i'm heartbroken-sort of updated :-/

[Gem & Leland]

fran i just saw this , i looked for this type of post after seeing your meet post .

id still love u to come to the meet with me ? be good to meet u and then you'll ahve another friend just round the corner to moan at if u ever need it ! im nearly always in and dont do festivals lol

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

aww love im so sorry this has happened
i really hope he sees sense and comes back
ive not got much advice sorry hunny but just wanted to send you some huggies.

sarah

 

[fran_23]

aww thanks Geordie

and g3m thats so sweet..i really still want to come i just don't want to be a bag of emotions! i will come it will probably do me good and Hayden .

heres whats happened..i'm still confused!!

Stew came round saturday morning he was looking after Hayden sat night so i could go out for my sisters birthday. We took Hayden to the park and they played footie and he played on the slide and swings etc..
he was being really flirty and touchy giving me hugs and telling me i looked nice n stuff. we went home, Hayden had a nap and we just listened to music and talked then i went to get ready to go out, when i came back in ready he was like oh my god you look amazing etc..i got upset and said don't be like this if you have no intention of coming back to me as it just hurts he apologized and said that he has his nans house to himself for a week as they are on holiday..he intends to spend that week alone with no distractions..(apart from work) so he can really think about what he wants..says he loves me but does not want to jump straight back in the way we were or we will just split up again in a few weeks and he knows it is no good for us or Hayden. He said he does not mean to f*ck me about and leave me waiting till he decides but cannot just jump back in again..he loves me but that is not the problem!?
he said something like "you will never be completley happy when i'm touring with my band but i think you'll just put up with for the sake of our relationship" still don't know what to think but it does sound like hes missed me and bubba and may decide to come home..don't know if i'll want him back after waiting around feeling shite though..lol

 

[Flame]

Its good you talked about it.

Are you going to be happy when he is off touring with his band? do you trust him enough?

If the answer to either of these is no then i would suggest its not going to work out and to save yourself more pain later on.

Is his band that big to be touring?

 

[fran_23]

Its good you talked about it.

Are you going to be happy when he is off touring with his band? do you trust him enough?

If the answer to either of these is no then i would suggest its not going to work out and to save yourself more pain later on.

Is his band that big to be touring?

his band are just taking off and are getting gig offers everywhere..
they have a sort of summer tour set out, i think the furthest they are going is like devon and leeds and stuff atm but they are being offered stuff in europe like italy and finland i can cope with that i'd rather be with him and see him less than not be with him at all..i went to the doctor today i'm going to get counselling for stuff i havent dealt with, i'm doing that for me i haven't told him..as any future relationship i get into will be the same, i've decided to work on me. he phoned me today and asked if he can come round tomorrow and see Hayden and watch a film we both wanted to see when hes gone to bed..wtf? i said ok but i'll just see how it goes as i said i need to work on my own problems then if we do want to get back together we might stand a chance of working it out.

 

[tuck]

i know it's easier said then done but i think you should tell him if he wants space from you then have it, yes come and see littleun but once he's in bed he then leaves, dosnt stay and watch a film with you etc. he's the one who said he needs space, play a little 'hard to get'. it will be hard, and i talk from experience here, but you will honestly feel better in yourself for it

 

[Gem & Leland]

fran hey u can get all the emotions out on the tube ride there and then have an amazing day ! i dont mind honest !

 

[fran_23]

fran hey u can get all the emotions out on the tube ride there and then have an amazing day ! i dont mind honest !

yeah i am gonna come i'll PM you my number so we can sort out meeting and what not!! doing stuff keeps my mind off it so its a good idea!!

 

[Tina & Gabs]

 

[trixipaws]

idk if my advice is the right one but what i would say if ur pining and he seems really unfazed then go back to how u get a man in the first place- remember people are more attractive when they seem independent, hard-to-get and not needy or too keen.

my boyf was a proper playboy when i met him so i pretended i was less keen than i was so's not to look foolish, but i think thats what made me so attractive to him i was the first girl not to fall at his feet and roll over i think. and its exactly what i'd do now 8 years later if he left me and didnt appear to miss me while i was brokenhearted and pining for him- i would do my utmost best to appear nonchalant and resist begging for him back or whatever. all the while make sure i looked perfect when he saw me and said funny things when he was with me- u kno just like u do when u first get with someone.

i kno technically its playing games and we shouldnt have to play games, but im just saying thats what i would do.

good luck im sorry ur going thru this i can only imagine it must be awful

 

[fran_23]

idk if my advice is the right one but what i would say if ur pining and he seems really unfazed then go back to how u get a man in the first place- remember people are more attractive when they seem independent, hard-to-get and not needy or too keen.

my boyf was a proper playboy when i met him so i pretended i was less keen than i was so's not to look foolish, but i think thats what made me so attractive to him i was the first girl not to fall at his feet and roll over i think. and its exactly what i'd do now 8 years later if he left me and didnt appear to miss me while i was brokenhearted and pining for him- i would do my utmost best to appear nonchalant and resist begging for him back or whatever. all the while make sure i looked perfect when he saw me and said funny things when he was with me- u kno just like u do when u first get with someone.

i kno technically its playing games and we shouldnt have to play games, but im just saying thats what i would do.

good luck im sorry ur going thru this i can only imagine it must be awful

thank you babe yeah thats what i'm doing, i havent rang or texted him so he has to ring me to come see hayden , then i just act like i don't care and i told him yeah we are better off apart..if its meant to be sorted out he can crawling back- if not then hey maybe he is right and we should breakup..i'm getting on with my life if he wants to be part of it then great if not...on ya bike son!! lol he can just be there for Hayden thats all that matters really!!