Husbands-helping or hindering?

[mylullaby]

I'm not saying don't ask honey, I'm saying don't refer to it as nagging. Of course you need support and of course he should be getting stuff done. It's a shame you have to ask but as long as you aren't left doing everything that's the main thing. xx

 

[MrsS143]

It feels like nagging when you're saying the exact same phrases over and over and they still dont learn or take the initiative to do it themself anyway lol!

 

[violet13]

It does feel like I'm constantly having to ask hi it's infiuriating xxx

 

[Stupidred]

Violet - try leaving his washing undone, hide one of every piece of cutlery and pot for you to use and wash for you and leave everything else. Make your side of the bed, only do your share and see after a week how he feels living in the mess. Eventually he will pull his finger out and put the pad down. Better yet, invite his mother round at the end of the week to come and see how things are and maybe he will realise that you need more help than he has been giving.

x

 

[KHTW]

I tell you, Ladies sometimes I feel like hugging my parents in law for the way they raised my OH... x

 

[Natalie_reid]

Sometimes I prefer if he goes on the Xbox as it keeps him quiet and I can do stuff I need to get done. My OH sees mess but ignores it unless I say will you do something lol x

 

[Sharmon]

My Hubbie is quite good for the most part, but he just does not seem to see the mess that I see, but when I point it out he will clean up ( though not always to my standards)! Today I had GTT so didn't have to leave house as early as normal, so took opportunity to clean up do laundry, Hoover etc. before leaving for hospital, when I got home from work I had my 18month old to sort out so when Hubbie got in I asked if he would carry Hoover down stairs for me, he said yes then forgot, I asked him twice more, finally when I went to get into bed & almost tripped over it, I went downstairs & said I'm asking you one more time before I do it myself, can you please carry Hoover downstairs for me- he promptly did it! But it's basically like he doesn't see it (the Hoover), or any mess in house unless I make a point of pointing it out & specifically asking him to do something about it! I suppose we were brought up differently, my mother is a clean freak & oh parents not so much! But it does get on my nerves sometimes as you do tend to feel a little like your nagging all the time, but I feel if I didn't everything would be left for me & if I didn't do it, it would be just left...