How can a doctor make u feel so rubbish?!

[midnightrose25]

I went to the dr today, as i found out i was pregnant on weds. Ok so only 4 weeks and 3 days but even still... 2 p tests confirmed it. The dr told me basically i was far too early for him to do anything. He said to me that my spotting might have been my period still and that basically i might still lose pregnancy and to come back when i'm furthur gone? i felt awful, on my damn birthday as well so i went to chemist and got a CB digital which said PREGNANT 2-3. I was left so disheartened by the dr who also told me that my chemical miscarriage in dec was a load of rubbish and they don't exsist. He then proceeded to give me a contraception leaflet even though he knows me and my partner were TRYING to conceive!! i'm so peed off and will NOT be going back to him thats for sure! Yes ok so i might still lose my baby but why did he have to remind me of that?!! He was asking me if i felt pregnant and stuff yet still said i might not be?!! i'm not impressed xx

 

[FebMum2Be]

Oh my god, that is the worst thing I have ever heard a doctor say! He is supposed to be there to advise and reassure you.. Yes, it is early days, but that gives him no right to put more bloody worry on your shoulders.. And to be so rude about your previous mc What a twat.. I would make a formal complaint.. The beginning of a pregnancy is a very emotional time, and even more so for you now Arghh my blood is actually boiling.. How dare he speak to you that way I would make another appointment with another doctor to air your views and get the time and advice that you should have got off him.. Big hugs xxxx

 

[midnightrose25]

Thankyou sweetheart, i'm glad you're still awake lol i been sitting here going out of my mind! I walked out of there thinking how rude he was! i'm going to ring the dr tomorrow and see if i can see the lady doctor next week. I pray to god that this pregnancy is ok and that nothing bad happens. Really don't wanna lose my baby xxxx

 

[Sam's Mum]

I can't believe any doctor could be so rude and unprofessional! I agree I'd make a formal complaint - that's awful

 

[vixxie77]

What a b*****d!!!! How dare he speak to you like that!! Who does he think he is, I thought my doc was bad, but mine was lovely compared to that. Definately make an official complaint to the local PCT (NHS)
Here's a link that may help http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1083.aspx?CategoryID=68&SubCategoryID=162
Definately make an appt to see another dr soon, hopefully it will make you feel much better, it did me x x

 

[frankie707]

OMG that's awful, my dad is a GP and he is the most compassionate person I know even with people who are wasting his time. He would be so so angry to hear that another doctor had acted like that towards you. I hope you can stay really positive about your pregnancy and that you get to see a nice lady doctor next week

 

[MrsR]

That's absolutely awful! What a knob! I have a big mouth and would of been straight to practice manager! How rude!!! I saw my gp just after I found out so by their calculations was 5 weeks preg and she was so lovely and understanding especially when I explained my history! Grr I'm so annoyed for you! Big hugs. Definatly formally complain, I think it's worth it! It was out of order for him to place so much worry on your shoulders when your so early in your pregnancy! Despicable!

 

[Leanne and Andy]

Oh Hunnie!!! Wot a complete and utter pillac Is there anyway you change your GP? I hate people like this...!!! Unimaginable t**t!!!! ((hugs)) You enjoy your pregnancy my love xxx

 

[Yodabo]

Omg that's awful!! I can't believe you were treated like that... Definately make a complaint! Are you ok now Hun?

 

[JJ Mum]

Shocking, def change the doctor straightaway for another, you shouldn't have to go through that, when your hormones are already all over the shop anyway!

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

C-O-M-P-L-A-I-N! Ask for a complaints leaflet at your surgery or ask to speak to the surgery manager. I dont have much time for doctors and hate it when they get away with stuff like this.

 

[skimpy]

I went to the dr today, as i found out i was pregnant on weds. Ok so only 4 weeks and 3 days but even still... 2 p tests confirmed it. The dr told me basically i was far too early for him to do anything. He said to me that my spotting might have been my period still and that basically i might still lose pregnancy and to come back when i'm furthur gone? i felt awful, on my damn birthday as well so i went to chemist and got a CB digital which said PREGNANT 2-3. I was left so disheartened by the dr who also told me that my chemical miscarriage in dec was a load of rubbish and they don't exsist. He then proceeded to give me a contraception leaflet even though he knows me and my partner were TRYING to conceive!! i'm so peed off and will NOT be going back to him thats for sure! Yes ok so i might still lose my baby but why did he have to remind me of that?!! He was asking me if i felt pregnant and stuff yet still said i might not be?!! i'm not impressed xx

sounds like my doc. My suggestion would be to write a letter of complaint to the practise manager. Fertility, pregnancy and everything associated with it has come a long way in recent years, and that kind of attitude you saw today belongs in the dark ages.

My doc was exactly the same with my first pregnancy, but doc this week couldnt have been nicer. I get to see MW next fri, at 6 weeks!!!

COMPLAIN honey, its not fair that they treat folk like that just coz they studied for their profession in 19 oatcake


P.S. did he take a urine sample? just in case of a wee infection, sometimes they got no symptoms but they can cause problems (like v.early miscarriage) if not treated. Maybe that is what went wrong in Dec?? Just a thought take care xXxXx

 

[Karina]

he shouldn't be a doctor, get him fired! doctors legally have to be understanding, even if i drug addict rocks up to them. that shouldn't be allowed, but in a formal complaint asap!! soooo sorry to hear that hun, chin up.

oh, and congratulations!!

 

[Princess81]

That's awful the way you've been treated and u should def complain. Big hugs and I'm sure you'll be fine this time round x

 

[Annie050408]

What an utter prat! Sorry you had to go through that hon- just ignore him and enjoy your pregnancy. xxx

 

[Rowesb]

that is dreadful hun, I hope u are able to complain about him....

 

[midnightrose25]

Aww thankyou all for the supportive, wonderful comments!!!! it is very hard when a doctor makes you feel so awful, and my partner rang the surgery today and complained, they've now given us an appointment with a different dr for monday at 1:10pm and they couldn't be more apologetic but i will STILL be writing a formal letter of complaint to the practice manager because if they believe they can talk to a woman of 26 like that, who already has two children, i dread to think how they'd treat a young teenager who fell pregnant and was scared enough as it is. I mean we were ttc so i know it's slightly different but it's still scary, mainly because of the risk of miscarrying but even still. God i was so cross!!! xx

 

[JJ Mum]

Welldone you Midnight Rose!!! I wonder how many people he had handled like that before and got away with it, well done for speaking out.

Hope your pregnancy is all still good and that your appointment goes well on monday

 

[midnightrose25]

Thanku sweetie i really hope he gets told off lmao!! and i am dreading the first appointment. what do i expect?x

 

[midnightrose25]

Oh and he didn't do a urine test, he basically said if i'm still "pregnant" by next week, then we'll do it!