Hello! Any Mamas of 2 now thinking of a 3rd?

[Lynds77]

Not been on here in ages but had a nosey last night and see some of the "old crew" are still about

It got me thinking, as quite a few of us had 2 babies close together, is anyone now planning a 3rd?

I am so broody. I really want to be pregnant again and have all that excitement and labour. And the newborn phase. But after that I am not sure.

Freya still doesn't sleep through so sleep is at a premium here. She is pretty full on. Cora is just a dream baby though

I think I know we won't have a 3rd. Coping with this two is hard enough and a 3rd means a big people carrier car (my children will be in rearfacing seats till at least 4) and then of course holidays are a bigger hassle with the odd number. 2 is a nice number of children I think

But, the thought of never going through pregnancy and labour again makes me SO sad!
(I am already 38 so don't have time to wait a few years and see how we feel then)

Anyone else as bonkers as me?

 

[J_Anne]

Yep. I've got a 2 year old and a 7 month old (born 16 weeks early so effectively a newborn). We always wanted 4 but since my son was so early, we had 18 weeks in neonatal it's been far from plain sailing so it's put hubby off. I still and always will feel completely robbed of my pregnancy, birth and even recovery that I don't think I could ever be at peace if I didn't do it again.

I'd obviously be terrified but there was no reason for his prematurity so I don't know if there's an increased chance of it happening again. I want to wait until my daughter starts school then have another. Like you say, the practicalities of it are off putting, but I don't think I could ever not follow my heart.

 

[Nutsyputs]

My dd is only 9 weeks old and people keep asking if we are done now as we have son as well so have the 'set' but I'm not sure im finished having babies yet but at the same time I'm not sure I want to do it all again (didn't have the best deliveries). But I really can't imagine not being pregnant again. I'm 30 so have a bit more time on my hand. I'm not sure I'll ever decide! Why is it soo hard!

 

[russellmuscle]

Go for it Lynds you know you want tooooo!

I think 3 is a good number tbh. It depends whats good for everyone else, I think Id be happy to stop at 3. 4 being a handful and 2 being a bit quiet.... but then, I have 2 brothers..


xxxx

 

[Rooster30]

My first was a horror baby and resulted in me having PND. I always wanted two but after having my son I wasn't so sure. I stuck to the plan simply because i didn't want him to be without a brother or sister. I got pregnant and it was every bit as horrid as the first pregnancy and then some. But then, my daughter arrived and I adore her and enjoy her so so much that she even makes me think I'd love a third. But it won't happen and I'm okay with that. I'm just sad that I won't get newborn days again.

Need to go now as my son has just woken my daughter after she just settled... Fun times! I'll stick with two!

 

[TS1982]

Hi all, I've 2 boys, my first was born by emergency c section 7 weeks early weighing 2 lb 14 due to severe pre eclampsia he was in nicu for 3 weeks, he's now 3 ft talk and doing brilliantly, my second pregnancy was nothing like my first it was all smooth sailing and he arrived 6 days early, my waters went naturally but when I got to labour ward they seen meconium in my waters so decided it would be safer to section me again, much more relaxed experience and recovery so much quicker. I'd love another, so far nothing has put me off my OH isn't just as keen but has agreed to ntnp and see what happens xx good luck with whatever you decide hun but I'm all for 3 :-D xx

 

[Lynds77]

I don't particularly want another child. I am more than happy with my 2 girls. I just want to be pregnant and go through labour and try breastfeeding again. So I am being purely selfish.

Would love to wait till oldest is 5 and in school and youngest is 3 and going to nursery but I will be 40 then. Feel old enough now!

 

[Goat]

Hi Lynds! I feel the same even though I find pregnancy stressful however were going to ttc next summer for number 3 so there will be a 2.5 year gap between 2 & 3 if all goes to plan. After that I am done!xx

 

[Goat]

P.s how are your beautiful girls?

 

[Mrs M]

We have just started ttc no 3. dd is 5 and ds 3.

 

[hellywelly]

After feeling sick as a dog and finding it hard to function for 8 weeks now, I can categorically say that this baby (number 2) will definitely be my last!!! I've only ever wanted two, so am quite happy whatever I get.

 

[JD.Deedee]

I don't particularly want another child. I am more than happy with my 2 girls. I just want to be pregnant and go through labour and try breastfeeding again. So I am being purely selfish.

Would love to wait till oldest is 5 and in school and youngest is 3 and going to nursery but I will be 40 then. Feel old enough now!

Ha, I was chatting to my nan the other day saying how I don't want another one and she said to me she always regrets not having another at 39 because my grandad didn't want another child but my nanna was like that wouldn't have stopped me! and she's said this a couple times now since I had my son and I would rather have a large age gap between two if I would have another child but then again I wouldn't want it too late for the fact that I might like to travel when my son is grown up so my nan's really like oh if I was 39 again I would've had another baby! (That would've been a third babba too!) So don't let your age stop you, especially if you'd want a three year gap you now have some time and just see if this is how you still feel when the time comes! I don't think it's selfish either, it's a natural women instinctive!

 

[littlemonkey]

After having my second baby I felt quite sad about never being pregnant again. I felt like it was all over and done with so quickly by having my babies close together. It was only around this time three years ago we found out about my eldest. I do still have mixed emotions about not having a daughter and not experiencing a natural birth. But those feelings aren't enough to make me want another.

I'm 35 now and my periods haven't come back yet 12 weeks after having my youngest, so I am thinking my clock is running out regardless. I found my second pregnancy hard enough with a toddler to look after, never mind two kids! Then there was my high BP that put me in the hospital a week before I had him and bell's palsy just before I had him. That has also put me off. Another baby would also mean a bigger car and bigger house! The practicalities of two young children is also harder than I imagined, although I do love it.

My parents planned on having three kids. Their third baby turned out to be twins! If I ever let the idea of three cross my mind, I always remember this!

 

[Goat]

Lol littlemonkey, I've always wanted 4 kids but I don't think I could go through a 4th pregnancy so if twins came along next, it would be as perfect as it would be hideous!

 

[CARNAT22]

Good lord, no more for us!! It would have to be the immaculate conception anyway tee hee.

In all seriousness though we're done. We don't have the space or the finances and childcare is already going to be a struggle.

I'm lucky in that I've had wonderful pregnancies, had a really good labour with Bee and have managed to ebf her to date so I don't have that feeling of "missing" out If that makes sense?

James was our 'good' baby though. Bee is hard bloody work.... she doesn't sleep, she still won't take anything other than boob, I couldn't put her down for the first 3 months and now we've started weaning it appears she has some kind of cow's milk issue (she reacts to cows milk and at 6 months she is still weeny). If she had been the first then who knows if there would have been a second lol.

I still feel incredibly sad at times though. I cried packing up her 0-3m stuff and every milestone is a little bittersweet as I'm never going to experience the majesty of that paticular 'first' again.

X

 

[littlemonkey]

Lol littlemonkey, I've always wanted 4 kids but I don't think I could go through a 4th pregnancy so if twins came along next, it would be as perfect as it would be hideous!

Hahaha! I'm not sure if it was because of it being her third or twins, but my mum always says being pregnant with my sisters was the hardest one. My parents have both admitted having fourth was flipping hard and they would have stopped after three if they'd had twins when they're had me.

 

[mrs v]

Are you f#$king mad woman!!! �� �� �� ��

 

[Dotty_woman]

I'd have another tomorrow! My eldest two are so much older than Violet, she's going to be the only one here in a few years. I'm not allowed any more although I've asked!! Perhaps I was pushing it having her at 42! x

 

[Bexybun]

Hey, just thought I'd put in my two penny's worth as someone who is doing it- I have an 8 year old girl, a 3 year old girl and am almost 39 weeks with my third girl After our second we were dead sure we weren't going to have any more, but at the end of last year OH actually made the suggestion we try again, mainly because "we might get a boy" (yeah that worked lol!) I was concerned about the same things as you, but at the end of the day the idea of having a newborn again was just too tempting And I'm sure we'll be fine- you just adapt don't you? I say go for it

Oh and thanks by the way, one week to go and now I've got another name to add to my list- Cora is beautiful

 

[KellyC89]

My second is only 7 weeks pregnant and I'm broody for another! I do want a big family though and it's always been in my head we will have at least 4 if we can afford. I'll probably wait til next summer to try for our 3rd meaning my oldest will be 2 1/2 when trying and my youngest will be 1!