Help...I need another ladies opinion...

[juliaharwood]

I am looking for somebody elses opinion, think I am going insane!! not really..
Anyway let me give the short version of the story, About 4 months ago when I was 8 weeks pregnant, I was at work (In a golf club, Im the caterer) I was working this day and was serving food, about 15 people in pub sitting. My Husbands best friend was sitting drinking, anyway at some point he approached me and lifted his hand to my face, saying he was going to "punch my lights out" he told me he hated me, and that he doesnt know what my OH sees in me. Called me a Fat Ugly F***ing Cow, and totally went of on one, apparently because he is mad that I am taking his best friend away from him(might I add that this man is 41)

Anyway I told OH what had happened and he promised he would not hang around with him anymore. ( I kind of expected more of a reaction than that!! but big jessie

Well on Friday night I found the two of them have been going out drinking together almost every weekend as though nothing has happened,
OH said he had said sorry to him, but he has never said sorry to me, not ever.

Do you guys think I am right to still be mad, OH keeps trying to manipulate me and I think my pregnancy hormones are making me question my anger,
Im 26 weeks preggers now, having a wee boy...cant wait x

 

[Kat@girlracer]

Hell yeah I would be livid! I would at least expect the spineless twat to apologise for saying such horrible things to you whilst you were 8 weeks pregnant!

Men never fall out for long - but I would nag my o/h to get my point across and get a result!

 

[Emma22]

id be fuming too! how dare he! if he still expects the company of your OH then he should bloody well appologise immediately, even then i dont think id forgive him.

 

[Lyndsey]

ooo I would not be happy with that!

1 - Your hubby has not been truthful with you about where he has been going.... in my book thats not on

2 - He has acted as if your feelings in this are not as important as is firendship with this other man and in fact he has placed this other man as more of a priority in his life than you!!!!

I would be going mad! Not sure what can be done though as your hubby has made his choice and it seems to me like he isn't bothered about your feelings either way!

If I was in your situation I would try and talk to hubby and tell him that its not on the way you were threatened and you feel as if you are not valued etc.... especially as you are now having a baby you need to spend more time togehter etc....

good Luck Hun!

 

[amy]

OMG your oh half should have gone mad, maybe give his friend a bit of his own medicine!!!!!! think you should get all the girlies on this forum together and give him what for!!!! i hate bullies and thats what he is. make a stand!!!!! ooooo my hormones are up and down today.. bless you though, tough situation, id talked to your oh again and explain that your still very angry and upset. good luck. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[juliaharwood]

Thanks for the support ladies, thats the same way as i feel, he is a lot older than me (im 27 hes 41) you think he would realise that he was in the wrong and say sorry or at least stay away from me,

These pregnancy hormones are murder...over the last few days Im up and down and OH doesnt help, I wish men could feel what we feel for an afternoon and see how they cope

 

[trixipaws]

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

i would be in SUCH A MOOD with my o.h.!

and i would hav been incensed by his "best mate"'s behaviour!

i'm annoyed 4 u! sorry they've been so mean

 

[missac]

I think that is disgusting for a man to say that to their "friends" missus! Not on at all, and your oh was very wrong to lie about where he has been! Make him suffer!!!!! I would be milking this one for all it is worth!

 

[sarah113]

id be really angry too

 

[Salad]

Hello

I've just read through this thread, and am so sorry that you went though such a horrible experience.

What this friend of your husbands said to you was completely out of order and I would say that you are due an apology for sure. Also, in an ideal world, from your husband, for not seeming to understand how completely wrong this man's behaviour was - absolotely regardless of hormones.

I guess that loads of us can probably sympathise by having experienced peoples' occasional obliviousness to the hurt that is caused by their (or their friends'!) behaviour.

Sorry again - I hope that you are not wondering whether you are somehow to blame for being upset/angry - I would certainly be, and I imagine that most people would.

Other halves, eh: can't live with them.......

 

[weestar21]

hey hun sorry your OH being a bit of a twat at the mo.
His firend had no right doing that and saying that to you, hes needing to get a grip!

Im in scotland too, wher abouts are you?
anytime you need a chat just pm me anytime
xxxxxxx

 

[TipsyDipsy]

You OH needs to realise where his priorities lie.
He has never even made his mate apologize to you so that shows a lack of respect for you that borders on his friends.
He might be 41 but it seems as if he's still trying to be 'one of the boys'.
Tell your husband that the only way this thing will ever be worked out is if he FORCES his friend to eat humble pie and apologize to the right person.