My husband and I dated for 2 years and lived together before we got married and we talked about children and I assumed that I would be ready one day.
We've been married for almost a year and he really wants a baby and at the moment, I am not ready. We spoke about it a few months ago and he said "we got married because we wanted children" but that's not what I remember!! I didn't rush to get married to have kids and he never said at the time that that's why he wanted to get married. All our friends were engaged and we had been together 2 years so felt like it was time. Now all our friends are pregnant or have kids and I feel like he wants to "keep up" but mylife doesn't revolve around what everyone else is doing.
I'm almost 30 but I'm not ready for kids and I don't think I will be anytime soon. He's 2 years older than me so I know he won't want to wait around forever but I just don't know when I will be ready....
I think some of the reasons that I am feeling this way is that I just don't feel like I am "in love" anymore.... we argue so much and when I am on my own I feel like I am happy and I don't miss him! we had a horrible engagement and I feel like I can now see the real him in terms of his real personality.... Sometimes he is so moody and I feel like I am walking on eggshells. Most of the time he is great to me and always helps me with everything and pays me compliments but he also has a mean, controlling and selfish side... when we argue he always makes it "my fault" and I need to apologise to him....he is never wrong...
Also, I really cannot stand my MIL as she is super interfering (at the moment, indirectly - through him) and I worry that she will always be around trying to take over as I see how she is with DH neice and nephew already..... if I never saw her again, I would be sooooo thrilled.
he is not abusive or anything like that... he can just be a bit mean and controlling and this really has started to put me off and is one of the reasons I am putting off having kids... I just feel like I may not love him anymore and feel like maybe I need to think of an exit route but I just don't know how........ I feel like it's better now rather than later.
please help me..... please don't post abusive comments. Also, I have been to therapy and was advised that it seems like I already know what I want to do... I don't think a therapist will make me change the way I feel abt him....
We've been married for almost a year and he really wants a baby and at the moment, I am not ready. We spoke about it a few months ago and he said "we got married because we wanted children" but that's not what I remember!! I didn't rush to get married to have kids and he never said at the time that that's why he wanted to get married. All our friends were engaged and we had been together 2 years so felt like it was time. Now all our friends are pregnant or have kids and I feel like he wants to "keep up" but mylife doesn't revolve around what everyone else is doing.
I'm almost 30 but I'm not ready for kids and I don't think I will be anytime soon. He's 2 years older than me so I know he won't want to wait around forever but I just don't know when I will be ready....
I think some of the reasons that I am feeling this way is that I just don't feel like I am "in love" anymore.... we argue so much and when I am on my own I feel like I am happy and I don't miss him! we had a horrible engagement and I feel like I can now see the real him in terms of his real personality.... Sometimes he is so moody and I feel like I am walking on eggshells. Most of the time he is great to me and always helps me with everything and pays me compliments but he also has a mean, controlling and selfish side... when we argue he always makes it "my fault" and I need to apologise to him....he is never wrong...
Also, I really cannot stand my MIL as she is super interfering (at the moment, indirectly - through him) and I worry that she will always be around trying to take over as I see how she is with DH neice and nephew already..... if I never saw her again, I would be sooooo thrilled.
he is not abusive or anything like that... he can just be a bit mean and controlling and this really has started to put me off and is one of the reasons I am putting off having kids... I just feel like I may not love him anymore and feel like maybe I need to think of an exit route but I just don't know how........ I feel like it's better now rather than later.
please help me..... please don't post abusive comments. Also, I have been to therapy and was advised that it seems like I already know what I want to do... I don't think a therapist will make me change the way I feel abt him....