Frustrated &Sad

[NPW2020]

Been TTC for about 5 months now, and had a longer cycle than usual last month due to stress but I was convinced I was pregnant until the test said I wasnt. I was already feeling down, then found out my sister is pregnant and she has been trying for less time than I have. I know I should be happy for her but I just feel sad and frustrated. She was very negative about pregnancy leading up to this and doesnt seem grateful or excited for the blessing. How do I let go of these feelings? None of my friends are in the same place as I am and I dont feel comfortable sharing with anyone but my Hubby...only so much he can say. Any advice? First post ever. Happy to be here to find support and people to talk to.

Thanks
Niki

 

[chattychar1990]

Niki there is nothing you you can do to stop that feeling unfortunately.
We have all been there in this journey where people close to us have fallen pregnant before you but timing is everything and it will eventually happen for you and when it does you will feel so much more grateful and blessed.
Don’t give up because 5 months really isn’t a long time. It can take an average of a year for a healthy couple to fall pregnant. Good luck x

 

[Aprilxxx]

Hi Niki,

Sorry you are finding ttc so upsetting. Firstly, everyone here understands the journey and how emotional it is.
I know how you feel my Sister in law accidently got pregnant and I couldn’t look at her for awhile!!
Ttc can take upto a year so your only at the beginning - are you using any methods to help?

Xx

 

[Maximus17]

Been TTC for about 5 months now, and had a longer cycle than usual last month due to stress but I was convinced I was pregnant until the test said I wasnt. I was already feeling down, then found out my sister is pregnant and she has been trying for less time than I have. I know I should be happy for her but I just feel sad and frustrated. She was very negative about pregnancy leading up to this and doesnt seem grateful or excited for the blessing. How do I let go of these feelings? None of my friends are in the same place as I am and I dont feel comfortable sharing with anyone but my Hubby...only so much he can say. Any advice? First post ever. Happy to be here to find support and people to talk to.

Thanks
Niki

hey Nikki
so sorry to hear you are finding this difficult and it actually is. we tried for 1.5 years and got pregnant twice only to lose it, but now I got my surprise BFP. It actually happens when you least expect it and my advice would be to try to find other things to take your mind of it. Not forget it but for example book something that you always wanted to do, and just keep doing that for a while and it will happen for you x

 

[Sunflower1]

I've been through that too. My advice would be to feel the feelings. They are completely natural. If you can find something to distract yourself once in a while. 5 months is not long, maybe try to stay positive and do nice things for yourself.

 

[LuckyLaura]

First of all welcome to the forum It's a fantastic place for support and to connect with ladies who understand and are going through the exact same thing.

Unfortunately most ladies on here have had to deal with those horrible sad frustrated and angry feelings you get when you hear pregnancy announcements or see someone get pregnant by accident or seemingly with no great enthusiasm/ understanding of how lucky they are. I, along with others, wish there was a magic fix for this however the only advice I can give personally is to feel your feelings, don't bottle them, don't ignore them, don't swallow them down. Have a good session where you feel them then pick yourself up and get back on the ttc horse!

Your time will come, 5 months feels a lifetime but in reality, as others have already said before me, healthy couples on average take up to 1 year before falling pregnant as there are just so many factors involved..so much that can influence things, timing, stress, hormones, illness etc. You can do all the research in the world, time everything perfectly and at the end of the day it all comes down to the chance that everything lines up at the perfect moment. Don't give up hope, it will happen to you when the time is right and you will be ever so much more grateful and appreciative of your little bundle

I hope you find this forum as great a source of support and comfort as I have in the past and that you are feeling better already since writing this post xxx

 

[Vintageling]

Ttc takes alot out if you but hang in there 6 months is normal to conceive with a healthy couple who have no fertility issues and even up to the year mark is normal. Just try and baby dance round ovulation and just accept your emotions cry when you need to cry it's normal to find it hard