How can you tell if it's a chemical?

[megsmeadow]

Oh twixi, I hope this is just another blip, it sounds like you've really been through the mill this week! Everything crossed for you! xx

 

[Jojo84]

I wish you luck! Remember its bit always bad news. My mum bled through her first successful pregnancy and my brother is fine - he's an idiot, but he's fine.

Wishing you luck!

 

[Angelone]

Twixi those line really do look strong my chemicals the lines were never that strong and slowly faded iv by Fx for u that today has good news xx

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[twixi]

Thankyou girls I have lost all hope though. If its gone I hope it doesn't drag out too long so I can start again. This is causing so much tension at home, hubby doesn't deal with these things very well, I don't either I suppose but if he was more supportive I think it would be far easier. Did you have any problems like this? Xxx

 

[naomi88]

I am so sorry hun. I really hope your gut feeling is wrong and that everything is ok, but if not I hope It happens quickly so you don't have to wait.
I think lots of people can end up having a bit of tension in their relationship. Men often don't know what to say/do to make things better, as they are used to being able to solve issues, and women have a habit of pushing men away and getting frustrated when it feels like they don't understand. The best thing is to try and communicate more. Also, if you are able to plan a holiday or weekend away then that would be great too, to give you both some time away together.
Hope things go ok. Thinking of you. Xxx

 

[Angelone]

My husband was exactly the same wudnt talk about it and was totally devastated we've had a mc and 2 chemicals in the last four months so we've taken a break from ttc as we were arguing all the flippin time x

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[sozzy]

Thinking of you.. Xx

 

[twixi]

Oh no I'm sorry to hear that angel one that must be so difficult. Are you having any tests done?
I don't know what to do it seems like he is being very insensitive and I need to pretend I'm ok and it makes for a horrid atmosphere. I have two children already maybe I should give up.
I can feel myself getting very down with all this how do you keep positive?
I know some ladies have it ten times worse, I really don't know how they do it xxx

 

[flisstebbs]

I'm really sorry twixi, recurrent mc is soul destroying.

Your oh's reaction sounds very normal. In the end, we worked out that we couldn't talk to each other about how this was making us feel as we'd never try again, and there are all sorts of guilt issues (I felt guilty i couldn't carry his baby, and he felt guilty for putting me through it over and over). Both of us got separate counselling and it really helped.

The other thing that helped us both loads was to stop changing any plans, short or long term for "what ifs", we figured that cancelling stuff (even losing a bit of cash having to do so in some cases) was preferable as we would only be doing so if we had our "keeper".

 

[vic30]

Twixi, fingers crossed that everything is ok. This might not help but my friend is due in October and she bled early and has been bleeding for the last 2 months and all is ok with her little girl to be.

I know It's early but It's not always bad.

Xx

 

[Angelone]

Aww Twixi it's such a roller coaster I Hav children already but it doesn't make it any easier I think we've been so stressed Wi it all as it's never happened before I had m holden pretty easily with no problems so the mc are a real shock bug om older know too.. We think maybe stopping the testing etc and just having sex when we want to sleep then if it happens it happens ya no j hope this will b the answer to it x

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[twixi]

Thankyou fliss for your reply. I know mine would never go for counselling so I think I need to do my crying/ worrying in private from now on. He gets very angry and I get sadder.
Thankyou too vic and and angel, it's certainly a challenge for the emotions. When we started trying I was very laid back but as soon as the mc happened iv become obsessed.
I went for my appt this avo and guess what the doctor hadn't made one! So iv to call epu on Monday and start the process again!
I got home and decided to do my last digi for a clue, I used very strong pee and I got the shock of my life when 3+ appeared!!!! I'm 17dpo!
I'm still bleeding tho so don't know what to think now! Eleven days brown and fresh bleeding! I'm nearly tearing my hair out! This is my strangest pregnancy yet! Xxx

 

[vic30]

Wow 3+ that sounds good! Well I hope It's a sign that all is going to be well. Rubbish with the docs tho...tut tut. Good luck with the epu xx

 

[Browneyed Girl]

3+ means that your hcg is 2000+ which is good for 17dpo. Sorry you're going through this, hope that EPU can give you some reassurance xx

 

[twixi]

Thankyou yeah I thought it was a bit odd getting sent to out of hours for a blood test! I have a teeny bit of hope today, what a roller coaster! Xxx

 

[jonesy87]

Just had a quick read, my sister had this recently and it turned out she was pregnant with twins but unfortunately lost one which is why she had a period like bleed, she's just turned 13 weeks Nd other bby is doing well, hopefully u get some answers soon xx

 

[twixi]

Thanks jonesy glad to hear your sister is ok, there's so many variations in pregnancy, all so very different xx

 

[Mommyto3]

Just to let you knoe that the twins thing may be true. This happened to me, I had a positive test then bleeding and still positive test. When I got to my scan I was pregnant with twins and lost only one. It is possible. There were two sacks and one baby. X

 

[Lilmisshopeful]

I can also confirm the twins thing. I was on my way for a d&c after a mc when a doc asked to see my scan. They hadn't done one cos how much I was bleeding. When they did 2 sacks 1 baby who is now a healthy 18 year old. Fx everything is ok xxx

 

[twixi]

Thankyou girls for sharing your experiences, and everyone for listening to me, what will be will be I suppose.
Feeling very down in the dumps today, need to be thankful for what I have xxx