How long after the birth did you..

[babybee]

Go to different events?
Hi ladies, I have 3 different things which I'm turning down but I wanted to see what other people did first.

Baby's due end of Feb.

Mid April my friend is having her hen party weekend. No concrete plans have been made, but I don't want to commit to anything in case they do some tiring things. The baby would be around 6 weeks, it would be too early wouldn't it for both me and the baby?

Then end of May my friend is getting married in Ireland. Children aren't invited so I'd need to leave the 3 month old with my mum. Would that be quite difficult for me to do? I think it would be.

Then mid June another friend is getting married in southern Italy and it'll be around 36 degrees. Baby's invited to this but I think it'd be too hot for her?

I wanted to know what you all thought and if you'd been in similar situations and what you did?x

 

[prettypenguin]

i think it is difficult when its your first,charlie nwver went anywhere without me for the first five months but with Freddie i left him with my mum a few days old to go for a meal. if i were you id try and go to most things that you wish to as you still need you time and time away from being in mummy mode,but obviously you won't want to straight away and people will understand. i think i left it far too long with Charlie i ended up with pnd and he's super super clingy x

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[CARNAT22]

To be honest I'd not commit to anything. I've not left James for longer than 90 minutes and am in no hurry to leave him.

He's two months now and I cannot see myself feeling ready to leave him overnight / for a few nights anytime soon.

I'd also personally not want to take baby anywhere that is too hot... At a young age they need to be at home, with their own comforts. Looking after them can be hard enough let alone in a strange place that is super hot. Saying that my sister took my nephew away when he was 4 months (they went to Spain in August!) and it was fine

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[l_maclean]

I went for an evening out (couple of hours dancing) when Georgia was about 3weeks, - not too far away leaving her with daddy. This was in preparation for a proper night out (only call in an emergent) when she was 2 months old)

Tbh, the first time is never easy whether it's at 2 weeks or 2 years. My theory was the younger we did leave her while we'd miss her, as long as alsge was fed, clean and comfy she wouldn't really mind.

I'd say it's difficult to make plans as every baby is different. Xxx


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[babybee]

Ok cool thanks ladies! That's reaffirmed by decision to turn these invitations down. I thought it would be difficult but as this is my first I just know that I wouldn't want to be leaving her and jetting off to weddings/hens.

Thanks again!x

 

[CARNAT22]

Also you have to consider the cost of these events?

A weekend long hen do and a wedding in Italy aren't cheap?

You may feel differently nearer the time, in which case you can book flights at a later date?

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[tweetyfoo]

I still can't leave Aaron for more than a couple of hours and he's 18 weeks old.

I would mark them maybe and decide nearer the time x


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[GiuliaClifford]

sorry about sounding negative, but I wouldn't go to a wedding where my little baby hadn't been invited!!!! I mean he's 2 months old at that point, it's not nice to ask you choose between your 2 months old and your friend

As of the week end in Italy, which part of southern Italy are you going to? if it's by the sea side or on the mountains or in the country, it shouldn't be too bad as the cool air will chill the 36' but if it's in a big town then don't go because the 36' would probably feel like 45'

 

[mrswoody]

I wouldn't commit to anything as you won't know when you're ready to leave LO. Everyone is comfortable leaving LO at different stages so it would be too much pressure on you.
I'm looking to take a holiday to Cyprus in April with OH and Madison, she will be 5 months old, it is cooler than in the summer and I can take measures to make sure she is cool enough and kept out of the direct sun etc x

 

[babybee]

Carnat, the cost is definitely something that was swaying me not to go. Cost of flights, hotels for my husband and I, the cost of a passport for the baby and then a gift aswell, it really put me off it all. It's just a shame that its all coming at once and so soon after the birth! Just felt bad as last year all these girls came to my hen do and wedding (though I made it nice and easy by doing a simple night out in London and my wedding was here too and they all live in London).

Giulia, the wedding is in Sicily so it would be close to the sea but that scirocco wind just makes it a bit too hot. I'm actually Italian myself and would love to take the baby to see my extended family out there this summer but I've been advised not too by my mum as she said when we were babies we didn't take very well to it at all.
As for not being invited, I know! She has a massive family who have loads of kids and on the invite it was a general 'no children allowed'.

Thanks twentyfoo and Mrswoody! All this advice confirms I'm doing the right thing and not being over-cautious.
I've emailed the Sicily wedding and hen do to let them know. I still need to RSVP to the Irish wedding.

Honestly, thanks so much for your advice ladies, it's been really helpful!
Xxx