Feel like it will never happen

[Alexis2017]

We did a fb event for our house warming and today one of our friends wrote a post on the wall saying "you guys need to hurry up and make some babies for that big house". I mean what do you say back to that...everyone invited can see it...I am kinda mortified .

 

[millielaura]

We did a fb event for our house warming and today one of our friends wrote a post on the wall saying "you guys need to hurry up and make some babies for that big house". I mean what do you say back to that...everyone invited can see it...I am kinda mortified .

Urgh some people are so thoughtless

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[Pidgeridoo]

We did a fb event for our house warming and today one of our friends wrote a post on the wall saying "you guys need to hurry up and make some babies for that big house". I mean what do you say back to that...everyone invited can see it...I am kinda mortified .

People can be so insensitive! My OH and I have been together eleven years now and sometimes we will get asked why we haven't had a baby yet, like we never thought of doing it or something! lol I just wish that people could look at us and see how long we have been together, that we are married and bought a house together so obviously we have at least talked about having a baby! So either we are actively trying, decided the times not right or maybe even that we don't want kids at all, and no matter what decision we made it's nobodys business and that maybe their comments could be opening a can of worms! I personally wouldn't acknowledge the comment, when me and OH were on honeymoon we had someone comment on a picture of us in our hotel telling us to go make a baby and I just ignored it lol

 

[JaneyJan]

We did a fb event for our house warming and today one of our friends wrote a post on the wall saying "you guys need to hurry up and make some babies for that big house". I mean what do you say back to that...everyone invited can see it...I am kinda mortified .

Can you talk to them about it? I would be tempted to pull that friend aside, whether virtually or in person and just explain that it's not so straightforward and ask her to take a little more care with her words, or at least refrain from putting in on fb.. I'm sure they'd be mortified too and maybe it would make them be more sensitive in future. People just don't think sometimes.

 

[Alexis2017]

It was a male nurse work/friend I used to work with for a long time. He has a 4 yr old and a new baby...prob had no issues if he is going about posting that! I don't think I'd feel comfortable saying to him but maybe I should.

 

[JaneyJan]

It's difficult isn't it because usually they don't mean harm and they don't know they're coming across as insensitive. And then you wonder whether you're just over-reacting...

 

[Pidgeridoo]

Finally have an afternoon off that isn't Wednesday! This means I can finally go to my doctor (my doc closes at lunnch time on Wednesday's) to get the ball rolling for tests! Excited but nervous, I just hope it means a BFP isn't too far away!

 

[Nicky78]

Alexis, sorry you are having difficulty...I imagine they do a scan to check everything is the way it should be internally...fallopian tubes and check for cysts, etc. I had that done when I had irregular periods and it's pretty straightforward. Don't know what else... Good that your DH sperm is so good! I'm trying to get my DH to get his checked but he's not keen! Is he taking supplements? Good luck having the investigations...I hope they are helpful x

I had to fight to bet him to take zinc but he has probably talen it like for 2 weeks out of the last 8 months we have beem trying. He drinks far too much coffee but it doesn't seem to have had an effect on his sperm. I had to ask him for 3 weeks to hamd a sample in. I sorted all the appointment for him so he just had to produce the goods so to speak....men! They have 1 test...we have loads... I will call docs after this cycle is done incase we get lucky this month. Kinda tricky as we have mived areas so change in nhs trust sbut I havent told them as I habe mail re direction ar the mo and my current doc is near my work. I am now longer away from my work

Just jumping on your post - did your Drs run checks on you after a few months? Ours won't do anything until at least a full year of greying 🙈

 

[Alexis2017]

I told a lie amd said been trying 1 year when it had been about 5 months. They did hormone levels and checked DH sperm. I have since went back to be told they habe refered me for intertility clinic but wjll ne 1 year to be seen to get a scan of my ovaries etc and take it from there....it's a long road ahead so thats why I lied. We don't exactly have much time to wait 3 years for IVF as I am 34 at present time and I would like 2 children but I guess I will be very lucky to have 1 baby now.

 

[Pidgeridoo]

Think I'm going to miss this month I got my positive opk this morning with some cramps on my left side tonight, however OH is working nights starting at 7pm and I was home from work at 6.15pm leaving no time to dtd Do you guys think tomorrow morning will be too late? I'm hoping against hope I haven't missed my shot this month but I think it could be wishful thinking

 

[MoominGirl]

Alexis - people can be so insensitive. It's the part I find hardest to deal with over anything else as you know that people mean well. Also, as much as you'd probably like to set them straight, you hold back as that would mean telling them about the difficulties you're facing. I would just ignore the fb post tbh. Not worth the stress.

Pidgeridoo - I think things that seem obvious when you're having difficulty TTC just doesn't seem obvious to the rest of the world. Glad you can finally see your GP and get the ball rolling. I'm glad we did as it finally felt like we were taking control.

 

[MoominGirl]

I told a lie amd said been trying 1 year when it had been about 5 months. They did hormone levels and checked DH sperm. I have since went back to be told they habe refered me for intertility clinic but wjll ne 1 year to be seen to get a scan of my ovaries etc and take it from there....it's a long road ahead so thats why I lied. We don't exactly have much time to wait 3 years for IVF as I am 34 at present time and I would like 2 children but I guess I will be very lucky to have 1 baby now.

Just shows that telling a few fibs can be worth it when the wait is that long. Its a year TTC where I am but due to my previous prolactin issues my GP was happy to refer earlier. Glad I pushed as there were several issues with us.

 

[MoominGirl]

Think I'm going to miss this month I got my positive opk this morning with some cramps on my left side tonight, however OH is working nights starting at 7pm and I was home from work at 6.15pm leaving no time to dtd Do you guys think tomorrow morning will be too late? I'm hoping against hope I haven't missed my shot this month but I think it could be wishful thinking

You can only do your best and see what happens. It's not worth getting stressed when work etc is out of your control. Some ladies can ovulate and day or so after a positive OPK though.

 

[Pidgeridoo]

Think I'm going to miss this month I got my positive opk this morning with some cramps on my left side tonight, however OH is working nights starting at 7pm and I was home from work at 6.15pm leaving no time to dtd Do you guys think tomorrow morning will be too late? I'm hoping against hope I haven't missed my shot this month but I think it could be wishful thinking

You can only do your best and see what happens. It's not worth getting stressed when work etc is out of your control. Some ladies can ovulate and day or so after a positive OPK though.

Thanks I'm not normally this stressy about timing (or anything) really. Most people around me would say I'm pretty laid back, if only they knew about this ttc nightmare lol I think I'm trying too hard this month what with all the pregnancy announcements going on around me! Like my mindset the last few days has been if I could just get pregnant this month then all the growing bumps, pregnancy chat and "oh I bet you will be next comments" won't bother me I just hope I get an appointment for the doctor next Tuesday because when I put my logical head on I can pretty much say that the chances of a natural conception without any medical intervention at this point are very slim for OH and I, no matter how we time dtd lol

 

[MoominGirl]

Think I'm going to miss this month I got my positive opk this morning with some cramps on my left side tonight, however OH is working nights starting at 7pm and I was home from work at 6.15pm leaving no time to dtd Do you guys think tomorrow morning will be too late? I'm hoping against hope I haven't missed my shot this month but I think it could be wishful thinking

You can only do your best and see what happens. It's not worth getting stressed when work etc is out of your control. Some ladies can ovulate and day or so after a positive OPK though.

Thanks I'm not normally this stressy about timing (or anything) really. Most people around me would say I'm pretty laid back, if only they knew about this ttc nightmare lol I think I'm trying too hard this month what with all the pregnancy announcements going on around me! Like my mindset the last few days has been if I could just get pregnant this month then all the growing bumps, pregnancy chat and "oh I bet you will be next comments" won't bother me I just hope I get an appointment for the doctor next Tuesday because when I put my logical head on I can pretty much say that the chances of a natural conception without any medical intervention at this point are very slim for OH and I, no matter how we time dtd lol

I'm the same. Most things don't faze me really but I have been known to have a complete meltdown with this TTC business lol! I've got a very logical head most of the time and it's definitely useful if you're unlucky enough to come across any difficulties along the way. Lots of ladies (including me) have really had to fight their corner at certain points. Hope you get an appointment.

 

[liz85]

Half way through yet another cycle.. trying to stay positive!