hormones and emotions after emergency c section

[Zal88]

I haven't done my birth story yet but I had an emergency section on Wednesday and I've been really emotional and cried a few times, I didnt sleep for the first 48 hours but I've managed to sleep since home yesterday. I'm just really worried I feel this way and just wondering if it's normal? I'm breast feeding. I was just really looking forward to a natural delivery and feeling my baby come out of me and obviously that wasnt the case I'm just worried and feel guilty for feeling this way

 

[tiaflame]

I felt the same way for quite some time, infact it was for weeks! I've only recently got over it and he's 16 weeks now. I felt cheated and guilty that I'd had to have an emergency section and I felt like I couldn't say I'd given birth to my son as actually he was removed from me! It's a very weird and horrible feeling, but I think it's normal tbh. When I watch OBEM I still feel jealous that I didn't do it naturally.
Big hugs, you will get there. Pm me if you want to chat about it xxx

 

[babymother]

I'd say your emotions are totally normal. You've had a shock! Things didn't go as you would have liked which is so hard when we have babies. I still have resentment towards the hospital and myself 9 yrs on from my first birth.
Don't hide how you feel, get those feelings out, please don't bottle it up. Sometimes it does help to talk to someone other than family, friends, who validate our feelings without judging or the dreaded ' yo.uve got a healthy baby, what's the issue' comment.

Just get through each day, and your body is g oing through huge hormonal changes at the moment. Things will settle down, I'm sure.
Go easy on yourself xxx

And it's brill your Breastfeeding!!!

 

[Squeakz]

i had g 2.5 weeks ago and for the first 6/7 says i cried continually. i mean non stop. everyone in the ward kept asking if i was ok etc etc i was a mess... my lb was im scbu as well so was all crazy but my emotions were shot.....in fact i even cried yesterdaym.....nomparticular reason i jist cried....... keep an eye on it and if you worry speak to your hv etc bt id say quite normal so far....xx

 

[Zal88]

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit better today probably because my cutie slept through the night and woke up for feeds every 3 hours I'm so proud as he's only 5 days old, I just hope it's not because of his jaundice but he is feeding and dirtying his nappies fine.

The other thing I noticed last night was I get upset every time I think about my stay at the hospital when I was on my own the night shift nurses/midwives were horrible at one point I was pushed and pulled around the bed in pain while she was changing my dressing and they told me I couldn't call them every time I needed help with my baby, I feel this made my experience so much worse, I'm a first time mum didn't know what I was doing just gone through a traumatic experience and they just made it 100 times worse I was crying the whole time in hospital. The daytime staff were lovely though I can't fault them. But every time I remember the situation and the way I had my baby I feel hurt, sad, confused just a bunch of things, then I look at him and forget it all till the next time.

 

[Squeakz]

you can speak tonpeople about your time in hospital. we have a hea of maternitt woman we can discuss everythinf wiht. alternatively id make a whopping complaint. thats not nice and if you have had a section you need help sorting thrm out.......xx

 

[Les1504]

Aww I felt exactly the same as you, although I didn't have a c section, my birth was traumatic and I ended up having a ventouse delivery which resulted in me feeling like a failure for being unable to get him out! I still cry about it now and have low days and there are days when I can't even find the energy to get dressed! As Squeakz mentioned, you can request a birth debrief in which they will answer your questions and help you to understand why it didn't go as you expected and it sounds like they have answers to provide over your level of care! I had mine back in November and it helped me immensely! Hope you feel much better soon and congratulations x

 

[babyem]

I felt the same, not so much that I missed out on a natural birth but because I felt so guilty that I coild hold LO until after I was back on the delivery suite. I chose not too as I was so shaky but regretted it ever since. I asked OH to let me kiss her, but he thought id told him to kiss her so I was sad about not getting too. I was no way angry with OH but so much so with myself its takeb me a long time to realise that I did the right thing by putting LOs health first- just like the decision to have a section xx

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