Help! In a state of shock.

[janey63]

I saw my Dr yesterday, he didn't seem horrified,or worried about my age, he tried to get me an urgent scan (i'm going to Greece on Sunday and had had a stinging pain in my side -originally I feared appendix- which is what made my o/h suggest I do a pregnancy test in first place in case ectopic) But the gynaecologist he spoke to didn't think there was any need to scan yet, just wait and see, the pain had stopped anyway.
So now back to the huge confusion about it all, at least with going on holiday on Sunday it'll give us 2 weeks away to think it all through. Here I was, just divorced, and getting brochures of 2 seater sports cars to spend some of my settlement on.. now wondering if I have to go back to looking for people carriers.. again..
Can't sleep at moment, was happy today to wake for first time at 5am, yesterday I'd woken every hour.
I did the 2nd pregnancy test this morning too, just to make sure I hadn't imagined the last few days..

 

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[mopmum4X]

I've got no advice hun but good luck!! x

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Well at least you and you partner have some time to get used to the idea nad make a decision on what you both want to do now!

Its not the end of the world having a baby at your age and if its waht you decided to do then Im sure you will love being a mam again.....

Good luck in whatever you do decided tho and you will be supported here no matter what your decision is.


Enjoy your hols xxx

 

[buns&ovens]

Hi Janey,
Just want to quickly pass on some thoughts for you.
If you have a holiday coming up then its the perfect time to consider all your options.
Only you and your o/h can make the right choices, its all about taking the time you need to get there.

Getting over the shock

Chris Salvage, midwife sister and motherandbaby expert, had an unplanned pregnancy two months after her second child was born. ‘Before you can rationalise anything in these circumstances, you need to recover from the shock, which can take time – it took me about two weeks,’ she says.
For women who thought they were unable to conceive, the news is often very welcome. However, th
e shock factor can arise when your baby is born. ‘You and your partner may have escalated out of all proportion what your baby can do for you and your relationship,’ she says.

Found this little article for you. It sums up my point.
take your time, be completely honest with yourself. This is ultimately your choice, your bun your oven! xx

 

[janey63]

Thanks for that Buns.. makes sense..
We've had some very distressing conversations, but, my o/h is now telling me he has been thinking about names.. and I told him that we'll have to swap sides in bed as I won't be able to fit through the gap at the bottom of the bed!!
So now I just have to stop being paranoid about any aches and pains I get and just wait, with fingers crossed.
x

 

[buns&ovens]

You will be completely fine.

It sounds like you have a very caring and supportive o/h there.

Sometimes life can feel like an episode of some soap, but things always work out and no matter what choice you make... in a years time you will look back and know your decision was right for you xxx

 

[Princess81]

Well if he's talking about names that's a positive sign that he's on board with it and thinking to the future eh? x Hope the aches and pains just turn out to be stretching for baba x

 

[Geminiblue]

Hi Janey welcome to pf. I am 37 am trying for my 2nd. My brother is 14! My dad and my step mum are "older parents" he is perfectly healthy they are all very happy and we all get on very very well. I chat to my brother on Skype and I wouldnt be without him for the world. The decision is yours but you are in shock, gve it time before any decisions are made the decision i purely yours and your partners nobody elses big hug xxx