Help! In a state of shock.

[janey63]

I have just taken a pregnancy test - it's positive, BUT I'm 47 !! OMG, what am I going to do. Have been with my partner for 2 years and due to get married in next few months. He has said he doesn't think he can be a dad again, I have 5 grown up children. I was on the mini pill. Am waiting for my Dr to call me back.
This is all very new as only known for 2 hours, although since I conceived a couple of weeks ago had felt different. It's 16 yrs since my last pregnancy.. just don't know what to do.
Jane

 

[Mamafy]

Oh my word hun Welcome to the Forum hun

Well how do you feel? I had a little surprise myself a few months ago ( I'm 37) and you could have blew me down like a feather

Do you know how far along you are? xx

 

[flexilexi394]

Hello! well in whatever you decide, this forum is great and will support you no matter what (well i will) and im sure youll decide the right thing for you. i guess you have lots of things to weigh up! good luck and hope your ok. xxx

 

[Rowesb]

no advice, other than take time with decisions I guess

welcome to PF, we are generally a good bunch to offload to

 

[Princess81]

Hi Jane
People can still be parents at your age, no worries my nan had her last (also 6th) at 48. She loved it because she didn't have the hassle of all the other children being young and she thought she had more patience too.
You and your partner just need to do what's best for you guys from here. Good luck and I hope your decision is the right one for you both and your circumstances xx

 

[amyjayne77]

Oh wow, what a surprise for you.

Whatever you decide this is a great place to be with lots of lovely people xx

 

[janey63]

thanks for the quick replies, I'm very tearful at the moment, not surprisingly I guess. I am just 5 days late, so about 4 weeks at moment. Guess I just thought I was too old to get pregnant naturally, but then must have always been very fertile to have had 5 children.. my Dr has just called back and is seeing me first thing in the morning.. now I can't even have a glass of wine to help with the shock either..

 

[lrb]

Take your time between the two of you, this is amazing news! Good luck with what you decide x

 

[Princess81]

Aw, I hope your dr helps you by taking you through everything you need to know at this stage (tho with 5 already you prob know more than most). Is o/h going with you? For support and to ask his own questions? We are all here if you need to let off steam xx

 

[flexilexi394]

yeah just come on here to moan/cry/laugh, I do!! im sure your doc will be very informative, and i guess you could call it a blessing! x

 

[janey63]

I think I've wanted my partners baby for some time, had upset me lots when I'd seen him holding his baby nephew last year, knowing that we'd never be able to have our own. I think his initial worry is for me, as obviously there are lots of risks at my age, then whether the baby would be ok or not, I told him that I do not think I could abort a baby if all the tests showed it should be ok. At the moment we haven't spoken face to face about it, it's been on msn and a phone call when I told him the result of the test. He is going to come home a bit early. It's good to have you here to speak to about it as difficult to speak to friends yet.

 

[flexilexi394]

well i fully agree with you, i think if the tests come back ok, maybe you could give it a shot? like you said, you havent got children together, maybe this could be the one?? ahh hope all goes well and just come one here later if it upsets you and youll soon be comforted by all the fab people on her exxx

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

You have come to the right place for support - wishing you all the best

 

[janey63]

Thank you all for your support, it's helping a lot x

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

Oh wow! I bet that was like the last thing you expected! everyone on here might be a tad crackers, but were also good at listening too good luck with the doctrs tomorrow!

 

[Heulyn]

Gosh! That must have been a shock!
Hopefully this will be a blessing in disguise for you and your OH

And we're here if you need us [we're all barmy, though!]

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hey Jane welcome to the forum!

Wow congratulations although I can understand you being a little stunned at the moment!!!

Im 38 and pregnant with my second baby and my daughter is also 16 so same gap as you!
Us older mothers still have it in us!!!
I hope you get the help and support you need form your OH and your GP and dont worry...you will always get support, advice and a friendly ear here on the forum!

Good luck and I look forward to hearing your journey whatever you decide xx

 

[Laura_C]

Wow hunni what a surprise for you?! Good luck with whatever you decide, but like the girls say this forum is a wonderful support network xxx

IMO I think the fact that you have been able to get pregnant naturally still indicates your body is obviously capable of pregnancy, as you haven't needed any help to do so. Obviously, there may be more risks at this age but I think our bodies know what they are doing and maybe this is meant to be?!

There will be lots to consider, but hopefully you have a supportive doctor who is able to go through all these things with you so you make make the decision thats right for you xxx

 

[Countrybumpkin]

Welcome to board.
What a shock things must have been for you. I think you both just need time and talk things through.
This board is great, support and full of useful information.

 

[LouiseB]

Hiya Janey

Congratultions!

You'll get your head on stright in no time and i'm sure whatever happens that it'll all turn out for the best in the end.

All the best xx