How are all you new mummies doing?

[Natalilly1288]

Sorry kaedin but your oh is a complete knob can't ur parents have a word with him I no violence don't solve anything but if pete treated me like that my dad would kill him xxx I really feel for you if me n pete ever split there would only be one person going n it wouldn't be me! Xxxx

 

[T84]

Kaedin have you been to see about benefits too? Surely you would be entitled to some sort of help now. I'm sure she will be fine with the sleeping arrangements just keep some familiarity like her sleeping bag as toria said. Tell him to go to asda and he will get proper sheets for a fiver!! I can't even imagine what your going through

 

[Kaedin]

My dad would love to kick his head in, but my dads very ill so really unable to - and I don't want that drama coming from my side. Once Hayley is older she'll know I done everything with her best interests at heart, whereas her dad was just a complete arse about it all.

I've requested a form for child tax and working tax credits, not sure if im entitled to anymore benefits? I'm really unsure about benefits and things I'm going to apply for child support allowance as he hasn't given me a penny, and said he wouldnt be able to buy her a new bed for 2 months so doesnt seem like he will be giving me anything (despite posting on facebook he's saved £200 on his car insurance...)

His mum had the nerve to text me earlier asking how Hayley was...as she was slagging me off behind my back and calling me a bad mum im ignoring the text. I don't need to talk to her and pretend to be pals. She can get tae.

 

[Natalilly1288]

It's just awful Hun are u living with your parents ATM? I believe on karma he will get what's coming to him! U just keep ur head held high I really feel for you but u sound like an amazing mummy and are just focusing on Hayley xxxxx

 

[Kaedin]

Yeah I moved back with my mum and dad, in my old room I used to share with my big brother. Theres still bunk beds in here, which is weird lol. My my brothers partner has been amazing, she has a 9 year old daughter from another man to my brother. She said the other day to my mum that its hard (break up) but she's lucky as she now has my brother and our whoel family.

 

[Toria111]

I'm not sure how the benefits system works, but im sure there are emergency payments available in situations like yours. Also contact the CSA. He has to pay to support Hayley while shes with you. There's actually a child support calculator on their website. So if you know how much he earns you just put it in along with how many days approx Hayley is with you and it will work out how much he has to give you.

 

[Pumpkin9]

Think I must be insane, just spent the last 2 1/2 hours sorting through all if my kitchen cupboards and cleaning. Just to make room in one cupboard for Thomas's stuff.

Kaedin- don't know what to say honey. I really hope he gets the kick up the arse he deserves and you get everything sorted. The girls seem to have covered a lot with some great suggestions.

 

[Jojo84]

I was up at 5,5:30,6,6:30,7,7:30 and 8 this morning! Luke keeps moving sideways and crying because he bangs his head.

I'm at my mums waiting for builders to put boards on the loft and on he. Way I saw a 2nd hand jumperoo ok for £25 in a shop window that I'm going to get later I think

 

[Pumpkin9]

I'm waiting for the jumperoo I ordered to arrive today. Thomas has started to bear weight on his legs of his own accord when you hold him up so think he's going to love it

 

[Mummybexee]

Back from hospital as hubby returned to work after doing his back in - and he's fecked it up again

That's him off sick .... To make it worse... We can't pay bills on stat sick and stat mat

Outcomes credit cards and think house is going to go up for sale - we need to pay our debt off once and for all

 

[hayes]

Jojo that sounds a bargain hun, Harry loves his so much don't know wat I wud do without it now!

I'm sorry to gear that Bexs Sat sick pay is so crap remember that from last yrs mornin sickness n mat pay isn't much better, hope hubby is ok.

Michelle.x

 

[Jojo84]

Bex that's awful! What's his job if you don't mind me asking? Sounds like a horrible situation for you.

I got the bouncer and it's not a bouncer lol it's an activity saucer but you can take the bottom off so hey can stand on the floor instead of the platform thing but them you can put the platform on and looks like it will last a long time. I put him in it but he's too grumpy to tolerate today I think - it's boiling hot and he's having a bad teething day so I'll try him in it another day. If he hates it I think I could awl it on for £20 and just lose a tenner on it

 

[T84]

Aw no way Bex - what a stress!! Selling your house sounds like your at your last option

 

[Mummybexee]

It's not looking good! Signed off for another 2 weeks - but doc thinks 4+ weeks rest

His job is 2 man delivery - so he did his back lifting a solid oak chest of drawers up a spiral staircase

X-Ray showed his discs are ok but he's has bad siatica etc

Jojo Oscar hated his jumperoo to begin with - short bursts when he's in a good mood helped him get used to it

 

[Pumpkin9]

Someone's enjoying their ball pool!!

 

[tinks77]

Bex - is it Oscar that's on the anti reflux formula? How much of a difference does it make?

 

[Toria111]

Bex, if it's his job that's done the damage, shouldn't they still have to pay him?

 

[Toria111]

Kathryn, such a cool pic! He looks really tall there!

 

[Pumpkin9]

Small pool I think!!

Bex, hope hubby gets better soon. Just what you need when your on stay mat pay

 

[mrssmith2011]

bless you bex siatica is horrible i have suffered from it from being about 22. I hope yous get sorted. Xxx