HG and NVP thread

[steffy]

Haha at this ^ - but yes very unfair some people appear to breeze through it. I can totally relate to you Kanga, I am struggling to look after Abi and just sit on the sofa in my PJ's barely having the energy to interact with her! Also feel like I've been letting her down a bit on the food front as just giving her quick lunches followed by fruit as cant stand to cook anything. She is still going to nursery on tues and Fridays (my normal working days) and I look forward to these days! Makes me feel awful, but then I know she will have a better time there than with me Don't doubt yourself, nobody can describe this feeling and you are doing your best! That's all anyone can do and Harry is lucky to have a mummy like you! xx

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Aw wow struggle to read it all you ladies have been busy tonight lol
I did shopping online this week, bliss with the guy bringing in all my stuff into the kitchen

Keep trying I too thought that reaching the middle of pregnancy that would be it? But no, have been on the ice lollies all evening, could not go to sleep, the amount of saliva in my mouth is awful (sorry tmi)... Grrrrr

I am dreading going to work this weekend, I literally could barely walk after last shift, traumatic as I was on my feet constantly, I hope your shift isn't too bad tomorrow jemfox!

Kanga lovely scan pic and bonus to be put forward too ... I hate woman that look great , I haven't washed my hair today or put any make up, I am sure I am the talk of the school as I always looked after myself now I am simply too ill to really care which does nothing for the way I feel overall !

Steffy hi, I am taking the guilty trip of motherhood too at the moment, since being pregnant I am barely energetic enough to get up in the morning and get them to school enough, never mind doing fun things. However, unlike before week 14, I can now cook a bit better ... A little planning on Sunday for the ingredients and then home delivery for Monday morning... I can't face the shops and when I am there I grab half a dozen of stuff that costs me like £100 and run away , I get home and have nothing to cook lol so online shopping at least I can drop and come back to it later if I feel sick so it has been working better!

Hey ho high hopes for tomorrow for all of us

Xxx

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Keeptrying I am so glad your GP is being supportive, it so nice to feel like someone care, só sorry you are feeling stressed out about the anti D, but hopefully you And GP can have a proper meaningful discussion about it.

I remember a long time ago when I was in my 1st year as a student midwife and my very first assignment was an essay about the support given by a midwife to a woman with sickness in pregnancy... This relationship is so paramount and I keep remembering that essay and how important it is to feel listened to! So glad your GP is there for you
Xxxx

 

[keeptrying14]

Hey girls how is everyone today ?x xx

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Much better day than yday hun thanks ! Think it has to do with the fact DH let me sleep in and got kids ready and off to school so was a nice and slow start of the day for me how are you and Howz everyone else? Xxx

 

[steffy]

I've had an ok day. Wasn't great this morning and sat in my dressing gown and pjs! Had my friends coming over so had a shower and they arrived about 1.30. One friend came with his 16 week old baby as his wife was poorly and then my daughters godmother came over a bit later. They know each other anyway so it was nice as we all had a chat. They haven't long gone and I am exhausted but feeling good for socialising. Hope everyone else has had a good day xx

 

[kanga86]

I'm still feeling rough today also getting more stressed out about returning to work, sick note runs out in 2 days DH and my work are keen for me to start back but I'm not so sure. I have no idea how I'm going to get through an 8 hour shift from 10pm-6am and still try to look after harry during the day with only limited help from mil or dh depending if its a weekend or week day. Feel so though everyone just expects me to be better now and do as I was, even my mummy friends don't get it I was on the phone to my aunt earlier and in 50mins on the phone there was no mention of my pregnancy at all now I know her mum just passed away and she has been so busy sorting everything ourt but she still had time to talk about my dad and sister, feel rather alone at the mo. No one is interested in me or the baby and maybe im being selfish but a bit of attention or mention of it wouldn't hurt. Maybe I'm just extra sensitive at the mo about it all, just don't know what I am doing to myself xx

 

[kanga86]

I'm still in my dressing gown and pj's steffy, but glad you had a good afternoon.

Good to hear you had a nice lie in this morning mummy midwife, I think sleep and taking your time to get up really helps keep the sicky feelings down xx

 

[jemfox]

Hiya ladies.

Sorry kanga and steady ur still feeling bad.
I know what u mean kanga, sometimes a Lil bit of sympathy and a "how are you?" goes a long way! Do u have to go back to work? 10pm-6am is a a long time!

So today was my 3rd full day at work and a busy one, I was off 18 weeks and have gone back to non stop full blown duties, Today has literally killed me. As soon as I got in my car I took my shoes off and Omg I'm the Michelin man, swelling up to my Knees! Husband found it hilarious along with being sympathetic.

My eyes stinging and I have not to pleasant bags under them! My sister in law has also just nominated me on facebook for that cancer awareness where I need to post a no makeup selfie......yep cheers for that! B*tch!

Xx

 

[kanga86]

I really feel for you hun, it must be so hard being back at work and being thrown straight back into full time and full duties.

I'm not sure about work think I would have a huge fight with DH if I have more time off. Plus I don't know how forgiving my work would be either as been off for longer than I have actually worked there. Not sure I'm in the right mind to go back though, so maybe a chat to a doctor would help. Would it be stupid to talk them them about antenatal depression so early on? Or am I just being stupid and there is nothing wrong xx

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Hey girls
Kanga I am so sorry you are not feeling great today, sounds like you need to think carefully about going back as I know others are expecting you to, but only you can really say with all honesty if you can go back or not. I have had so many lows during this pregnancy, and that's with full support from DH, that I wouldn't be surprised if I have some sort of pre natal depression; so I think a chat to the GP would be a good call? I too feel I wanted more sympathy from people :/

I have been back working from 1900 to 8:30 and OMG I feel like I am going to go into labour by the end of the shift, last one I had no breaks and every woman in town decided to give birth and I came home to a sick little boy off school... I wanted to collapse in bed and sleep to my hearts content but had to look after Aaron... So hun please take your time to go back to work if you need to.

Jemfox, I know totally how you feel after a shift although I am not as far gone as you, it's horrid, it really is and the hospital is always so busy and so hot ! I hope you have a few days off to recover before you have to go back !
I am working Sat and Sun 0800 til 20:30 and I know I will be dead by Sunday night lol

Xxxx

 

[keeptrying14]

Hey Steffy good to hear u got to meet up with friends it always gives u a lift. Kanga I'm so sorry ur are feeling pants. I can't imagine going thro this without full support of dh. I think I would have gotten really depressed. For the first 15 weeks all I wanted was cuddles and support. Like I said I went to gp yesterday and as soon as I sat down I burst into tears. He was sooo lovely didn't judged me and he came across as tho he really understood. He kept saying it must be torture going thro hg and for the first time it was like someone understood. He said he was reluctant to give me anything for my mood as he thinks it has just been brought on by sickness but wants to see me every 2 weeks. I think u need to really think about whether it is right for u to go bk. physically and mentally challenging to do full day at work when u feel awful. But do speak to ur gp. Jemfox sorry it's hard on u, when do u start maternity? Mummymidwife I don't know how u watch people give birth every day! Does it not scare u?! Xxx

 

[kanga86]

Omg mummy midwife, I have no idea how your doing 12+hour shifts and then looking after your boy too! In fact Thisbe shifts sound awful, makes an 8hour shift seem easy lol once I'm done doing my phased return I will be on 3 night shifts in a row which is scary to think about, without thinking about just doing 1 shift next week.

I just worry because it's 9pm now and if I was working I would be in in an hour and I feel like absolute rubbish, not had any dinner for the second night running as I just can't stomach anything, plus I know I won't be able to cope stood up at a till serving customers without passing out. It's just so hard because I know hubby won't agree to more time off xx

 

[Mummy_midwife]

No it doesn't scare me it just continues to amaze me every single time, women are just bloody wonderful !!!! X

 

[Mummy_midwife]

Omg mummy midwife, I have no idea how your doing 12+hour shifts and then looking after your boy too! In fact Thisbe shifts sound awful, makes an 8hour shift seem easy lol once I'm done doing my phased return I will be on 3 night shifts in a row which is scary to think about, without thinking about just doing 1 shift next week.

I just worry because it's 9pm now and if I was working I would be in in an hour and I feel like absolute rubbish, not had any dinner for the second night running as I just can't stomach anything, plus I know I won't be able to cope stood up at a till serving customers without passing out. It's just so hard because I know hubby won't agree to more time off xx

Aw kanga an 8 hr night shift is bad enough... By then I am ready to go home! You really are in a tricky situation ... So wish your OH would support you in having a bit longer off if you are not ready to go back yet!!!! Very tricky indeed but I hope you come to a good solution and mb manage to get a bit to eat before bed ? Just had a green apple and that went down well
X

 

[kanga86]

I think I need to talk to a doctor about how I'm feeling and see what they say, they might suggest more time off and the hubby won't be able to do anything. Not sure how to even bring it up with hubby as he has been very distant lately with working so much and then I feel guilty that he has to work harder because I'm not, why can't this be easy xx

 

[jemfox]

Howcomes ur oh being difficult about you being off work kanga? Maybe doing one shift and struggling will prove to him u can't! when I tried to go back at 17 weeks I collapsed so please don't push urself.

I know what you mean about working in a hospital mummymidwife, I really struggled with the smells on the wards Today, and there's also a outbreak of swine flu at the hospital so not good!
I start maternity leave at 36 weeks so I've got to try and make it through another 10 weeks, hoping I can do it!

Have anyone else thought about their mat leave ur yet?

Xx

 

[keeptrying14]

I think if u go to ur gp the decision will be made for u. I don't think if u have been signed off by ur gp ur dh can say anything to that. Remember u need to look after urself right now and really tell ur hubby that's how it's going to be for a while xxx

 

[keeptrying14]

Jemfox I don't know how ur working in a hospital too with all those smells it's got such a distinctive smell! I am thinking of going off end of June so il be around 34 weeks I'm still only part time now so I don't think il be back full time until after baby! How's ur sickness now? Xx

 

[kanga86]

Howcomes ur oh being difficult about you being off work kanga? Maybe doing one shift and struggling will prove to him u can't! when I tried to go back at 17 weeks I collapsed so please don't push urself.

Have anyone else thought about their mat leave ur yet?

Xx

He is only being awkward because of money as far as I know, I should be earning £150-160pw but only on ssp getting £87ish pw. Which isn't a major issue in my eyes as my old job I did up until xmas I was on £90pw so not much different to ssp, plus I wasn't at my new job long enough to feel the benefit of earning more yet anyway.

Its not like we have to buy much baby stuff either as we have it all already from harry. He just has very strong work views and only takes time off if he is really ill and thinks I should be able to work through this too. xx