Hi all, Just writing out of desperation really. My son is 3 1/2, from day one i've struggled with him. I got baby blues that turned into PND. He hasn't ever been easy. He had bad colic and refused sleep until I sleep trained him at 9 months. Weaning went badly and he still refuses to eat his main meals. Potty training, you guessed it, it went badly. It has honestly been battle after battle after battle. His sister turned up on the scene a year ago when he was 2 1/2 and he has never been nice to her... like ever. I had brushed it off as a phase to start with with but he continues to be horrid. Just now he bit her and he was not antagonised at all by her - she was sitting in her buggy quietly whilst I put the shopping away and then huge tears and my son looming over her and my daughter with bite marks on her fingers. I just worry mentally about both my son and myself. The PND meant I never got that connection to start with - i thought it was fine and I love him, wouldn't want harm done to him. He's smart, clever and has a sense of humour. When his sister arrived I just bonded immediately and realised what I missed between my son and I. She hasn't given me any of the trouble he has (yet), she sleeps and eats and loves her brother to bits regardless of the punches she receives. I don't know, I don't want to favour one over the other but my son is really pushing my limits and my patience and I don't know what to do or how to cope anymore. Every day I wake up and hope it'll be different that i'll handle situations better (I won't lie, I do shout sometimes), that he'll suddenly realise that what he does to his sister is wrong, and that it's good to poo in the loo and eat his dinner. I don't know what i'm asking, just venting and worried that i'm not doing right by son I had called my HV first but they have finished for the weekend now and then we go on holiday next week so wanted advice ASAP. Cheers.