Froslass
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I feel so hurt and lonely right now Just need to write down how i feel, I hope you guys don't mind x
At the moment OH and I are living apart until we get the house sorted, and I'm finding it really difficult. OH is working for my dad during the week, 9-5 and part time at the weekend, so working 6 days a week, saturday off. I have told him on many occasions how much i appreciate him working really hard, although I'm starting to worry we won't get a place in time.
Anyway, I've been feeling really depressed recently, really struggling to adapt to living at home again..without OH..I hate that the baby kicks, and he isn't here to feel it. I'm not clingy or anything, and have always been quite independent, but recently I have just felt like I really need him to be here for me. I am desperate, literally, for just some us time - there has been literally no cuddles, or kisses, or even sex for ages. I know that these physical things aren't the backbone of a relationship, but I feel so detached from him just now and I really miss "us".
So tonight my parents asked my if we would babysit, (OH and I) as I have 4 younger siblings. I was really looking forward, and I mean really REALLY looking forward to spending time together. I told OH this, he knew how I've been feeling - and he told me he couldn't wait either..
Mum went out and left the kitche and livingroom in a bit of a mess..so after making tea for the kids i got them into bed with a movie and they normally watch it and then go to sleep. I had made steak pie and there were quite a few dishes to clean, on top of the dishes that were already there. I went into the livingroom to find OH sitting with his Ps3 (he had f****cking brought it with him) playing CALL OF DUTY.
This pissed me off slightly, but i knew i had to tidy up, so started tidying round him as he was sitting in the living room. He didn't offer to help me or anything I hoovered round him, washed the laminate flooring, cleaned all the tables and actually might have overdone it slightly cause now my back really hurts...
I then went into the kitchen..he had told he would help me witht he dishes...and he didn't. It took me nearly 2 hours to clean the whole place as it was a bomb site. The dishwasher was feckin broke so i washed and dried all the dishes (for a family of 7 they pile up so quickly..) and all the pots from lunch and dinner.
I was finished for a bout ten. Went out, and OH is still playing, nearly 3 hours later..
I went and got changed into my cosy PJ's and sat on the opposite couch, waiting for him to finish.
EXCEPT HE DIDNT
He played and played and played.. and I just SAT THERE, until my parents came in at midnight...
At one point before my parents came in, he came over to me whilst his bloody game was loading and said
"I know you were really looking forward to seeing me, and gave me a kiss, sorry we haven't seen much of eachother recently.." I said it's ok, thinking he was done, but he just went back to playing again cause it had loaded...
My dad then insisted he play zombies with him...I was about to erupt into tears at this point, so left the room and went up to my bedroom...
OH has only just, about 10 minutes ago, come into my room, said night night...and then left
I feel so unloved, rejected and unwanted..
I sit in the house all day, as I don't have anything to do. my finances are in a mess at the moment and I because I left my job voluntarily (to go back to college in january - but then fell pg so couldn't) so jobseekers wont pay my until i've been out or work for 26 weeks as i left volunatarily!! I can't find a job as i've been looking for ages, and now it's pretty obvious I'm pg and no one will hire me.
I have 0 income, relying on my parents (i hate it so much!!) so to feed me. Can't afford proper clothes that fit, feel like a big unattractive sack in the baggy ones that do..Can't afford to even start buying things for baby..I had some birthday money left, which I spent all on baby things..
I am so lonely, and on the verge of a meltdown.
I just feel so so so hurt
What makes it worse is that the few times OH and I have had alone, and tried to DTD, I just haven't been able to get into it - I felt like a total failure.....I'm really worried he just doesn't want to be with me anymore..If thats the case I wish he would just say.
I just want to cry and cry and cry. I am so pathetic
Sorry for the long rant Just had to type it all out...thanks everyone..
At the moment OH and I are living apart until we get the house sorted, and I'm finding it really difficult. OH is working for my dad during the week, 9-5 and part time at the weekend, so working 6 days a week, saturday off. I have told him on many occasions how much i appreciate him working really hard, although I'm starting to worry we won't get a place in time.
Anyway, I've been feeling really depressed recently, really struggling to adapt to living at home again..without OH..I hate that the baby kicks, and he isn't here to feel it. I'm not clingy or anything, and have always been quite independent, but recently I have just felt like I really need him to be here for me. I am desperate, literally, for just some us time - there has been literally no cuddles, or kisses, or even sex for ages. I know that these physical things aren't the backbone of a relationship, but I feel so detached from him just now and I really miss "us".
So tonight my parents asked my if we would babysit, (OH and I) as I have 4 younger siblings. I was really looking forward, and I mean really REALLY looking forward to spending time together. I told OH this, he knew how I've been feeling - and he told me he couldn't wait either..
Mum went out and left the kitche and livingroom in a bit of a mess..so after making tea for the kids i got them into bed with a movie and they normally watch it and then go to sleep. I had made steak pie and there were quite a few dishes to clean, on top of the dishes that were already there. I went into the livingroom to find OH sitting with his Ps3 (he had f****cking brought it with him) playing CALL OF DUTY.
This pissed me off slightly, but i knew i had to tidy up, so started tidying round him as he was sitting in the living room. He didn't offer to help me or anything I hoovered round him, washed the laminate flooring, cleaned all the tables and actually might have overdone it slightly cause now my back really hurts...
I then went into the kitchen..he had told he would help me witht he dishes...and he didn't. It took me nearly 2 hours to clean the whole place as it was a bomb site. The dishwasher was feckin broke so i washed and dried all the dishes (for a family of 7 they pile up so quickly..) and all the pots from lunch and dinner.
I was finished for a bout ten. Went out, and OH is still playing, nearly 3 hours later..
I went and got changed into my cosy PJ's and sat on the opposite couch, waiting for him to finish.
EXCEPT HE DIDNT
He played and played and played.. and I just SAT THERE, until my parents came in at midnight...
At one point before my parents came in, he came over to me whilst his bloody game was loading and said
"I know you were really looking forward to seeing me, and gave me a kiss, sorry we haven't seen much of eachother recently.." I said it's ok, thinking he was done, but he just went back to playing again cause it had loaded...
My dad then insisted he play zombies with him...I was about to erupt into tears at this point, so left the room and went up to my bedroom...
OH has only just, about 10 minutes ago, come into my room, said night night...and then left
I feel so unloved, rejected and unwanted..
I sit in the house all day, as I don't have anything to do. my finances are in a mess at the moment and I because I left my job voluntarily (to go back to college in january - but then fell pg so couldn't) so jobseekers wont pay my until i've been out or work for 26 weeks as i left volunatarily!! I can't find a job as i've been looking for ages, and now it's pretty obvious I'm pg and no one will hire me.
I have 0 income, relying on my parents (i hate it so much!!) so to feed me. Can't afford proper clothes that fit, feel like a big unattractive sack in the baggy ones that do..Can't afford to even start buying things for baby..I had some birthday money left, which I spent all on baby things..
I am so lonely, and on the verge of a meltdown.
I just feel so so so hurt
What makes it worse is that the few times OH and I have had alone, and tried to DTD, I just haven't been able to get into it - I felt like a total failure.....I'm really worried he just doesn't want to be with me anymore..If thats the case I wish he would just say.
I just want to cry and cry and cry. I am so pathetic
Sorry for the long rant Just had to type it all out...thanks everyone..