Had a miscarriage today :( :(

[fran.sudeep]

For me the waiting just made things even worse - I literally had to out my life on hold for almost a month. Even getting out of bed some days was a struggle.

Alas my body did what it needed to do in the end and for that I am thankful.

I am not the same person and now 3 losses down the line I am booked into see a specialist but do you know what sweetie I am fine.

You will be too but give yourself some time and allow yourself to grieve properly.

We're all here for you

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I'm glad you are fine.

Do you have any children?

I have also had 3 losses.

Thanks

 

[fran.sudeep]

yeah the waiting is the worst, i waitied a week after my scan to lose baby and it was like someone had took my whole life away, i woul;dnt wish for anyone to go thru it big hugs hun and hugs to anyone who has been through this

This place really seems to help, the people are very nice and supportive

 

[CARNAT22]

I'm glad you are fine.

Do you have any children?

I have also had 3 losses.

Thanks

Wow - sorry to hear that you too have had to go through this 3 times! Are you going to recurrent miscarraige clinic? I got my referral and have an appointment on 6th Jan.

No kids for me (yet!!) - what about yourself?

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[fran.sudeep]

They haven't mentioned anything about that to me yet. My GP said to me this morning we could start trying again whenever we feel ready.

I have a 8 year old daughter called Jessica.

I really hope you have a blessing soon ((hugs))

 

[CARNAT22]

They haven't mentioned anything about that to me yet. My GP said to me this morning we could start trying again whenever we feel ready.

I have a 8 year old daughter called Jessica.

I really hope you have a blessing soon ((hugs))

I would def chase this up with your Dr - 3 losses and you can be referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic for investigation. Hopefully they can spot any issues and treat this to prevent futher losses.

You know you can carry to term and have a healthy baby so I hope that does give you a little comfort at this crappy time my dear?

I still have hope that one day I will have a baby of my own. Even during the darkest moments I still have belief.

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[fran.sudeep]

I would def chase this up with your Dr - 3 losses and you can be referred to recurrent miscarriage clinic for investigation. Hopefully they can spot any issues and treat this to prevent futher losses.

You know you can carry to term and have a healthy baby so I hope that does give you a little comfort at this crappy time my dear?

I still have hope that one day I will have a baby of my own. Even during the darkest moments I still have belief.

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I think they more reluctant as i have a child like you said i know i can carry to full term.

I do believe you will have your little baby soon

 

[CARNAT22]

I think they more reluctant as i have a child like you said i know i can carry to full term.

I do believe you will have your little baby soon

3 losses is 3 losses and regardless of you already having a child I think if you push they will refer you.

This is something for the future and of course at the moment you just need to get through this tough time! You can do all th Dr's stuff when you feel more up to it.

Some ladies here have been referred after two losses, and my GP had no hesitation to refer me. I went in thinking I'd have to fight to get my referral (2nd M/c was not on my medical file as it happened over a weekend and I couldn't get to the GP's for blood test etc..) but my GP was amazing and referred me there and then and she also had bucket loads of sympathy!

It's worth a try when you feel a bit better?

Of course you can try again and hopefully 4th time round works out.. Personally I don't think I could handle loss # 4 BUT it's your call hun. I am purely going on how I feel.

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[fran.sudeep]

3 losses is 3 losses and regardless of you already having a child I think if you push they will refer you.

This is something for the future and of course at the moment you just need to get through this tough time! You can do all th Dr's stuff when you feel more up to it.

Some ladies here have been referred after two losses, and my GP had no hesitation to refer me. I went in thinking I'd have to fight to get my referral (2nd M/c was not on my medical file as it happened over a weekend and I couldn't get to the GP's for blood test etc..) but my GP was amazing and referred me there and then and she also had bucket loads of sympathy!

It's worth a try when you feel a bit better?

Of course you can try again and hopefully 4th time round works out.. Personally I don't think I could handle loss # 4 BUT it's your call hun. I am purely going on how I feel.

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Tbh i don't know where my strength is coming from, last year i wasn't well at all with my mind and i was diagnosed with bipolar. I thought maybe this would trigger all the emotions again but surprisingly not

We are defo going to try again, i believe it will happen when the time is right.

And Jessica is craving a brother/sister.

My brothers gf is having a baby girl on Thursday by c section, i'm a bit nervous to what my emotions will be when i see her.

 

[CARNAT22]

Tbh i don't know where my strength is coming from, last year i wasn't well at all with my mind and i was diagnosed with bipolar. I thought maybe this would trigger all the emotions again but surprisingly not

We are defo going to try again, i believe it will happen when the time is right.

And Jessica is craving a brother/sister.

My brothers gf is having a baby girl on Thursday by c section, i'm a bit nervous to what my emotions will be when i see her.

Sometimes we only find out how strong we are when pushed to the limit hey?

I am glad this hasn't kicked off your bi-polar but do keep an eye on it (one of my best friends is bi-polar)

My nephew was just 3 weeks old when I miscarried, I was worried about how I would feel being around him but it was actualy very theraputic?? Losing my baby didn't change how much I adore all of my nephews

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[fran.sudeep]

Yeh i know what you mean, i'm actually quite excited about seeing my new little niece tomorrow

I'm feeling stronger day by day, but i don't get why i'm not crying? i'm a very emotional person and the only person i have cried to so far is my OH, normally i would cry to everyone who spoke to me about it but i am being strangely very strong :S

 

[EllieC]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you at this really hard time. The girls are right, this site has been a God send to me and is such a goo place to get advice and just to have a rant!!! Take care of yourself xxx

 

[fran.sudeep]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you at this really hard time. The girls are right, this site has been a God send to me and is such a goo place to get advice and just to have a rant!!! Take care of yourself xxx

Thank you, i agree it's good to get it off your chest in here.