Flabbergasted!

[T84]

Anyone watching This Morning? Kate Winslet apparently thinks her 2 divorces have helped her children as it teaches them
how to struggle. Coming from a twice broken home and having very definite struggles certainly did not help me and I don't ever want S to feel 'struggle' in any form as a child. Obviously every circumstance is different and divorce definately does not always mean animosity and hardship, but I will do everything in my power to ensure S has the sheltered childhood she deserves.

 

[CARNAT22]

Not watching but what a stupid thing to think, let alone to voice publicly.

Yes divorce happens and yes sometimes it can be very amicable BUT for the most part it's still a huge change / upheval / emotionally daunting experience for all those closely involved. ... mainly the kiddies.

This is being said as someone who has no first hand experience though (my folks are 37 years married)

Who the fcuk wants their kids to struggle? What nonsense.

X

 

[Durhamchance]

I'm not watching (baby Jake is on CBeebies ) but I don't believe it's good for children to have that struggle. My parents separated when I was 19 and divorced soon afterwards and I still took it very hard at that age.

That being said I don't believe parents should stay together for the sake of the children. Life is too short to stay unhappy and the children will get over it.

 

[T84]

My thoughts exactly! I feel so strong that S will never feel anything other than loved and protected and safe. Plenty time as an adult to struggle.

Hope you and your gorgeous Wee family are well Nat x

 

[Mum2Many]

Sounds like something someone who struggles with guilt and feelings of sadness would say. I mean, if I had to divorce than maybe I would say things to try and convince myself (and maybe others) that it was a good thing. I know I did that when I was told I couldn't have any more children. I became very vocal about the fact I didn't even want any more children - it wasn't true, but I guess I did it to protect myself? Who knows!

Personally I think divorce is very damaging to children. I know I struggled and was damaged by the experience as a child. But then, I guess it's not healthy for anyone to stay in a bad marriage either, so I guess there's no winning situation in those cases.

 

[CARNAT22]

My OH actually watched the segment of TM and we've just been discussing it.

Of course people shouldn't stay in a unhappy relationship for the sake of the kids but people should ideally be more certain about their partner and relationship before they have kids?

I know nothing in life is guaranteed but that's how I feel.

Granted a person can end up having a few long lasting marriages and kids from those but Kate Winslet's marriages were in quite quick succession?

X

 

[CARNAT22]

Ps thank you T84. Adjusting to being a foursome but its all going well.

X

 

[T84]

That's what I thought mum2many, it reeked a bit of someone who felt guilty and wanted to justify it in some way to herself.

I defo believe divorce isn't always a bad thing but certainly not 'helpful' there's ways and means of doing it to protect children.

Aw glad your well nat x

 

[Staceylou27]

It's been crazy tv today!! I turned Lorraine on and there's a man cupping his balls!
Then on this morning there talking about bondage toys!!? I was wondering what was going on today! I didn't hear them talk about divorce being good but heard they were discussing it. I don't agree that it will help them learn about struggling.

 

[H16]

She probably gave a silly answer as she is embarrassed by the situation TBH. No-one in their right mind would actually think having multiple divorces is good for children to experience. I agree that staying in a bad relationship is just as damaging as getting divorced though. Unfortunately sometimes you think you really know someone and then you grow apart and they change completely. I was with my ex for 12 years and never expected to split up in a million years but sadly we did. That is life sometimes. You fight to stay together but you also have to know when it really needs to end for your own sanity and health x

 

[JD.Deedee]

Kate W. is rich and famous. It's not like she's your neighbour next door.. It's not like the kiddies will struggle because the costs of going through the courts is risking losing their roof over their house or having to compromise on other factors in their life and the fighting and bitterness between parents (which usually is down to the huge price tag too it). I really very much doubt her kids will now have a shitty childhood.

 

[H16]

Kate W. is rich and famous. It's not like she's your neighbour next door.. It's not like the kiddies will struggle because the costs of going through the courts is risking losing their roof over their house or having to compromise on other factors in their life and the fighting and bitterness between parents (which usually is down to the huge price tag too it). I really very much doubt her kids will now have a shitty childhood.

Yeah I suppose when you put it in that context she just meant their life is really good etc and clearly they have no struggles that normal people face so it is the only bit of hardship they have experienced and might teach them life isn't always perfect. I hadn't really thought about it like that until now x