caseysmummy11
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I had my twin girls 10 days ago via emergency c section after going into labour at 33 weeks. One of my babies had unfortunately passed away around 24 hours before my labour started but we didn't know this until during the delivery. Whilst they were monitoring me during labour they struggled to find baby bs heart beat but thought they had found it just before I was rushed to theatre as my other twin was struggling during contractions. They did scan me but both babies we're cuddled so tightly together they struggled to get a good look at ones heart. They tried to resuscitate her for 18 mins but as she had been passed for a while they couldn't do anything. Baby a was born crying and didn't need any help but as she was under 34 weeks and 4lb they took her to neonatal. She's perfectly healthy but she has trouble feeding fully from either breast or bottle without tiring easily so she's also fed by tube to help her gain weight and we're slowly weaning her tube feeds down the bigger she gets. I named baby A lily and baby B zara. After delivery I spent 2 days with Zara and after getting her blessed and saying goodbye we sent her to the chapel of rest. I was very numb at first and in shock. I wanted to be happy that I still had one of my babies and don't get me wrong I am very happy to have lily. But the more days that go by the more my heart aches and the more I miss zara. Thet were Identical with the only difference being their weight and zara had slightly smaller legs. I think about her constantly and when I look at lily I see zara. I was always worried about her as she was always smaller than lily at most scans. She caught up a bit after id been given steroids but at the last scan her tummy growth had slowed right down. I was reassured that this could be normal after a growth spurt from steroids and my consultant wasn't concerned as she was still on her line for growth. I feel so guilty as it was my job to protect and look after her and I feel like I should have known something was wrong. im angry at myself for not knowing and angry at my consultant and midwife for not seeming bothered when I did raise any concerns. I just want her back so I can cuddle her like I can with lily. Today I just feels devastated and lost and finding no comfort in anything. Xxx