how some poeple would take this the wrong way as Clem seems to have done in post 63.

I see it now, cheers chick I don't think it was meant in that way tho but i suppose it doesn't matter how it was intended, its how it was recieved that counts

Its such a shame people feel the way clam does, it isn't pleasant feeling envy, i really hope you get your BFP soon hun xx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

me thinks like it or lump it was taken slightly out of context!!

 

[vixforever]

me thinks like it or lump it was taken slightly out of context!!

Yes, very much so. As Donna has also been trying for a very long time x

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Wow! Well I may as well add my two peneth too!

Ok when I read this I felt very very upset and immediately offended by Clems post!

Im sure none of us would deliberately gloat about the fact that we are pregnant given that I would say most of us have also been TTC a long time before we got our BFP and dealt with some heartache along the way.
And yeah I do remember seeing all the other ladies announcing their BFPs and thinking oh I wish that were me but at no point did I ever feel anything negative towards them or their pregnancies and like bonny I also used to look at the tickers as inspiration and believed I would have one too one day!

I cant and wont apologise for being pregnant, having a ticker or posting in the TTC threads as like a lot of the girls have said before me, lots of the ladies who headed off to tri 1,2 and 3 from the TTC room have been there for us all at some point and given us support, adivice and a shoulder to cry on when things have gone tits up!
I am particularly close to Mrsmc and Bonny as we joined around the same time and have been through a lot of things together so for me not to be able to pop into TTC and catch up with them is mad!

I love to pop in to TTC to see how my friends are getting on as like Cbear said she wont post in tri's until shes pregnant but that doesnt stop her looking in now and then! I dont feel that any of my posts since getting my BFP have been mallicious or intended to hurt anyone but simply offer advice and words of wisdom!
When I started reading this thread, I really felt like I maybe should not be posting in TTC but then thought hang on a minute.....I wouldnt be upset or offended if someone from TTC came and posted in Tri 1 with a TTC ticker.....now I know that may sound petty but its just the shoe on the other foot isnt it!!

So Clem....nobody will hate you for how you feel....thats how you FEEL....but please be aware that nobody here would ever hurt anyone else and like Toon quite rightly said we are all very friendly, supportive and understanding with everyone and eachother!

So when one of us with a PG ticker pops in to say hello, how you doing, offer advice etc etc etc take it as exactly what it is....friendly advice, a shoulder, a friend!

While I absolutely, and I really do absolutely understand your frustration at TTC.....you cant take your frustrations out of the rest of the forum who happen to have their BFP's, coz remember....we all wanted this so badly at one point too....

Sometimes we can feel a certain way and thats fine, but we can go about it the wrong way and asking us with tickers not to post in the TTC forum is quite frankly unfair, unreasonable and in my opinion wrong.

So please done be offended Clem nothing is aimed at you personally, nothing is amed at any of those of you still TTC....its just us doing what people on forums do....being friendly......

To you and the rest of the ladies TTC......good luck xxx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

wilma xxxx

 

[Toonlass]

Wilma, i wish i could have put it like that. Your a star.

p.s. sorry for bringing you into it earlier xx

 

[vixforever]

Thanks Wilma xx

 

[Heulyn]

Wilma, you star! I think that sums it up best x

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Thanks ladies.....I actually got really upset reading this and text a friend it bothered me that much...... I feel for the TTC's but like I said we have ALL been there at some point in our journey and know how that feels!

Im pregnant and proud and happy to offer advice, help, a shoulder or an ear to anyone in any way I can...I just dont want to be made to feel bad for being pregnant!

Hugs to you all....xxx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

oh hun, none of us want you to feel bad for being pregnant! you should be shouting it from the rooftops! you've been thru so much and have so much valuable advice for people

 

[Toonlass]

Wilma, everyone is mega pleased for you. Don't ever feel bad xx

 

[Mamafy]

Right guys I don't want this thread going round in circles and I hate closing threads so don't make me


We, the team and members have worked very hard I'm sure you'll agree to make this a really safe and welcoming place I have found nothing but total support from all members and we appreciate each and every one of you So noone change as then PF would change if you get me?
Clem I really feel for you hun I truly do, ttc can be a very long and sometimes lonely route. I ttc'd my youngest son for 6 years and it was hard but I did get there

I just don't see a solution for this. It simply wouldn't be fair on members who are trying to help to hide who they are which is why the signatures are turned on in the TTC forum and which is why they are turned off in the miscarriage and loss forum The more people who post in different sections you get to know more faces and it truly can help, each person here has something truly wonderful to offer.

I;m guessing we can't always know how another person feels so even though we might not agree with their opinions we should just agree to differ.

Now let me sleep

 

[mushy1]

I would just like to say Wilma your post really upset me, do you know why????????????????????????????????????


I miss you !!!!!!! x x x x x x x x x x x x

Thats all I have to say!!!

Other than......................................................... can we all be friends again now please..................... lifes too short as we all know xxxxxxxx

 

[LouiseB]

There is far too much oestrogen in this thread!

Someone makes a "Pregnant women in real life make me feel like crap" thread and everyone is full of empathy.

Someone makes a "Pregnant women on the forums in the ttc section makes me feel like crap" and everyone gets offended.

I love ttc'ers getting pregnant and i think it's fantastic that they are getting their baby - i love the sigs (especially that one with the fruit n veg) and i think they are a valuable resource for advice and information... but i admit i do get a little sensitive when they give pep talks

I get the feeling that Clem is just feeling sensitive too and looking for empathy from other ttc'er in the ttc section. She didn't go looking for trouble.

Put the pitch forks away ladies. Several people making repeat appearances to disagree with one person does feel like a gang up. Not necessary.

 

[vixforever]

I just think this thread is a tad out of hand now. But yes everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I won't repeat what I've said before but I think the best bet would be to just close this thread now before anyone else gets offended or feels ganged up on.

 

[Mamafy]

It would have been closed last night if I thought it was out of hand

It WILL be closed if we feel it need s closing, but I'd rather we had the thread left on a sweet note rather than a sour one, surely everyone is mature enough for that?

As I said last night I don't want this thread going round In circles (in other words the same people saying the same things )

If I find it does (admin will be busy this weekend) then the thread will be closed.

 

[clem]

There is far too much oestrogen in this thread!

Someone makes a "Pregnant women in real life make me feel like crap" thread and everyone is full of empathy.

Someone makes a "Pregnant women on the forums in the ttc section makes me feel like crap" and everyone gets offended.

I love ttc'ers getting pregnant and i think it's fantastic that they are getting their baby - i love the sigs (especially that one with the fruit n veg) and i think they are a valuable resource for advice and information... but i admit i do get a little sensitive when they give pep talks

I get the feeling that Clem is just feeling sensitive too and looking for empathy from other ttc'er in the ttc section. She didn't go looking for trouble.

Put the pitch forks away ladies. Several people making repeat appearances to disagree with one person does feel like a gang up. Not necessary.

If I may make a last comment before I go and find a ttc forum that is for women actually ttc - I would like to say that LouiseB summed up exactly what I was trying to say in every way. Louise your comment was spot on regarding how I feel and I do feel bullied off here now, which is sad for me, but I am sure I will find a happy place elsewhere. Also Louise, thank you for the many supportive posts you have sent and for being so perseptive to the feelings of others.

There are a couple of other people on here I would like to send my hugs and best wishes to as well. I am sure you know who you are to save me listing. I hope you get your bfp's really soon. xx

I hope a moderator does not close the thread as I know I am not actually the only person who feels this way - but I hope it can be left alone now as it appears to have caused a lot of bad feeling.

Clemxx

NB. I found my wife crying last night and have asked to finish this post:

Women like my wife who are trying to conceive are over-sensitive to other women being pregnant when they are not. I would have thought you would be more supportive of that and I am now trying to convince her to go it alone with only me rather than with a forum that doesnt make her feel good. I have to say that there are a million forums for pregnant women to chat on, and I completely agree that a ttc forum should only be for women ttc. I have no doubt she will come back here because she gets so low and I work late hours leaving her alone with it most days and nights, so please - if you must say something more, could you say something nice?
Logan

 

[snoop]

Hey Clem,
I just seen this thread i have been off for a while all i can say is , i really wish you and your husband a great future and good luck trying for your first child.
Good luck for the future and i hope you do pop on now and again to let us know how you are all doing and you don't have to long of a wait till your first child

Take care

Snoop xx

 

[Mamafy]

I'm sorry you feel the need to move on Clem but of course that is your decision I really hope you get that little miracle

Pregnancy Forum isn't JUST a pregnancy forum, nor is it JUST a parenting forum, nor is it JUST a TTC forum. It is a forum for all and every single one of you should post in any forum you deem to be able to give support

So, that this subject is not argued about all day; this thread is closed and will remain closed.

 

[Wobbles]

As members become more familiar with the forum they become more familiar with disabling their signature by un-ticking the signature box underneath either quick or advanced reply box when it's felt necessary.

I just wanted to add the little reminder/tip on turnng signatures off in individual posts x