Feeling very hormonal & DH is not helping.

[l_maclean]

All I want to do is cry.

DH came in from work and decided he was changing the tv channel despite the fact i was obviously watching something - although i was sewing at the same time. - was also in an active chat on fb - so he was told - in what i think was a polite way that he could have the laptop when i was done.

He changed the channel when my programme was finished, which was fine, but when i asked if he could put something decent on he decided i was being a complete bitch and had been like a bear with a sore head since he came in.

Now im not pretending to be completely innocent - but does he have to keep telling me im being a bitch every time i open my mouth - now maybe I am a bit but obviously being pregnant im allowed to be hormonal how does having this rammed down my throat what feels like every 5minutes supposed to make things any better.

Anyways - he's now in bed watching TV - getting annoyed cos im clattering about tidying up (yes im making extra noise on purpose), we've so far had no dinner cos he's not even speaking to me, appart from the odd growl.

All I wanna do is run away and cry.

sorry for rant - i just feel shit.

xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

Bi hugs Hun! Men just don't get it

 

[hugsy]

Aw hope you ok hun, your defo not being unreasnoble men just dont get it , im sure he doenst mean to be so hurtfull they can just be so stupid but not talking to him will only leave you more upset so maybe just as what hed like for dinner in a nice happy friendly way and hopefully if he as any sense he will be nice back and the whole thing will be forgotten, And if he is horrible to you go get your self dinner anyway cos ya need ur food hunnie

 

[l_maclean]

Thanks girls - just ordered myself a HUGE pizza, garlic bread and potatoe wedges. I know im not gonna be able to eat all of it. But right now I dont care.

I know I really should go speak to him - but im in a bit of a stubborn mood tonight - and think why the bloody hell should I.

xxx

 

[hugsy]

Good for you hun, hope he can smell it from the bedroom hehehe

I can be very stuborn too but sometimes its easier to be the one to try make piece even when it should be him just to take the stress of being upset over it away but its easier to say than do hopefully the yummy pizza will cheer you up and you have a better day tmrw

 

[Lilmoomin]

Hugs hun, I know how you feel, but I guess I am lucky as Ash welcomed me with open arms when I flooded in to tears. Let him simmer for awhile!! X x x

Oh and enjoy your pizza!!! I haven't had pizza for ages!! Think that may go on tomorrows menu

 

[star fish]

We have occasional rows extremely similar to the one you just mentioned! Its where nothing has really happened but one of you a bit moody and the other one not in a mood to handle it. Then it escalates in to a major row. Ours usually end up with me going to bed and crying and him watching tv til late. Which makes things far worse! Forget the thing about not going to bed on an argument, my theory is never get up on an argument. Its so much easier to make it up in bed the next morning, you can both cuddle and say sorry, but if one of you is stubborn and gets up then the cuddle moment is gone. Thats my only advice, possibly not very helpful! x

 

[l_maclean]

Star - that sounds exactly like what happened. - i'll even admit i was prob the one being moody. I just wish he'd be a bit more understanding with everything thats going on.
xxxx

 

[BevG]

i hope you make up, he should understand your hormonal and not call you names. i do however think its a bit mean to be taking over the laptop and tv at the same time, id have not cared and let him have tv or laptop, neither is worth the fuss lol.

 

[l_maclean]

Yeah - i know that was kinda pushing it a bit bev - and normally i wouldnt do it - it's on or the other - but neither of us gets both. lol

The bit that annoyed me was that i had been listening to Glee - so musical tv-lol - which had all of 10mins left to run, and was in the middle of a conversation on fb chat. But more to the point he had just walked in the door - and didnt ask about either - he went to lift the laptop off arm of the sofa without asking if i was using it ( obviously it was open. lol) But ive said this to him i dunno how many times recently - that it bugs me that he thinks he can walk straight in from work and just invade what ever im in the middle of doing.

Needless to say the hormones probably werent helping this - so im aware i prob was more of a bitch that i normally woulda been.

xxx

 

[BevG]

lol yeah, id put it down to fault on both sides. i cant stay mad at my OH and he dosent get mad at me so we dont really argue luckily, i hate arguments and would apologise just to get out of it cos im a wimp

 

[l_maclean]

Oh totally - im not daft enought to blame it totally on him. at least not this time.

Im too stubborn to apologise just to get out of it. In fact - its a lot for me to apologise even when i know im completely wrong lol. I can be quite an arguementative person if im in that kinda mood.

My friends laugh at us - cos i dont often spend a friday night in the house - he's not so bad now that he has a new job - but when DH was at his old one and really stressing out, it was like he struggled to keep his calm all week at work - so when he came home on a friday night everything got let loose - and i never have the sense not to argue back. It's usually safer all round if i go out - let him de-stress on his own, then we have a lovely weekend together.

He's now been down the stairs so we are speaking again - neither of us actually admiting we were wrong - although he did seem a bit peeved that i went out for pizza and didnt bother to ask him if he wanted tea - being stubborn again. ooops.

never mind - we're ok now.

xxx