How do men really think?

[scaredmum2be]

Also im a short person an was looking at prams in mother care with him an he was looking at the one with big wheels but i need one that would kinda suit my height and alter for him to he just walked past an said they cost abit of money! Men grr lolx

 

[MrsR]

Aw big hugs! What's he been like about other things before you were pregnant? If you needed to buy something how was he? Maybe he just doesn't know what to do? If only men could carry babies! It'd be much easier! Or if we had mind reading powers! He'll prob all change when bubs arrives! Have you discussed birth etc will he be there? Maybe he's scared because of what happened last time (not just mc but with his past) and doesn't want to get too attached? Could be self preservation thing?

 

[scaredmum2be]

he used to say depends on how much it costs when i used to want to buy things he used to be very stinjy with his money,
its only cos i wanted me own money for the baby hes decided to give me my bank account back.

His past was his past an hes getting help with therapy which hes been saying for nearly a year, ive tried to help him an ive told him i wont take his child away because im not like that but i feel pushed away so i cant seem to do anything right.
He should be thinking of us more now were his family now.

The only thing i can do is wait to see if anything changes when the baby arrives and see how he is with the baby.

Oh well a women can only hope lolx

 

[evajo]

I do feel for you but i was in a similar situation when i first got pregnant. I realised after my son was bron that my OH was just not going to be the hands on typr. It does upset me a little when i see other dads so close to their children. My OH supports us well financially and i have never had to work, unless i have wanted too, but it is a shame. Now the children are older he enjoys their company much more and has no choice but to be involved as they are there and children can be very frank and cunning about the attention they want.
Just stick with it, i don't know how old your OH is but sometimes older men can find it hare to adjust when they are set in their ways. I think for my OH it was fear, he had never been around babes and really didn't have a clue. When he did change a nappy (about 5 times all told) he managed everytime to put it on backwards! I love my kids and they are my life i have a moan every now and again about his ack of involvement but i would'nt change it for the world!

 

[scaredmum2be]

I do feel for you but i was in a similar situation when i first got pregnant. I realised after my son was bron that my OH was just not going to be the hands on typr. It does upset me a little when i see other dads so close to their children. My OH supports us well financially and i have never had to work, unless i have wanted too, but it is a shame. Now the children are older he enjoys their company much more and has no choice but to be involved as they are there and children can be very frank and cunning about the attention they want.
Just stick with it, i don't know how old your OH is but sometimes older men can find it hare to adjust when they are set in their ways. I think for my OH it was fear, he had never been around babes and really didn't have a clue. When he did change a nappy (about 5 times all told) he managed everytime to put it on backwards! I love my kids and they are my life i have a moan every now and again about his ack of involvement but i would'nt change it for the world!

Hey hun i think my OH is set in his own ways an hes oldish bout 35, it also upsets me when i see other men pushing the pram or gone in the card shop gettin mothers day stuff an things like that its just nice but my hubby doesnt think like that lol he doesnt see the need for half the stuff im on about lol.
I take it they never change then? i dont think my OH will cope that well with a bby like doing night feeds an things like that gud job im ere lol.

Did you learn to live with the fact of the way he is set in his ways? i dont try an change him but i cant explain enough of how it feels with me carrying his child he hardly wants to do much about. Basically he wudnt of thought to buy his mum a card for motheres day because he doesnt see the need to.

where as i appreciate the life ive been given an wud make the effort to make my mum a card even though she hasnt been there right thru my life, it will be me making sure my child has nice thoughts in life about thinking of others where as OH only thinks of him self i think ill av to learn to go with it lol x